az3200 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I should say that I'm new to this site and this is my first post. This seems to be a very nice community and I see some good advice being offered, so that is my reason for being here. My full story is long, but I will keep in short and hopefully get some positive feedback. I recently (3months) ago broke up with the girlfriend who I still love. Well, it was mutual at the time. You see we lived in a tiny apt together up north, and moved 1500miles south to where we both wanted to live. Well once we got here things did exactly that, went south. I'll admit, It's my fault. I wasn't there for her when i needed to be, and after making this move It was probably the most important time for me to be there. I was too consumed with myself and am kicking myself as i write this. I know she felt alone and I made matters worse. she would go to bed crying at night sometimes. I feel like crying now thinking about it. about 2 months after we moved here I didn't think we were ment to be and we ended up breaking up. I could go on with many more details and different examples, but why bore you? Here's what I came here to write about. When we "broke" up it was like a fake break up. I mean, we still talked, slept in same beds and basically acted like we where still in a relationship, even sex. We took the relationship status off facebook, but still acted like we were in one. Then about 2 months ago she went out to dinner with a guy that she met online. At first I was a little jealous and hurt, and those feelings quickly grew when It became a every other day event of the two seeing eachother. That soon led to talking to eachother on the phone everynight, sometimes for a few hours. Now they are officially dating, on facebook and everything. Why am I so hurt and jealous now? I want her back so bad and would do anything. I miss her so much it hurts. I'll randomly cry during the day when I think about her and everything (tho I haven't cried in a while) We still live together so I'm constantly reminded of her. Neither of us can move out; we can't afford it and we are both on the lease. Thankfully the new boyfriend has not been here yet, nor will he be coming here if i have anything to do with it. Just the other night she told me this was hard for her because she still has feelings for me "but knows it wasn't ment to be so we both need to move on" I know that's true because she was deeply in love with me at one point, as was I. Maybe she's right but I wish with everything for one more chance to find out. Anyway, what do you suggest I do? I can't get over her. I even went out with a girl yesterday, but the whole time I just wished it was my ex (and this girl was better looking/better body than my ex lol) I know what I need to do, but for some reason I wanted to come here and vent. I need to move out and try to forget all about her. Please, any words of encouragement will help
bassplayertn Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Vent away brother..... It sounds like you know what to do and just need to implement it. You aren't married. If she wants another man, you should move. Find someone to sublet. Move back home. Whatever gives you strength. No need to watch her with another man. That will do you NO good. I am rather new to this site as well, but have found that reading everyones posts and occasionally offering bits of advice I relate to really helps me work through these issues.... So type away....
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