My ex girl friend cheated on me and completely totalled my life.

[hopesndreams]

These forums are full of people being screwed in some way or form

 

That's why we are here.

 

Your anger and hatred towards all women really makes my skin crawl.

 

She was ONE woman! With billions of women on this planet is it really fair to yourself and others to HATE all females?

 

With all the crap you went through with her, toughing it out, hoping things will get better and ALLOWING yourself to be emotionally abused, don't you feel you should be taking a part of the blame? Why did you really stick around eh? You say the kids but the real reason was your low self-esteem and having no respect for yourself. I hope you are working towards loving yourself because, if not, you will only wind up with another woman like your ex or maybe even worse.

[dreamingoftigers]

These forums are full of people being screwed in some way or form

 

 

That's why we are here.

 

Your anger and hatred towards all women really makes my skin crawl.

 

She was ONE woman! With billions of women on this planet is it really fair to yourself and others to HATE all females?

 

With all the crap you went through with her, toughing it out, hoping things will get better and ALLOWING yourself to be emotionally abused, don't you feel you should be taking a part of the blame? Why did you really stick around eh? You say the kids but the real reason was your low self-esteem and having no respect for yourself. I hope you are working towards loving yourself because, if not, you will only wind up with another woman like your ex or maybe even worse.

 

Where is this hating all females bit? I just reviewed the thread and he talked a lot about people not accepting responsibility. Did I miss something?

[Dexter Morgan]

These forums are full of people being screwed in some way or form

 

 

That's why we are here.

 

Your anger and hatred towards all women really makes my skin crawl.

 

She was ONE woman! With billions of women on this planet is it really fair to yourself and others to HATE all females?

 

I'm sorry, did I miss something? Where did he say this or where does he insinuate anything of the sort?

 

or does it make you mad that a guy would want to get revenge?

 

 

Why did you really stick around eh? You say the kids but the real reason was your low self-esteem and having no respect for yourself.

I hope you are working towards loving yourself because, if not, you will only wind up with another woman like your ex or maybe even worse.

 

you know, if I didn't know any better, I'd swear you had dealt some guy the same type of blow that was dealt to OP, and it just frosts you that he wants revenge.

 

she gave the guy herpes for christ sake.

 

but please, do tell us where he indicated he hates all women.

[Nemicron]

Why is it that there are people out there that dont wanna be labeled? For example. If your a player, And you get labeled as a player. Then you you get upset at being called that. ITs the same with alot of things.

 

I dont really have any disregard for women in general. But I gotta be honest. I haven't really ever seen a prime example of a " nice girl " Regardless of my self esteem or not. If you can honestly show me a decent gal. That doesn't play games. And doesn't try to dodge what they are and then blame someone else or come up with excuses for how they are then fine I'll stand corrected. But I highly doubt you can.

 

As for my ex. That dumb chick right now is currently passing out her number on a web site and having parties and sleeping with all these people and getting drunk all the time. And screwing other peoples lives up even know they arent aware of it yet.

 

Dont waste my time again with something like this until you can actually prove differently. Besides screwing people over is the newest fad now. And if you dont believe me. looking in books or magazines or movies and shows.

 

 

 

These forums are full of people being screwed in some way or form

 

That's why we are here.

 

Your anger and hatred towards all women really makes my skin crawl.

 

She was ONE woman! With billions of women on this planet is it really fair to yourself and others to HATE all females?

 

With all the crap you went through with her, toughing it out, hoping things will get better and ALLOWING yourself to be emotionally abused, don't you feel you should be taking a part of the blame? Why did you really stick around eh? You say the kids but the real reason was your low self-esteem and having no respect for yourself. I hope you are working towards loving yourself because, if not, you will only wind up with another woman like your ex or maybe even worse.

[Nemicron]

Thanx guys. No I actually didn't say anything about hating women or anything. But thats my point. There are alot of people that are just like that. And its not fair. They go around and blame everyone else instead of looking at themselves. Thats what my ex is totally about. She doesn't care about the actions she's either did or is doing. And I can't in good conscience continue the cycle like she's started. Yea I'm angry at women right now. But its not all women's fault. But as I've said. I haven't really met a nice girl yet. I gotta be honest. I almost dont think they exist.

[ReturnToSender]

Well... even though I know Im not like those women you describe, I cant be too offended considering I kind of have the same views towards guys and jut like youre sure nice girls dont exist, Im pretty sure guys who dont cheat dont exist either. I mean Im sure there are out there somewhere but whether my personal relationships, friends, family, etc.. I cant think of a single guy Ive come across that has either not cheated, or at least tried for the chance to.

 

I can recognize that Im just hurt tho...logically everyone isnt exactly the same...but yeah, Im not the most ratinonal person nowadays LoL! Hence why Im working things out with my ex. Better the devil I know who did make me happy than go through falling in love with some other guy who cheats on me too, and for all I know could have other issues.

 

So yeah

[rhazhiehl]

http://shiveringmoon.blogspot.com/ it helped me, it may help you to

[Nemicron]

I totally relate to where your coming from. I wasn't unfaithful or anything like that either. And thats what I got a a reward for doing the right thing

 

 

Well... even though I know Im not like those women you describe, I cant be too offended considering I kind of have the same views towards guys and jut like youre sure nice girls dont exist, Im pretty sure guys who dont cheat dont exist either. I mean Im sure there are out there somewhere but whether my personal relationships, friends, family, etc.. I cant think of a single guy Ive come across that has either not cheated, or at least tried for the chance to.

 

I can recognize that Im just hurt tho...logically everyone isnt exactly the same...but yeah, Im not the most ratinonal person nowadays LoL! Hence why Im working things out with my ex. Better the devil I know who did make me happy than go through falling in love with some other guy who cheats on me too, and for all I know could have other issues.

 

So yeah

[Nemicron]

pretty poem thank you for sharing it.

 

I'm not a man of a thousand faces. Just one. mine.

 

 

http://shiveringmoon.blogspot.com/ it helped me, it may help you to

[Dexter Morgan]

Thanx guys. No I actually didn't say anything about hating women or anything.

 

we know. so we just don't know where the hell she came up with that bunk

[Nemicron]

we she could have been just like my ex. There are so many people that are just like her.. Never oening up to the things they do wrong. And some of them don even know they did anything wrong. I dont really get it.

 

 

we know. so we just don't know where the hell she came up with that bunk

[Nemicron]

Found out my ex is gonna get married in Feb. And plus she has pictures of her in some kinky stuff. I feeel aweful about it. seriously What is wrong with her? Are all women like this? All super attractive women is what I mean.

[ReturnToSender]

Found out my ex is gonna get married in Feb. And plus she has pictures of her in some kinky stuff. I feeel aweful about it. seriously What is wrong with her? Are all women like this? All super attractive women is what I mean.

 

Into kinky stuff? Oh I dont know...one can only hope lol! I do know I feel bad for her new hubby, thats for sure! Thats a marriage I dont envy...

[dreamingoftigers]

Found out my ex is gonna get married in Feb. And plus she has pictures of her in some kinky stuff. I feeel aweful about it. seriously What is wrong with her? Are all women like this? All super attractive women is what I mean.

 

It really, REALLY won't work out. People who get married that fast are in for a brutal awakening.

[Nemicron]

Yea like sex panties and stockings and all that stuff.

 

 

Into kinky stuff? Oh I dont know...one can only hope lol! I do know I feel bad for her new hubby, thats for sure! Thats a marriage I dont envy...

[OneSadLady]

My advice is to not allow yourself to be bogged down by all this because if you let her change your view on women then she won plain and simple. She was a horrible person. She is not the norm. Forget about her and never take that kind of crap from anyone. If there isn't a person that can love you for who you are, then they aren't worth your time. You are a very very attractive man! You sound like you were very sweet before her and there are women out there that are patient and loving and quite possibly willing to help you through this!

 

Do you have any siblings? I was wondering about the female figures in your life. If you can stop and think of good women in your life perhaps you can slowly start to heal. To be honest you sound like a great catch. There are so many women that would have loved to imagine themselves being that horrible woman but changing it to fit who they are. "Wow, he's taking care of my children! He's willing to wait at home and sacrifice what he had going in life on the chance that we may be something. . ."

[Nemicron]

Yea I'm one of a kind. But all I can say it doesn't really matter what I am. Or was. I have to figure out how to get back on my feet somehow.

 

 

 

My advice is to not allow yourself to be bogged down by all this because if you let her change your view on women then she won plain and simple. She was a horrible person. She is not the norm. Forget about her and never take that kind of crap from anyone. If there isn't a person that can love you for who you are, then they aren't worth your time. You are a very very attractive man! You sound like you were very sweet before her and there are women out there that are patient and loving and quite possibly willing to help you through this!

 

Do you have any siblings? I was wondering about the female figures in your life. If you can stop and think of good women in your life perhaps you can slowly start to heal. To be honest you sound like a great catch. There are so many women that would have loved to imagine themselves being that horrible woman but changing it to fit who they are. "Wow, he's taking care of my children! He's willing to wait at home and sacrifice what he had going in life on the chance that we may be something. . ."

[Dexter Morgan]

I'm sorry, did I miss something? Where did he say this or where does he insinuate anything of the sort? .

 

 

*crickets chirping*

[Nemicron]

Yea no kidding.

 

 

*crickets chirping*

[Nemicron]

And I hope your right. But knowing her. She's probably lying about that too.

 

 

It really, REALLY won't work out. People who get married that fast are in for a brutal awakening.

[dreamingoftigers]

I don't get it either. Some girls just gang up when you accuse some of their gender of *possibly* screwing up. I have seen guys pull the same crap on here and then it sparks a gender blow up.

[Crusoe]

Hi Nemicron.

 

Ten years ago was sat in prison, falsely accused of assault and rape by my ever loving, lying cheating ex. Upon release I came home to nothing, not even a knife or fork. Just 100+k of debt and 40+ animals (ran a small rescue home). Lost everything and everyone I knew. All gone.

 

Ten years previous my wife died, suicide. I spent the next couple of years drinking myself into the gutter. Sleeping in boxes, eating from bins and stepping onto the cobbles to fight for money. Rock bottom.

 

That's twice I've come back from nothing.

 

You will too, but not until you drop the past. It doesn't matter why your ex did the things she did. It doesnt matter if she gets what she deserves. Likewise, it doesn't matter that you didn't deserve any of this. It's life, it often seems unfair, but over the long run it gives as much as it takes away. Not if you quit though. If you quit on people you will lose, if you quit on love you will lose, be bitter and you will lose. You'll never find a good woman and get to have your own family that way.

 

How to get life back on track? Take that little bit of time for yourself, go somewhere quiet, lick your wounds clean, regain your strength and come back out fighting. Just don't lick those wounds for too long. Some people get to like the taste of blood. Firstly their own, they stay that somewhere quiet and eat themselves up. When done they move onto other peoples blood. Your ex, my ex, they do that. That's where they come from, and it's where you want to make sure you don't go.

 

As for work, you make it happen. If that means you get up at 4 am every morning and visit every office, farm, factory, hospital or building site for miles, saying "Gi's a job", so be it. If you have to work 16 hours a day, so be it. If you have to do it for half what your colleagues are earning, so be it. Your ex did the damage, now it's up to you to put it right. It's not going to be easy, so be it.

[ReturnToSender]

Wow Crusoe, this has got to be one of the most inspirational posts I have ever read anywhere ever...

 

Hi Nemicron.

 

Ten years ago was sat in prison, falsely accused of assault and rape by my ever loving, lying cheating ex. Upon release I came home to nothing, not even a knife or fork. Just 100+k of debt and 40+ animals (ran a small rescue home). Lost everything and everyone I knew. All gone.

 

Ten years previous my wife died, suicide. I spent the next couple of years drinking myself into the gutter. Sleeping in boxes, eating from bins and stepping onto the cobbles to fight for money. Rock bottom.

 

That's twice I've come back from nothing.

 

You will too, but not until you drop the past. It doesn't matter why your ex did the things she did. It doesnt matter if she gets what she deserves. Likewise, it doesn't matter that you didn't deserve any of this. It's life, it often seems unfair, but over the long run it gives as much as it takes away. Not if you quit though. If you quit on people you will lose, if you quit on love you will lose, be bitter and you will lose. You'll never find a good woman and get to have your own family that way.

 

How to get life back on track? Take that little bit of time for yourself, go somewhere quiet, lick your wounds clean, regain your strength and come back out fighting. Just don't lick those wounds for too long. Some people get to like the taste of blood. Firstly their own, they stay that somewhere quiet and eat themselves up. When done they move onto other peoples blood. Your ex, my ex, they do that. That's where they come from, and it's where you want to make sure you don't go.

 

As for work, you make it happen. If that means you get up at 4 am every morning and visit every office, farm, factory, hospital or building site for miles, saying "Gi's a job", so be it. If you have to work 16 hours a day, so be it. If you have to do it for half what your colleagues are earning, so be it. Your ex did the damage, now it's up to you to put it right. It's not going to be easy, so be it.

[Nemicron]

Seems like we are almost brothers to some degree. So y ou probably totally understand how I really feel inside.

 

 

Hi Nemicron.

 

Ten years ago was sat in prison, falsely accused of assault and rape by my ever loving, lying cheating ex. Upon release I came home to nothing, not even a knife or fork. Just 100+k of debt and 40+ animals (ran a small rescue home). Lost everything and everyone I knew. All gone.

 

Ten years previous my wife died, suicide. I spent the next couple of years drinking myself into the gutter. Sleeping in boxes, eating from bins and stepping onto the cobbles to fight for money. Rock bottom.

 

That's twice I've come back from nothing.

 

You will too, but not until you drop the past. It doesn't matter why your ex did the things she did. It doesnt matter if she gets what she deserves. Likewise, it doesn't matter that you didn't deserve any of this. It's life, it often seems unfair, but over the long run it gives as much as it takes away. Not if you quit though. If you quit on people you will lose, if you quit on love you will lose, be bitter and you will lose. You'll never find a good woman and get to have your own family that way.

 

How to get life back on track? Take that little bit of time for yourself, go somewhere quiet, lick your wounds clean, regain your strength and come back out fighting. Just don't lick those wounds for too long. Some people get to like the taste of blood. Firstly their own, they stay that somewhere quiet and eat themselves up. When done they move onto other peoples blood. Your ex, my ex, they do that. That's where they come from, and it's where you want to make sure you don't go.

 

As for work, you make it happen. If that means you get up at 4 am every morning and visit every office, farm, factory, hospital or building site for miles, saying "Gi's a job", so be it. If you have to work 16 hours a day, so be it. If you have to do it for half what your colleagues are earning, so be it. Your ex did the damage, now it's up to you to put it right. It's not going to be easy, so be it.

[Crusoe]

Seems like we are almost brothers to some degree. So y ou probably totally understand how I really feel inside.

 

I could probably have a decent guess. When you get the abilty to PM feel free to drop me a line.

 

In the meantime you've got to channel everything you feel into digging yourself out of this hole you're in. This is either the making of you, or the breaking of you. Your choice my friend.