Ashman Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 (edited) I 've been married for 4 years and I still can't get over the fact that before we got married my wife cheated on me. My son was 6months old and my wife and I had been together for 5 years We split up for 3 months and got back together. We'd been back together for 3 weeks and then she cheated on me. I don't know if getting back together with here after the fact was a smart Idea but now I'm married to her . I have good days and bad days but, It drives me nuts that she was with another man. I know now that it would never happen again and I jusst can't get over It what am I suppose to do just forget about it? My wife thinks that me seeing a naked woman on a movie is the same as her sleeping with another man (What the fuaslkdfalsdf) Has anyone ever gotten over a cheating spouse? Edited November 5, 2010 by Ashman More to add
Bryanp Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 She cheated on you while you were together and put your health at risk for STD's and betrayed your trust. Her statement that you watching a naked woman on a movie is the same as sleeping with a lover like she did is insulting and blameshifting. It is clear that she is not remorseful and justifying her actions. This is a huge red flag for the future.
strength-abounds Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I 've been married for 4 years and I still can't get over the fact that before we got married my wife cheated on me. My son was 6months old and my wife and I had been together for 5 years We split up for 3 months and got back together. We'd been back together for 3 weeks and then she cheated on me. I don't know if getting back together with here after the fact was a smart Idea but now I'm married to her . I have good days and bad days but, It drives me nuts that she was with another man. I know now that it would never happen again and I jusst can't get over It what am I suppose to do just forget about it? My wife thinks that me seeing a naked woman on a movie is the same as her sleeping with another man (What the fuaslkdfalsdf) Has anyone ever gotten over a cheating spouse? I sure did. I got over her cheating, lying, nasty a$$ when I told the judge there will never be a reconcilitation as long as I breathe God's air.
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 honestly dude. I seriously think once a cheater always a cheater. She might do it again. And then come up with a excuse. But I dont really know. Some people never really get over that kind of stuff. I never did. I 've been married for 4 years and I still can't get over the fact that before we got married my wife cheated on me. My son was 6months old and my wife and I had been together for 5 years We split up for 3 months and got back together. We'd been back together for 3 weeks and then she cheated on me. I don't know if getting back together with here after the fact was a smart Idea but now I'm married to her . I have good days and bad days but, It drives me nuts that she was with another man. I know now that it would never happen again and I jusst can't get over It what am I suppose to do just forget about it? My wife thinks that me seeing a naked woman on a movie is the same as her sleeping with another man (What the fuaslkdfalsdf) Has anyone ever gotten over a cheating spouse?
wicar1 Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I 've been married for 4 years and I still can't get over the fact that before we got married my wife cheated on me. My son was 6months old and my wife and I had been together for 5 years We split up for 3 months and got back together. We'd been back together for 3 weeks and then she cheated on me. I don't know if getting back together with here after the fact was a smart Idea but now I'm married to her . I have good days and bad days but, It drives me nuts that she was with another man. I know now that it would never happen again and I jusst can't get over It what am I suppose to do just forget about it? My wife thinks that me seeing a naked woman on a movie is the same as her sleeping with another man (What the fuaslkdfalsdf) Has anyone ever gotten over a cheating spouse? Divorce her....she willl do it again
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I 've been married for 4 years and I still can't get over the fact that before we got married my wife cheated on me. My son was 6months old and my wife and I had been together for 5 years We split up for 3 months and got back together. We'd been back together for 3 weeks and then she cheated on me. I don't know if getting back together with here after the fact was a smart Idea but now I'm married to her . I have good days and bad days but, It drives me nuts that she was with another man. I know now that it would never happen again and I jusst can't get over It what am I suppose to do just forget about it? My wife thinks that me seeing a naked woman on a movie is the same as her sleeping with another man (What the fuaslkdfalsdf) Has anyone ever gotten over a cheating spouse? It wasn't the trust that got me... it was the whole lack of respect her cheating showed. If I had kids... maybe I would have just slept around a bit to get even. However, as we didn't have kids... I found it much better to find a faithful woman. Life is better without her.
TheLoveAdvisor Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Usually anything before marriage doesn't really count if you end up marrying that person.. She did it, you accepted it by marrying her..You must have done this out of fear?? You married her because you thought you may lose her?? You married her cause you thought some how this would erase your previous feelings??? Or maybe you thought she wouldn't do it again cause she is married??? No, you married her because you loved her! And love must forgive, it may not forget, but it must forgive... Once you forgive her, then you can move on and begin to love her like she should be loved...Afterall, if you took the same vows I took, we promised to love them! Honor them! Through Good and Bad! So far you made no mention of your wife cheating on you while you both have been married...You made no mention she chats on line or on the text men on her cell phone! You made no mention she is a drug user, or an alcoholic, yet you hold this against her??? She sounds like a very good women, if not you wouldn't have bent down on one knee and ask her to be your wife! If she would have cheated after you got married, then you would have a right to be upset, and choose to divorce her if you wish.... Sure, she made a mistake, but you are the one that kept her! Now, go and love her, she is your Beautiful wife! Forgive her, and tell her you love her! Peace!
Nemicron Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 So you mean to tell me that its ok for a person to keep a lie going. And maybe he did sign up with for being married to But that doesn't excuse that she keeps on lying and has a unstable foundation for marriage. You really dont seem to know what your talking about. Usually anything before marriage doesn't really count if you end up marrying that person.. She did it, you accepted it by marrying her..You must have done this out of fear?? You married her because you thought you may lose her?? You married her cause you thought some how this would erase your previous feelings??? Or maybe you thought she wouldn't do it again cause she is married??? No, you married her because you loved her! And love must forgive, it may not forget, but it must forgive... Once you forgive her, then you can move on and begin to love her like she should be loved...Afterall, if you took the same vows I took, we promised to love them! Honor them! Through Good and Bad! So far you made no mention of your wife cheating on you while you both have been married...You made no mention she chats on line or on the text men on her cell phone! You made no mention she is a drug user, or an alcoholic, yet you hold this against her??? She sounds like a very good women, if not you wouldn't have bent down on one knee and ask her to be your wife! If she would have cheated after you got married, then you would have a right to be upset, and choose to divorce her if you wish.... Sure, she made a mistake, but you are the one that kept her! Now, go and love her, she is your Beautiful wife! Forgive her, and tell her you love her! Peace!
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