Getting mixed signal

[pika]

I'm very much confused in my current situation. Me and my ex broke up about 3 weeks ago. We work together, same exact shift, same exact days. The 1st week, he was awkward and stay away from me. The second week, he starting talking to me again, even worked next to me. He even remembered and bought me my favorite chocolate. He was constantly flirting and picking at me that whole week. Saturday morning, after work, we had breakfast and ended up coming back to my place and we did it... We were actting like a couple, holding hands, kissing, and he kept holding me close to him. He left and text me after he got home. Sunday morning, he texted me again to see if I was awake and we sent several messages back and forth. Then at midnight he contacted me again. This made me feel like it wasn't just sex for him. Tho, I kinda wish I didn't cause I don't want him to think that he have the benefits of a relationship without actually being in one.

 

Monday night at work, he was constantly flirting with me but in a meaner way? Idk but he still gave me alot of attention. The next day, he called out of work cause he was sick. Now, last night is what throws me off. I'm not sure if he was feeling some sort of way with me or he was just concentrating on work more. He hardly had any contact with me throughout the night. We went on break together, and I did see him trying to make convo with me but I didn't give him much to work with. Idk... maybe my vibe was giving off something cause last night, i didn't feel like in a good mood. I was curious where our relationship stood and how he felt about what happened. He did show me 3 signs that he still cared about me. Part of me thinks, he was just too busy concentrating on work.. and the other part of me is just worrying too much. I don't want to bring it up to him because confrontation usually doesn't work with him. I'm not sure if I should just give him time to talk to me about it.

 

I don't feel really depressed about the breakup and I'm willing to move on but it's hard when you work with you ex and he's constantly giving you mixed signals and signs of hope. So one period, I'm ready to move on... then somehow he does something to make me wanna give him another chance.

 

What's your opinion guys?

 

Btw, he was the one who broke up with me. Had a great relationship. He just gave up because he thoought I deserved better. But I know he has alot of feelings for me whether he says it or not.

Edited November 4, 2010 by pika

[dreamingoftigers]

If he broke up with you, I think it is time to go nc. He doesn't know what he wants and it sounds like you don't either. You are waiting for his choice and watching his moves. Let him wonder where you are at for awhile. Create some distance.