DollWelch Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 During conversation with a guy I am in the early stages of getting to know, he said: "I hope that you have the key to your chastity belt." to me which, seriously, sent me in shock -caused me to do a 180 degree turn. Actually, I have heard and seen more shocking things in my life BUT still one of the most stupid-ungentleman-like phrase for him to say nonetheless. How would YOU have reacted/said? Argggghh! Men!
donnamaybe Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 The idea of what he said doesn't shock me, but the way he said it and the FACT that he said it to you in the early stages of getting to know him makes it uber creepy. NEXT!
Sarah1977 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I would have said, "I'm not feeling a connection....."
Cee Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I get sassy when I hear bad pick up lines or jokes. Probably I would have said, "Honey, I lost the key AND the belt 20 years ago." Or, "I see you wanna f*ck like it's 1399" That joke your date made is truly horrible. But it's a great opener for lots of funny come back lines.
utterer of lies Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 "I hope that you have the key to your chastity belt." How would YOU have reacted/said? Before I hand it to you, I'd throw it in a well. Argggghh! Men! Oh, you know we're amazing.
Author DollWelch Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 I think you're overreacting. How am I overreacting?
TheMENemy Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 How am I overreacting? What he said was dopey but you actually seem pretty upset by it. It just struck me as not something "dangerous" but rather something that only a very inexperienced man would say. Unless of course his "game" was good enough to know when salacious banter would get a positive reaction--which this did not. Think about it: He couldn't possibly have said it with the intent of offending you. He must have thought you would consider it "clever." All kinds of weird/crazy stuff happens on dates. So he said something stupid to you, so what? I have had women--well, one woman, anyway--actually vomit all over herself, and me, during the course of a date; I ended up having to give her a bath (nothing sexual, she was covered in vomit). Another time the girl I was with asked to drive the car, I was a little hesitant based on her condition, she almost killed us even though I was screaming/pleading for my life for her to stop for like ten minutes before she stopped. And other things, with other people, on other dates. If I had a nickel for all the stupid things I've said, and that other people have said to me, on every date I've ever been on, to say nothing of life in general....well, I'd have quite a few rolls of nickles.
sanskrit Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Wow what a pious lot. The joke is only moderately risque, no idea what the big deal is.
Sabali Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Wow what a pious lot. The joke is only moderately risque, no idea what the big deal is. I agree. The joke is quite tame. You have to be able to laugh at this sort of stuff.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 That is such a lame turn-off. If he was joking, you should have laughed at him, not with him.
SunsetRed Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Did you meet him online or in real life? Either way, I'd RUN and would not see him or have any sort of communication with him again. Guys who say crazy s$%t like that make being single sound great. Remember this crazy guy the next time you feel lonely and sad about being single.
Author DollWelch Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 Seems as though people are divided here, 50/50. When he said that to me, I did laugh at him. I wasn't offended per se, I was just irritated. It's unlike him to say something like that. I do understand how this phrase could be a clever piece of banter coming from him. But, it's unnecessary. He's an intelligent guy, I'm sure he had a reasonable reason for saying such a thing and as a result thought I'd catch on. Not only that, I do sense that he is indeed inexperienced. I remember at one point during the conversation, he mentioned how he's not a player (Hahha, the irony! Total Player!) and in fact he's a "loser" (his word, not mine). I am interested in him (well I was before this happened), but unfortunately I think he ruined it. He said he'd call me today/tonight. Should I pick up?
sagetalk Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think you're just not attracted to him and are looking for an excuse. I've seen guys get away with way worse stuff than that. They usually get away with it because they are tall and their shoulders are so wide they can hard fit through a standard door, but I digress .
Sabali Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Is his joke a dealbreaker for you? If not, give him a chance. Really, folks got to have a sense of humor. Personally, if I found out that someone was getting bent out of shape over a silly joke I made, I would just think they would be no fun dating anyway and just not call. I don't think a corny shock joke is enough to just blow him off.
sanskrit Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think you're just not attracted to him and are looking for an excuse. Likely the case, or looking for an excuse to play games with this guy because he "brought it on himself" with his "filthy mouth." Incidentally, a player would never ever make reference to a chastity belt, because a player will never ever make any sort of comment that portrays any kind of sex in a negative light. Their top goal is to strip inhibitions away, not create them. EDIT: upon reconsideration, they might mention such as evidence of sexual oppression or scorn for sexual standards, but not likely. Had a very good looking friend once, whose pickup line to strange women on the street was "You sellin?" It worked like a charm for him. My jaw would drop as women would LAUGH at being asked if they were a prostitute... go figure.
Insanitylater Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 He said he'd call me today/tonight. Should I pick up? You make a big enough deal out of it to post on here and act like you are shocked by it, yet your initial reaction was to laugh about it when he said it. Obviously you dont have the balls to say what you feel to his face, that is if it really bothers you as much as you are trying to say. And then, to top it off, you ask people you dont know on a forum to make decisions with your life? I think what he said was completely stupid. But the people that are telling you its not that big of a deal is because they are used to guys being morons. And most women just take that in stride. Thus why I am single, I need to learn to say moronic things to a girl on a date so complete strangers can tell her to give me another chance.
JungleLover Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Some people just have weird sense of humor. I have heard guys say things much worse and get a chuckle. The whole key to your chastity belt thing is so cheesey you can't help but to laugh. Most of the time, that is the point other than trying to offend.
dispatch3d Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Likely the case, or looking for an excuse to play games with this guy because he "brought it on himself" with his "filthy mouth." Incidentally, a player would never ever make reference to a chastity belt, because a player will never ever make any sort of comment that portrays any kind of sex in a negative light. Their top goal is to strip inhibitions away, not create them. EDIT: upon reconsideration, they might mention such as evidence of sexual oppression or scorn for sexual standards, but not likely. Had a very good looking friend once, whose pickup line to strange women on the street was "You sellin?" It worked like a charm for him. My jaw would drop as women would LAUGH at being asked if they were a prostitute... go figure. I doubt players would make that joke. I'm not sure why girls hate on guys, especially when it seems like they are awkward about this stuff. Really not nice.
U1987 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I think you're overreacting. Agreed. Why are women always trying to guilt trip men for wanting to have sex? With you especially? It's a compliment!
dispatch3d Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 meh I understand what's going on. The guy offended her so she got upset. And you know what misery does...yeah tries to find company. So her response is to "fire one back" at the guy. Even though in truth he's just awkward around girls and not good at "gaming".
JungleLover Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 . Even though in truth he's just awkward around girls and not good at "gaming". That what my impression is. He probably just read some cheesey pick up lines off of the internet and had them at his disposal due to some insecurities of not having game. There is no need to pull the pin from the grenade.
Sabali Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Well... do you have the key ? Art, how can you say such a stupid thing? First the guy asked and now you ask? You are such a bad, bad man. Want to shoot some pool later?
LonelyNoMore Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 MMMMmm. Well.. I, as a man, understand and would tell you that there are things that we just said to have a feeling of the situation. You know, if there will be a chance in the future, either to date somebody who can handle jokes or somebody who will not be scare to talk about sex. anyway, don't get so mad, it's just the way some guys talk. LNM
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