musemaj11 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 The most common advice that women give to other women is this, "Let him be a man" However, the fact is, in reality that is more like a euphemism for saying, "Let him rule over you" Stand up for yourself. If a man won't let a woman expresses herself and 'challenges' his authority while in dating stage, I cant imagine what it would feel like to be married to such a person.
dispatch3d Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 meh don't buy into other peoples insecurities about why/when/how he may demand to pay. If you like him that's all that matters. As a member of the male race I am more than willing to make up for his unjust anger. You can take me out and buy me dinner, I won't get mad or demand sex, no strings attached I just want a free meal. As for flirting touching is always a good sign. My real opinion about the paying for thing is pretty meh. I woudln't think on it this much. I'd probably just let him pay because for some reason he associates paying with some strong emotion. He's likely somewhat inexperienced in dating fwiw.
Author 810 Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 dispatcth3d: it's true and i've noticed that he likes his accomplishments in which i found impressive also. and i think you are correct about associate paying with strong emotions. do you think that it's something i should be concern about? muse: i don't mind a guy taking care of me as i do take care of him also...of course in different way. in my past relationships, i would buy presents or gifts as a token of my appreciations. i'm not a free-loader-taking-advantage-of-a guy type because i have my dignity and integrity. ReturnToSender: wow. i'm wondering if they drop hints along the way or just blow up at one time like dynamite. it's never happened to me before but it's definitely something to watch out for. this guy, he's not clingy but responsive (i like that lolz.) we don't see, text, or call each other too often but enough. this week i feel like we see each other too much. lolz but for some reasons, i like to see his smiling face this weekend also. I am an independent person myself. it's just that when it's a "hang out", i automatically see it as a friend thing whereas, you pay this, i pay that or we take turn to pay. Like i say, i have no idea what we are and i don't assumptions on any relationship. don't know if he's interested but playing it cool or what ...but heck, i know i'm heading toward impatience. lolz
dispatch3d Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 nah, making a big deal out of him making a big deal of paying is so 6th grade. Find out why he has an issue with it maybe, and go from there. But him being so insistent is meh. If it means a lot to him let him pay ldo. There are bigger issues in who to date than who pays for the dinner bill.
musemaj11 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 muse: i don't mind a guy taking care of me as i do take care of him also...of course in different way. in my past relationships, i would buy presents or gifts as a token of my appreciations. i'm not a free-loader-taking-advantage-of-a guy type because i have my dignity and integrity. I didnt say anything about care taking. But as I said, the most important thing is know yourself and know what you want. Also we can only judge the guy by nothing except your description of him. So you understand the situation better than any of us. Who knows perhaps he does what he does because he likes you but he doesnt feel that he is good enough and he thinks spending money on you is the least he could do to impress you. Just be prepared tho if one day for whatever reason you break his heart, he is going to mention all he had spent on you down to the cents.
Author 810 Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 nah, making a big deal out of him making a big deal of paying is so 6th grade. Find out why he has an issue with it maybe, and go from there. But him being so insistent is meh. If it means a lot to him let him pay ldo. There are bigger issues in who to date than who pays for the dinner bill. what is meh? you're right, i'm making it bigger than it seems. Just be prepared tho if one day for whatever reason you break his heart, he is going to mention all he had spent on you down to the cents. believe me you, if that day ever come, i don't have to stand up for myself. i can give him a piece of my mind while sitting.
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