Brian Kent Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 A few weeks after giving birth, my wife had a sexual fling for a few days with someone who she barely knew. Several months later in a moment of sudden guilt she unloaded this on me. This was 16 years ago. I forgave her because I loved her to bits, as I still do but every few years or so and without warning I my mind gets embroiled in the same pain and anguish which I suffered when this first happened. When under its spell I have an urgent need to revisit and mull over every part of her story and in my minds it's as if it happened yesterday. After a few days (sometimes weeks) I manage to snap myself out it, but not before I’ve drowned myself in a lot of pain and negative thoughts. I’m a proud person and have never sought counselling. Can any of you relate to my situation? Do these thoughts ever go away?
bassplayertn Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Remember that Forgiving is not forgetting and Forgetting is not Forgiving..... Seek out a local Counselor to assist you in using your thoughts in a positive manner. You can't forget this..... But that doesn't mean that you have to continue allowing yourself to not heal.... At some point you accept the pain and set it on a shelf... When it comes off the shelf, take a minute to look at it, then put it back. Remember that you are choosing to show the world and your spouse how amazing true love can be and how God really can work through anything. You choose to be great!
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