Pfiend101 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I have been told many times now that Im a really sweet/nice guy. I absolutely hate it. As most of the girls date the other type of guys. I need to grow a pair and start not giving a ****. My rant for the day.
Insanitylater Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Women whine and cry about how they want a nice guy. But when they meet a nice guy, they lose interest because there's no drama involved and they dont know how to react. Many women arent so much attracted to azzholes, its more of "I'll show him" addiction they get hung up on. Like they get sucked into the game that is going on, not answering calls, dissing each other, acting like they dont like each other. They are suckers for trying to prove to the guy that they deserve to be treated better and deserve more attention. With the nice guy, he offers nothing to feed those actions of hers, and she looks for another guy that will.
SteveC80 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Sweet isnt something that turns women on, strength power dominance status confidecne does
Insanitylater Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Sweet isnt something that turns women on, strength power dominance status confidecne does We as guys know that So WHY do women say they want a sweet/nice/good guy, when its not true?
Disillusioned Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Also don't forget criminal/illegal behavior... a lot of women are turned on by the Al Capone type.
GivenUp0083 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Being a sweet/nice guy NEVER works unless you're going after the girls' mothers. I always try to be a dick. Tease the girl a little. Say that dress looks "weird" on her, something indirect or odd at her so it's not a brutally direct disrespect but something that will eff with her head a little. Then she's going to want to know WHY you think it looks weird. Play around with it, say you don't know, crack some jokes, basically act like you don't give a ****. Then as time goes on you be a little nicer to her, then she sees you as someone that once you get past the cockiness, mean comments, and the ego, they'll say "well he's not so bad". Seems to have been working for me once I stopped caring about girls' feelings and just acted like dick and tried to have fun with messing with their heads.
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Dont be so hard on yourself. All women play games and 99 percent of them cheat and lie. So being a nice guy just gets you hurt and broken. So if you lie and cheat and treat your women like crap that apparently love you all that much more. Dont waste your time anymore with being nice to them or showing any sort of respect. It just gets you hurt in the end. Trust me. I have been told many times now that Im a really sweet/nice guy. I absolutely hate it. As most of the girls date the other type of guys. I need to grow a pair and start not giving a ****. My rant for the day.
TouchedByViolet Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 If you can f%$# a girls mind she will want to f%$# your body. I hate mind games though
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I agree. But then again you gotta realize that almost all of them only want something. The guy is just the lawn piece that they can get some once in a while. If you can f%$# a girls mind she will want to f%$# your body. I hate mind games though
Eeyore79 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 The problem is that men confuse "nice" and "weak". Nice is attractive, but weak is not. I want a nice guy, but I also want him to be confident, dominant, decisive, and masculine. I don't want a man who lets me and other people walk all over him; he can be a nice person but still be a confident strong man. The cocky idiots are confident and strong, and a woman thinks she might be able to make him love her and be nice and sweet. But she knows that if she chooses a guy who is nice but weak, she has no chance of making him strong. In other words, there's a chance she can tame the bad boy, but there's no chance of installing a spine in a weakling, so she goes for the former option time and time again.
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Because they dont want to seem slutty. For example. Did you know there are girls out there that will just got out and screw anything that comes there way. But then they get embarrassed by it. And blame the guy for raping them instead. Or others that will go out and just be attracted to attention. Or even date a guy just to get a free dinner. Its all a stupid game. And WOMEN LIE. We as guys know that So WHY do women say they want a sweet/nice/good guy, when its not true?
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I'm not bashing women. Just telling the truth. And you mean to tell me that a attractive looking women would date a guy that has pimples all over his face and is lucky if he weighs over 120lbs. Unless he had a bunch of money? Do you honestly think that this is sage advice? ALL women are this... ALL women are that mentality is unproductive and reeks of bitterness. I guess I wandered into a "let's bash women" thread. Geesh people.
welikeincrowds Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I was reading through this thread and thinking "God, what a load of bitter man horse ****. I can't wait for the LS women to come in here and lock **** down." But then I remembered a text I got the other day. It said merely two words, and it felt like the kiss of death. "You're sweet." My immediate response was "****. ****. DAMAGE CONTROL. DAMAGE CONTROL." I texted her back denying it, while reminding her that I like rough sex. I don't think she bought it.
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I understand where your coming from. Yea there is alot of bitterness. But why can't it be like. " I like you, you like me, lets go out sometime" No instead its the lets run through hoops all day. Or lets cheat on them because I can. etc.. Why does it have to be a game? If you can honestly answer that. Then I will retract my statements. But I haven't ever seen anyone not play some stupid game. And in that case it isn't just Women its guys also. But in all honesty I've seen women play those games much better. I was reading through this thread and thinking "God, what a load of bitter man horse ****. I can't wait for the LS women to come in here and lock **** down." But then I remembered a text I got the other day. It said merely two words, and it felt like the kiss of death. "You're sweet." My immediate response was "****. ****. DAMAGE CONTROL. DAMAGE CONTROL." I texted her back denying it, while reminding her that I like rough sex. I don't think she bought it.
musemaj11 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 When I act like I dont care about a girl's feelings, I get so much more attention from her. Unfortunately, I wasnt born to be a bad boy. Im naturally a sweet guy. I got sick of having a relationship with someone with whom I couldnt be myself with. I had to be in character at all times. It got tiring. So now here I am alone by myself. Maybe when I get lonelier and cant take it anymore, I will have no choice and act like a douche again so I can find someone.
JungleLover Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 welikeincrowds & musemaj11, your posts are hilarious! It was just what I needed. I got some really bad news and was trying to throw on all sorts of comedy stuff on TV to cheer me up on but those posts did the trick.
Surrealist Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 The problem is that men confuse "nice" and "weak". Nice is attractive, but weak is not. I want a nice guy, but I also want him to be confident, dominant, decisive, and masculine. I don't want a man who lets me and other people walk all over him; he can be a nice person but still be a confident strong man. The cocky idiots are confident and strong, and a woman thinks she might be able to make him love her and be nice and sweet. But she knows that if she chooses a guy who is nice but weak, she has no chance of making him strong. In other words, there's a chance she can tame the bad boy, but there's no chance of installing a spine in a weakling, so she goes for the former option time and time again. Doesn't take long before someone comes on with this pathetic stereotypical judgment. It's getting old.... Not all nice guys are weaklings by any measure. Your post just reeks of bitterness.
welikeincrowds Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 You're cute. welikeincrowds & musemaj11, your posts are hilarious! It was just what I needed. I got some really bad news and was trying to throw on all sorts of comedy stuff on TV to cheer me up on but those posts did the trick. Hey babes. I don't care about your feelings. :cool:
D-Jam Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Yippie...another nice guy post. Take it from me...do the "nice guy" stuff for a girl WHEN SHE'S DATING YOU. That means you don't help her move her couch...unless she's DATING YOU (or you established a "just friends" thing and you want to be a pal). Yes...it's possible to be a sweet good guy AND get girls. 1) Don't chase women who chase douchebags. I'm not talking about the ones who perhaps were fooled by a good liar. I mean the ones you can clearly see have issues and keep thinking they can tame Mr. Untameable into a RL. Don't waste your time. If you have to be a jerk to get a girl, then she's not worth having. 2) Be charming, flirt, be daring. Women can get turned on and at least see you as a man when you pass on a flirt and show them you have a penis and you use it. Biggest makes many "nice" or "good" guys make is they think flirtation or something like that disrespects the woman. WRONG. 3) Be strong in certain areas. Mainly if you ask a woman out and she won't commit to hard plans, then call it all off. Show her she's got to agree to a time and place and put herself on the line, or you're walking. If a girl gets flakey on you, drop her. If she is all indecisive or makes excuses...walk. Show them you mean business and you won't tolerate maybes. 4) When you've been on a date or dates and you think you have an opening to make a move (perhaps cuddling on the couch watching a DVD)...MAKE A MOVE. The worst is she'll freak and never see you again. So what? Make a move and I'll bet she responds. She wouldn't be cuddling with you in front of a DVD if she didn't like you...unless she wants you as her "cuddle-bitch". It's ok to be a good guy...just make sure to remember to be a man.
hearttobreak Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 In reality, we cannot actually have what we want. Therefore, we all consistently strive for better. Once that initial attraction is lost, it is done for. Treat them with respect, but do not run after them. Do not put them on a pedestal and do not be at their beck and call. If you do not want to do something that they want, then stand up to them. It is a simple as that. The other thing is most women are illogical and work of how they are feeling. Sometimes they are hot and sometimes they are cold. If you do not adjust with the settings, you will either get burned or freeze to death. Either way, in the end, you're screwed.
skydiveaddict Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I have been told many times now that Im a really sweet/nice guy. I absolutely hate it. As most of the girls date the other type of guys. I need to grow a pair and start not giving a ****. My rant for the day. So very true.
Leandro Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Yippie...another nice guy post. Take it from me...do the "nice guy" stuff for a girl WHEN SHE'S DATING YOU. That means you don't help her move her couch...unless she's DATING YOU (or you established a "just friends" thing and you want to be a pal). Yes...it's possible to be a sweet good guy AND get girls. 1) Don't chase women who chase douchebags. I'm not talking about the ones who perhaps were fooled by a good liar. I mean the ones you can clearly see have issues and keep thinking they can tame Mr. Untameable into a RL. Don't waste your time. If you have to be a jerk to get a girl, then she's not worth having. 2) Be charming, flirt, be daring. Women can get turned on and at least see you as a man when you pass on a flirt and show them you have a penis and you use it. Biggest makes many "nice" or "good" guys make is they think flirtation or something like that disrespects the woman. WRONG. 3) Be strong in certain areas. Mainly if you ask a woman out and she won't commit to hard plans, then call it all off. Show her she's got to agree to a time and place and put herself on the line, or you're walking. If a girl gets flakey on you, drop her. If she is all indecisive or makes excuses...walk. Show them you mean business and you won't tolerate maybes. 4) When you've been on a date or dates and you think you have an opening to make a move (perhaps cuddling on the couch watching a DVD)...MAKE A MOVE. The worst is she'll freak and never see you again. So what? Make a move and I'll bet she responds. She wouldn't be cuddling with you in front of a DVD if she didn't like you...unless she wants you as her "cuddle-bitch". It's ok to be a good guy...just make sure to remember to be a man. I like this post. I'm a nice guy and would always flirt with the girls before my ex came along. I got a lot of attention, even from the girls out of my league. I think you can be a nice guy and get girls, but you have to be a man.
Woggle Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 It really is sad. These same women will then turn around and wonder where all the good men are. It's gotten to the point where I don't feel any sympathy for the drama that woman deal with in the dating world. I am very cold to it.
aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 When I think of a "sweet guy" I think of a doormat. I know I personally do not want a sweet guy. I want someone who is strong, slightly stubborn (meaning not easily swayed by me or anyone else), loyal, honest, and a best friend. I think that's what most women want.
skydiveaddict Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 (edited) It really is sad. These same women will then turn around and wonder where all the good men are. It's gotten to the point where I don't feel any sympathy for the drama that woman deal with in the dating world. I am very cold to it. I am too. I would just say to you that women don't "deal with" the drama. They dish it out. And if you don't know how to play the game, you are down the road Edited November 5, 2010 by skydiveaddict
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