tormented555 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Hi, I have been married for over 9 years now, we have a very wonderful son, but since the start of the marriage till now, in my heart, I cannot make myself to love my wife. I married my wife for the wrong reasons already and I force myself to make it work throughout this whole time. My wife is super dominant, I already can sense that before we were married, but after the marriage, I have to admit, I had a very hard time adjusting. In my family, I dont scold my parents, but with hers for example, she can be scolding her dad and her mom like hell and they accept it. I was shocked. My wife is good at heart, we are never unfaithful. I know my wife did love me before, but because of my inability to love her coz she cannot seem to accept who I am, she is out for revenge or something. We are very different and the things she like I do not like and vice versa. Even her friends and my friends do not intersect. Almost every week we quarrel, and I am getting sick and tired of it for the past 9 years already. I gave her almost all of my money, and she wasted all of it away in some crap mutual funds. Now, she is asking for an apartment and an expensive car if I were to divorce her. My local church group as usual would tell me that God does not like divorce and that we should make things work. My feeling is that it has to work both ways, I give in a little while she gives in too. But till now, she still has the impression that I am the one totally at fault. I am so confused, the only best thing that came out of my marriage is my son, who is really jolly and talented. Whenever I see him, my heart softens again. I don't mind apologizing, even lowering my ego. But I am confused in that my impression of love is the feeling that you really want someone. And I do not have that feeling towards my wife at all. How can it work then? T
You Go Girl Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 How can it be that you married someone and didn't love them from the get-go? Can you explain that? So your W is out for revenge? Can you elaborate? Why do you think she is angry, assuming that is what you meant by revenge? And what vengeful behaviors does she have? So you have talked about a possible divorce? Right down to the details of who gets what?
Author tormented555 Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Its a long story, I married her coz she helped me out when I was in difficulty in business...so I married her to repay my debts to her...what a way to go... Its a stalemate now, she does not seem to want divorce, but she is ignoring me everyday.... I think she wants me to apologize... I mean if I did something wrong, I dont mind apologizing, but even if I apologize for not loving her, what is it going to do to help?
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