thekid55 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 (edited) I've written on here in different places. My girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago. We agreed to it mutually and we've had sporadic NC during the time frame. I got really mad a few times when she refused to see me and that pushed her away. We did not talk in roughly two weeks until last night. She sent me a text around 12:30 am that said 'Hey. My mom came to visit me today. She wanted to come say hi, but I told her you were at work. Just wanted to let you know that she says hi'. I didn't respond to this message. I just think it was very odd that she sent this to me at 12:30 am plus her Mom already knew that we broke up. I'm trying to figure out why that message at that time. It's just really odd to me. I didn't get anything else after that, either. She re-added her ex from three years ago on Facebook awhile back. I'm pretty sure they haven't been hanging out or anything. That's what a mutual friend told me who knows both people. She also 'liked' her friend's status that said 'You gotta kiss a lotta frogs before you find your prince' What do you think of the text? Edited November 4, 2010 by thekid55
Leandro Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Maybe she was just bored and wanted to see if you would reply.
Author thekid55 Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 Maybe she was just bored and wanted to see if you would reply. She was writing to all of her friends on Facebook when she texted me.
Gt.ooh Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Best advice I can give: Don't overthink it. If you say that her mom already knows, she's just trying to test you. Leave it be, she's obviously wanting to chat...but you need to be sure she really in fact does want to talk. 12:30 in the morning is a bit odd to txt about her mom..give it a few days to a week.
Author thekid55 Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 Best advice I can give: Don't overthink it. If you say that her mom already knows, she's just trying to test you. Leave it be, she's obviously wanting to chat...but you need to be sure she really in fact does want to talk. 12:30 in the morning is a bit odd to txt about her mom..give it a few days to a week. I just find it odd because the day before, she was removing tagged pictures of us and the next night, she is texting at 1230 am about her Mom wanting to see me? She purposely didn't include herself in the 'mom quotes'.
Gt.ooh Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Yea, trust me.. this is where don't overthink comes in.. You cannot figure out what is going on in the other persons mind, so don't beat youself up trying to get it yourself. Indulge in something you want to do...video game, some TV, out with a friend to a movie...something and just let things fall into place. She'll smarten up pretty quick when your serious about all or nothing.
Author thekid55 Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Yea, trust me.. this is where don't overthink comes in.. You cannot figure out what is going on in the other persons mind, so don't beat youself up trying to get it yourself. Indulge in something you want to do...video game, some TV, out with a friend to a movie...something and just let things fall into place. She'll smarten up pretty quick when your serious about all or nothing. Yeah, it's hard not to overthink. Anyone else?
Hhhh Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Sounds like conversation starter, she probably can't sleep and by sending text and getting a response would put her at ease I guess don't respond until a couple of days later giving her time to freak out where you went
Author thekid55 Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Sounds like conversation starter, she probably can't sleep and by sending text and getting a response would put her at ease I guess don't respond until a couple of days later giving her time to freak out where you went She didn't really ask me anything so I didn't feel the need to respond. I didn't receive anything after that so it just made it seem like she wanted attention or wanted to know that I was still there.
VeveCakes Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Could she have been drunk? Yes. She just wants to make sure you don't forget her....which is what you should do.
bestrong Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 She was probably just bored and see if you would reply. Don't over-analyze the text, if she really wants to talk to you, you will hear from her in a while. Don't spend time thinking why she did that, it's just going to make you crazy!
Author thekid55 Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Could she have been drunk? Yes. She just wants to make sure you don't forget her....which is what you should do. She's not a big drinker, so I really doubt that she was drunk. It was totally coherent as well.
lululucy Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Maybe a bit of a control thing? She gets attention from you, she knows you're thinking about her even if you don't reply -- just a mindgame. Again, don't over think it, that's probably what she wants from you.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 It's been said and I agree. She's bored and just wanted to see if you would reply. This is the only time I contact exes. Just forget about it.
Author thekid55 Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Well, according to Facebook, she was actively talking to her friends right before she texted me. She apparently had some sorority event last night because I'm friends with some of the girls in there, so it's not like she was sitting around and doing nothing.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Well, according to Facebook, she was actively talking to her friends right before she texted me. She apparently had some sorority event last night because I'm friends with some of the girls in there, so it's not like she was sitting around and doing nothing. Well I don't know what you want to hear then... but I send text messages to exes for no reason at all really. I don't want to get back together with them (hellll no), I just feel like texting them. Let it go dude, I don't see why you care so much.
lululucy Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Well, according to Facebook, she was actively talking to her friends right before she texted me. She apparently had some sorority event last night because I'm friends with some of the girls in there, so it's not like she was sitting around and doing nothing. She's just shooting the sh*t with them. So she only considers you a friend. I didn't text my exes random stuff until I had no feelings for them and it no longer meant anything. You're in the friend-zone, probably permanently. You need to let this girl go and stop over-analysing everything she says or does, you'll just drive yourself crazy.
Gt.ooh Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Yup dude, we've all said it now... vent on here if needed but go out and get something done and take it off your mind. I've been there and very recent.. You just can't occupy all of your mind space with this txt.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 She's just shooting the sh*t with them. So she only considers you a friend. I didn't text my exes random stuff until I had no feelings for them and it no longer meant anything. You're in the friend-zone, probably permanently. You need to let this girl go and stop over-analysing everything she says or does, you'll just drive yourself crazy. This is so true. I only text exes who I don't have feelings for anymore... I would never text an ex who I still felt strongly about.
bestrong Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 You can find all these reasons convincing yourself she sent you the text for a reason. I have been there. I spent weeks thinking why she sent me an email asking me how I have been. Of course, you could do the same thing and keep imagining.. but she's not thinking about it and probably say " haha.. loser" when she knows a text can cause such an impact on you. As i said previously, if she wants to talk to you, she will find her way to.
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