confuzed25 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 So I've been hanging out with this guy now for about 3 weeks. We've seen each other only 1-2 times a week. We have kissed and he always insists on paying for me, hes bought me flowers, picks me up whenever we go somewhere. But he has made it clear that he is not ready for anything serious (he just got out of a 4 year relationship.) I am not at all clingy and I have given him plenty of space but at the same time showed him I was interested in him. We have a ton in common, are from the same hometown, know a lot of the same people. Whenever we hang out we have a great time and he always tells me so. The last time I saw him was 5 days ago when we tailgated before a football game all day with his friends. His friends all seemed to really like me and after the game he took me out to dinner. I wasnt feeling well that night so the next day he texted me saying he hoped I felt better and he had a great time yesterday and asked me to do something the next day if I got out of work on time. Well I got out of work late and texted him to tell him so. He was fine with it and later that night I called him and we talked for a little while. That was 3 days ago and I have not heard from him since. We used to call or text each other almost every night. I just dont really know how to take this guy....we have a great time when we're together, anytime I call he always answers, he asks me to do things together. But then he disappears for a few days?? He says he is not ready for anything serious but he pays for everything for me? brings me around his friends? buys me roses? Do I wait for him to contact me or do I contact him? I contacted him last so I was hoping he would get ahold of me and ask me to hang out this weekend. I could really use some insight and advice on this situation....thanks
sugarmomma Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I would say that since he has made it clear that he doesn't want anything serious, let him initiate 95% of the contact. He is sending mixed signals with his behavior and that can be confusing for you. Keep the focus on you and keep living your life and fit him in where you can. I would also date other people. He sounds like a lot of work.
that girl Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 What do you want confuzed? If you want a guy who is going to call you every day, odds are this guy isn't the guy. You could bring it up on your next date, "This is what I'm looking for, but I'm not sure if it is what you want." It is pretty likely to end things, but that is much better than obsessing over a guy who isn't going to give you what you want. If you want something casual, you need to stop counting the days between calls and wondering what things mean. It is just casual, he isn't your boyfriend. Paying for dinner means nothing, but your whole post screams "I want a relationship."
Author confuzed25 Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 I guess I already know that I need to let him go....I am looking for a relationship. Ive been single for over a year and am looking to settle down. It just makes me sick though....I feel like this guy is "the one." I mean really I have never felt this way towards any guy without even hardly knowing him. I feel like I have known him all my life and I am comfortable with him. Not to mention the fact that we grew up in the same small hometown and even went to the same grade school but never knew each other. Hes exactly what Im looking for in a guy...really hes got every aspect of what I want. And he has never tried to get in my pants or once even mentioned sex. I was hoping we would hang out and get to know each other and I would help him get over his ex and he would realize he wants to be with me but I guess it just doesnt work like that does it? I met him on a dating site so maybe he has met someone else...who knows. Just sucks because I am really picky and I finally found someone I am really interested in but we are in 2 different places in our lives.
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