aeion Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Ive had one of the worst summers of my life, mostly due to a girl who took me for granted. I moved into a new apartment, ive been working out and ive been more and more social. I had to FORCE it, do you hear me? You have to FORCE yourself to keep your life in line while you grieve. For awhile, i wanted to die, to end it all, i felt worthless and above all, UNLOVED. But thats all in your head and until your mind is tired of caring about that girl (or guy) you lost, you have to make sure you do everything you can to make your life better. Especially when you dont feel like it. A good motivator: make them regret they left you. not by calling them constantly or checking up on them or going out of your way to make them jealous, but by changing things they didnt like about you... introduce the world to YOU v.2.0 and soon itll be about YOU again not THEM. It sux to hear i know, but you have to accept that they ARE NOT COMING BACK. Even if you feel in your gut they still have feelings for you... THEY ARE NOT COMING BACK. and until you start operating under that assumption you wont be able to start healing. I finally accepted that, and i met someone else. And you know that feeling where you try and compare the new flame with the old one? yeah well the old flame loses 100% of the time! and life is bright again, i can sleep in again and i can genuinaly enjoy life again. and for those seeking revenge or jealousy, when your ex truely sees that youve moved on they will HATE it. My ex and i are friends again (mostly since we have to go to school/have classes together) and she blocked me on FB because she kept seeing comments from my new interest it drove her crazy (mind you that she left for someone else who is a complete douche). It felt good, but i dont really care how she feels anymore. So there is a light at the end of the tunnel but that advice is missing one key element: but you have to be looking for it, or else your gonna be stuck in a neverending abyss of pain. You can do it!
alwayshoping Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much for this post. good luck with the new girl and im really glad there is a light at the end of the tunnel!
serenemind Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Ive had one of the worst summers of my life, mostly due to a girl who took me for granted. I moved into a new apartment, ive been working out and ive been more and more social. I had to FORCE it, do you hear me? You have to FORCE yourself to keep your life in line while you grieve. For awhile, i wanted to die, to end it all, i felt worthless and above all, UNLOVED. But thats all in your head and until your mind is tired of caring about that girl (or guy) you lost, you have to make sure you do everything you can to make your life better. Especially when you dont feel like it. A good motivator: make them regret they left you. not by calling them constantly or checking up on them or going out of your way to make them jealous, but by changing things they didnt like about you... introduce the world to YOU v.2.0 and soon itll be about YOU again not THEM. It sux to hear i know, but you have to accept that they ARE NOT COMING BACK. Even if you feel in your gut they still have feelings for you... THEY ARE NOT COMING BACK. and until you start operating under that assumption you wont be able to start healing. I finally accepted that, and i met someone else. And you know that feeling where you try and compare the new flame with the old one? yeah well the old flame loses 100% of the time! and life is bright again, i can sleep in again and i can genuinaly enjoy life again. and for those seeking revenge or jealousy, when your ex truely sees that youve moved on they will HATE it. My ex and i are friends again (mostly since we have to go to school/have classes together) and she blocked me on FB because she kept seeing comments from my new interest it drove her crazy (mind you that she left for someone else who is a complete douche). It felt good, but i dont really care how she feels anymore. So there is a light at the end of the tunnel but that advice is missing one key element: but you have to be looking for it, or else your gonna be stuck in a neverending abyss of pain. You can do it! Awesome you made my day
Author aeion Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Stay up guys! i know it seems like a neverending condition you will have to just live with but truth is u dont! My ex left me due to G.I.G.S and ive been hearing through mutual friends that she is starting to see just how different i was to every guy she's been meeting. She confided to a friend that in the long run that she sees us together... and thats when it finally hit me. She just isnt worth it. No way am i a backup plan goddammit! Another girl, who has had a crush on me for like two years gave me a call, and i said to myself, "why not?" We ended up having an amazing time together and now weve been dating for the last month. In many ways she is lightyears more compatable than me and my ex ever were. And i feel really good... in another note, ive been able to travel alot recently and a couple of those places were places my ex always wished she could go. Fact of the matter is, I LOVE who my ex WAS. Not who she IS. and thats enough for me to sattle up and move on.
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