NC2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 It's been 3 weeks since my girlfriend of just over 1 year dumped me, I don't blame her for doing it either. From the day we first went out i constantly felt pressured to get engaged, I wasn't ready for that. She split with her previous bf of 4 years who she was also engaged to and soon after, got with me. She would always say that it was fine that I didn't want to get engaged right now until a week later, we' go through it all again. I always felt like I couldn't do anything on my own without having to explain why it took so long, for example... one day she made me feel so guilty for taking 2-3hrs just to mow the lawn and tidy my garden up. She was also never happy unless she was happy and it was going how she wanted, as long as she got her way. After a few months I began not talking to her in a way a bf should have done and turned to drink, drugs and generally not caring. Xmas last year I got drunk at a party and kissed another girl, I didn't tell her about this until we had a heated argument about 6-8 months later. Since then all I have done is drink more and more, I didn't think too much of my binge drinking because she was always there for me afterwards. I just got on with it, I knew at the time the drink would split us up, but didn't want to admit it. I knew I had to get some help, but couldn't ask for it because that's my problem, I don't want to ask for the help. Instead of talking about things I just piss everyone off around me until it's too late to say sorry. She gave me one last chance to sort things out and I blew it, not a week after we've split up she has got someone else and it's killing me. She talks to me everyday over the net & tells me how happy she is and about how she loves him so much. She also says to about how they're already planning to get engaged, not too mention she is already pregnant, something else she always wanted with me as well. I cant help she's doing this to rub it in, just to prove a point that I messed up once to many times. The again at the same time all I want is for to be happy and that she tells me these things because she is. I don't know what to think or do any more, I just want to forget and go back to sleep, then when I wake up she is the 1st thing on my mind. People keep telling me to stop talking to her and get on with my life, but I cant, I feel so angry with myself and her, I don't know what to do, I've never felt this down and cant see a way out.
Leandro Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Well you should really cut contact with her. It's hurting you. She was engaged with her ex, then she wanted you two to get engaged during the year y'all were together and now she is engaged with this guy? She just sounds like a girl who wants to get married very fast. You're probably better without her. Go NC and learn from you're mistakes. Sorry I can't give much advice. Haven't slept for more than 24 hours. Think I'm going to take a nap now.
TLCbear Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I agree with the first poster. She's not really happy, how can she when all she does is jump from one relationship to the next. This let you know how she deal with her issues...and what you have been doing is how you deal with yours. Stop all contact and allow yourself to heal. Also sort of confused how she can be pregnant that fast. Are you sure the baby isn't yours?
PegNosePete Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Make like your name and go NC. But yes make sure the baby isn't yours first!
Author NC2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 We've split before and the baby subject has popped up, now it's happening again. She says wasn't sleeping with the new bf before we split, but I'm not so sure by how quick she moved on. One minute she's fine with me and telling me she misses me then she acts like a total bitch when he is there, I cant win and I cant keep apologising for my actions all the time. I cant say anything any more to her without feeling like a total hypocrite, she makes out it was all my fault, it wasn't. I've asked her what the doc said about the baby and her response was 'its private' followed by it's not yours, I'm 2 weeks and a few days gone, really the doc would be able to tell her that that quick ?
TLCbear Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 We've split before and the baby subject has popped up, now it's happening again. She says wasn't sleeping with the new bf before we split, but I'm not so sure by how quick she moved on. One minute she's fine with me and telling me she misses me then she acts like a total bitch when he is there, I cant win and I cant keep apologising for my actions all the time. I cant say anything any more to her without feeling like a total hypocrite, she makes out it was all my fault, it wasn't. I've asked her what the doc said about the baby and her response was 'its private' followed by it's not yours, I'm 2 weeks and a few days gone, really the doc would be able to tell her that that quick ? Lol, 2 weeks. I know everyone is different, but I've never heard a doctor say you're 2 weeks pregnant, usually it's starting from about 4 weeks plus. Hell, my monthly is sometimes about a week late.
stopthemadness Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Am sorry to say but sounds like shes done with your relationship. She has moved on and now so should you. Stop letting her tell you play by play whats going on in her life! Who Cares! Its hurts to move on but it something we all have to go through. Am going through it now my self, I think of him everyday, but thats where i stop my self..I expect to think of him less and less as time gos by(Ill let you know how that goes) We can do this.. one day at a time ...Good luck
reknown29 Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 You're not alone. I'm going through a similar thing. Its been hard but I am continuing NC or at least very LC. ...she text me today and I gave her a one word answer just to get her to sop texting. She seems to be getting the hint. Its hard for me to not see her when she wants to come over, etc. but she is dating other guys and is distant to me, in comparison to what it was. All in all it is painful every time and I start from day one each time I talk to her or even get in a text conversation. Its been a couple weeks now since I had her take her stuff out of my place. Im just starting to heal after two months of hearing the word that she is leaving. This would have been quicker and easier if I had went NC right away. Its sooo hard to do and I know you have doubts about it. Just do it. Move on and find someone else.
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