veggirl Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Huhh...that just sounds like a very odd / dorky thing to say. I would have been confused and said "WTH?" and given him a blank stare.
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 HAHAHA Yea thats a bad one. During conversation with a guy I am in the early stages of getting to know, he said: "I hope that you have the key to your chastity belt." to me which, seriously, sent me in shock -caused me to do a 180 degree turn. Actually, I have heard and seen more shocking things in my life BUT still one of the most stupid-ungentleman-like phrase for him to say nonetheless. How would YOU have reacted/said? Argggghh! Men!
welikeincrowds Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I drunk texted a girl this halloween. I said "Boo! I'm a skeleton right now. And I want to **** your brains out." We're still dating, for some reason.
sanskrit Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Attention men, women's sense of humor is directly proportional to the level of preexisting attraction they feel for the man. If they like you, they are witty and appreciate humor of most any type, even off-color, very suggestive or crude. If they are lukewarm, they will look at you with a blank stare and act mildly offended or like they don't get it. If they find you unattractive, no matter how funny or innocuous what you said to them was, they will tell everyone in the vicinity about the "creeper" who was saying indescribably lewd or stupid things to them. Given reality we all have to deal with.
donnamaybe Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 As far as I'm concerned, I have no problem with sexual banter and joking. BUT - this guy's joke was LAME. It would make him look like a total DORK in my eyes.
musemaj11 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 It depends, if a hot guy said it, it would be funny. Otherwise, he would look creepy. Anyway, you shoulda said, "My dad has it".
donnamaybe Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 It depends, if a hot guy said it, it would be funny. Otherwise, he would look creepy. Anyway, you shoulda said, "My dad has it". Nah. He would still be a dork. See, my guy has a HYSTERICAL sense of humor. Between he and I we have people literally in tears when we're out together. If he wanted to say something like that in a joking way, he would make it MUCH more humerous. The joke itself was lame.
Andy_K Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Attention men, women's sense of humor is directly proportional to the level of preexisting attraction they feel for the man. If they like you, they are witty and appreciate humor of most any type, even off-color, very suggestive or crude. If they are lukewarm, they will look at you with a blank stare and act mildly offended or like they don't get it. If they find you unattractive, no matter how funny or innocuous what you said to them was, they will tell everyone in the vicinity about the "creeper" who was saying indescribably lewd or stupid things to them. Given reality we all have to deal with. Exactly what I was going to say. Totally spot on.
donnamaybe Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Exactly what I was going to say. Totally spot on. Nope. Sorry, but thanks for playing. If the guy had a decent sense of humor and the joke was worthy of a laugh, I personally would have taken it better. He came off, to me at least, like a pathetic dork because, again, the joke was lame.
Cee Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I'm willing to forgive corny or bad jokes. And sexual humor doesn't bother me in the slightest. But I draw the line at hate disguised at humor. That's a deal breaker for me. The line gets blurry when a person is simply ignorant and makes an offensive joke, but isn't saying it to be mean. I struggle with whether I should speak up or let it slide. I think the funniest jokes are the ones poking fun at ourselves. And I think most of the humor that I encounter is in that vein.
JungleLover Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Nope. Sorry, but thanks for playing. If the guy had a decent sense of humor and the joke was worthy of a laugh, I personally would have taken it better. He came off, to me at least, like a pathetic dork because, again, the joke was lame. But isn't sense of humor highly subjective?
donnamaybe Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 But isn't sense of humor highly subjective? That's why what you quoted above said, "...to me at least..." The guy I said that to, as well as some others, are saying ALL women have no sense of humor unless a guy is attractive. Are you saying you agree with them?
JungleLover Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 (edited) That's why what you quoted above said, "...to me at least..." The guy I said that to, as well as some others, are saying ALL women have no sense of humor unless a guy is attractive. Are you saying you agree with them? No I am not saying that I agree with the above statement but I do not get the sense that they mean "ALL" women when I read the posts. the word "ALL" is all inclusive and I am to lazy to reread all of the post above right now but I do not recall someone specifically saying all women have no sense of humor. I am saying that sense of humor is subjective so what is funny to one person is not funny to another but it doesn't mean whoever told the joke should necessarily be shot. Edited November 5, 2010 by JungleLover
donnamaybe Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 No I am not saying that I agree with the above statement but I do not get the sense that they mean "ALL" women when I read the posts. the word "ALL" is all inclusive and I am to lazy to reread all of the post above right now but I do not recall someone specifically saying all women have no sense of humor. I am saying that sense of humor is subjective so what is funny to one person is not funny to another but it doesn't mean whoever told the joke should necessarily be shot. Here's how it went: "Attention men, women's (please note he didn't say SOME women's) sense of humor is directly proportional to the level of preexisting attraction they feel for the man. If they like you, they are witty and appreciate humor of most any type, even off-color, very suggestive or crude. If they are lukewarm, they will look at you with a blank stare and act mildly offended or like they don't get it. If they find you unattractive, no matter how funny or innocuous what you said to them was, they will tell everyone in the vicinity about the "creeper" who was saying indescribably lewd or stupid things to them. Given reality we all have to deal with. " (If "all" men have to deal with it, wouldn't that mean "all" women are that way in his mind?) And, for the record, I said he would appear as a dork to me. Please point out where I asked that he be shot.
JungleLover Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 And, for the record, I said he would appear as a dork to me. Please point out where I asked that he be shot. You didn't say this. I was just making a point with some color. Don't get me wrong, I understand your point.
Andy_K Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 (please note he didn't say SOME women's) Gender generalisations like this obviously don't apply to ALL people of whatever sex they're aimed at. That goes without saying. I could say 'men are visual when it comes to sex'. It's not necessary to qualify that such a comment only refers to most men, or the majority of men, because nobody in their right mind would try to claim any generalisation applies to everyone. There are always exceptions to every rule. There is no need to pick an argument on that basis.
donnamaybe Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Gender generalisations like this obviously don't apply to ALL people of whatever sex they're aimed at. That goes without saying. I could say 'men are visual when it comes to sex'. It's not necessary to qualify that such a comment only refers to most men, or the majority of men, because nobody in their right mind would try to claim any generalisation applies to everyone. There are always exceptions to every rule. There is no need to pick an argument on that basis.Very convenient to say "no need to pick an argument" after someone has made a very derogatory remark, making negative claims about women (obviously since ALL MEN have to deal with it, he MUST have meant all women ). Men being visual when it comes to sex isn't a negative thing. It's just a trait. Watch what happens when some gal makes a negative thread about men on LS.
TheMENemy Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Actually, the real reason OP got upset was because she left the key at home with the chastity belt.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 During conversation with a guy I am in the early stages of getting to know, he said: "I hope that you have the key to your chastity belt." to me which, seriously, sent me in shock -caused me to do a 180 degree turn. Actually, I have heard and seen more shocking things in my life BUT still one of the most stupid-ungentleman-like phrase for him to say nonetheless. How would YOU have reacted/said? Argggghh! Men! Ok... clearly you said something to trigger that statement... which was probably meant in a playful way. You probably didnt get it. That's Ok... just put some thought into the whole exchange and it might fit better. If he has a penchant for obtuse jokes maybe you should go with a new guy.
Jynxx Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Let him go, if you cannot "forgive" him a bad joke you're not worth his time and effort and he should be able to get on with his life and find someone better
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 During conversation with a guy I am in the early stages of getting to know, he said: "I hope that you have the key to your chastity belt." to me which, seriously, sent me in shock -caused me to do a 180 degree turn. Actually, I have heard and seen more shocking things in my life BUT still one of the most stupid-ungentleman-like phrase for him to say nonetheless. How would YOU have reacted/said? Argggghh! Men! Well context is everything in that case. Were you a previously declared virgin who was waiting for marriage to have sex, and waiting for age 40 to get married, then it was way out of line for a guy newly dating you to say that. Were you someone who had admittedly lived the high life sexually as of a few years ago, and then, for some period of time, 'sworn-off men', then it may well have been a good line. I'm sure there are other situations on both sides that would make that line more tolerable.
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