daisydufas22 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Hello I was dating the most beautiful guy - I would just melt everytime I saw him! Anyway, we fought quite a bit and one night when I was staying at his house, his phone kept beeping. Out of curiousity I looked at the messages and the messages were from women, telling him to call them or that they wanted to sex with him. I questioned him about this and he claims he was innocent (according to him, it's his ex that will not leave him alone! Other gal is just harrassing him). Anyway, I broke up with him and I am just wondering do you think he really could have been innocent???????
Leandro Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Why didn't he just block their numbers? Why didn't he tell you this when it started?
Author daisydufas22 Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 Why didn't he just block their numbers? Why didn't he tell you this when it started? He has children with his ex. As for not blocking the other woman's number, I don;t know. I know his ex wanted him back when we first started going out (about a year ago) and used to send him pictures of her with no clothes on. Thanks for your reply
WTRanger Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Certain phone services do not offer blocking of phone numbers without a fee. If he was innocent, you'll never know. There's a level of trust you have to give in any relationship, but apparently he was at the end of yours. Was he answering the phone or ignoring it?
Author daisydufas22 Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 He has children with his ex. As for not blocking the other woman's number, I don;t know. I know his ex wanted him back when we first started going out (about a year ago) and used to send him pictures of her with no clothes on. Thanks for your reply Just wanted to make it clear that he and his ex boken up 8 months prior to when I started seeing him
Author daisydufas22 Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 Certain phone services do not offer blocking of phone numbers without a fee. If he was innocent, you'll never know. There's a level of trust you have to give in any relationship, but apparently he was at the end of yours. Was he answering the phone or ignoring it? He stopped answering the phone in front of me. I should have checked whether or not he replied .....instead, I just confronted him
Leandro Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 He has children with his ex. As for not blocking the other woman's number, I don;t know. I know his ex wanted him back when we first started going out (about a year ago) and used to send him pictures of her with no clothes on. Thanks for your reply Sorry I can't give much advice. I'm very tired. Others will probably help you out more than me.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Trust your gut daisy. You will probably never know for sure but your instinct is often right. If he didn't put up a bit of fight when you broke up with him I would just let it be.
Author daisydufas22 Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 Trust your gut daisy. You will probably never know for sure but your instinct is often right. If he didn't put up a bit of fight when you broke up with him I would just let it be. The problem is he keeps calling me to tell me he's innocent and that he loves me.
YellowShark Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Anyway, we fought quite a bit and one night when I was staying at his house, his phone kept beeping. If you fight quite a bit then it's time to explore why and if it can be fixed. Unless you like fighting a lot? Out of curiousity I looked at the messages and the messages were from women, telling him to call them or that they wanted to sex with him. I questioned him about this and he claims he was innocent (according to him, it's his ex that will not leave him alone! Other gal is just harrassing him). The probability that two different women are harassing this poor man to call and for sex is low. The probability that there is more to the story is high. Anyway, I broke up with him and I am just wondering do you think he really could have been innocent??????? Since you're the only one really there you'll have to go with your gut instincts. I certainly don't know. But since you were only dating, yet fighting a lot, I would say that's a bad start. The beginning is when you should be fighting the least! Good luck!
Author daisydufas22 Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 If you fight quite a bit then it's time to explore why and if it can be fixed. Unless you like fighting a lot? The probability that two different women are harassing this poor man to call and for sex is low. The probability that there is more to the story is high. Since you're the only one really there you'll have to go with your gut instincts. I certainly don't know. But since you were only dating, yet fighting a lot, I would say that's a bad start. The beginning is when you should be fighting the least! Good luck! Thank you for your honest reply:)
WTRanger Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 It sounds as if you don't trust him. Whether or not that mis-trust is all an over-reaction to something you've assumed in your mind based on worst case fantasy land or if it's real, no one on here knows except you. The point is, the trust isn't there on your end. Relationships need trust to survive and it is just an equally bad sign then the trust isn't there in the start. That's usually where the trust is given out in large quantities.
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