TheShyIntrovert Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 So I met a girl through some mutual friends. We really hit it off, found out we had similar interests went to the same campus etc. She asked for my number (I really should have asked for hers first but look at my username) and we exchanged phone numbers. A couple days later I sent her a text asking how everything was doing, we chatted about classes etc. and I asked if she would want to meet sometime with our mutual friends. In short it fell through, but she offered that we see a movie the next week. The plan for the movie happened and I was very surprised at how well I handled it, considering it was the first time I have ever been on a date. We chatted for about 15 minutes before the movie started and for about 10 afterwards. We also greeted each other and said goodbye with a warm hug. The problem is it has been roughly 3 weeks and there has not been a second date. I asked her out to walk in a local park a week later, but it conflicted with her work schedule. I asked her to let me know when she was free and a week went by with no response from her, no chit chat, nothing. I sent her a text this weekend asking if she was still interested in going and she said she was, and used a lot of exclamation marks and said she would let me know her work schedule for the next week. Again no response, no chit chat, nothing. So am I being blown off? Should I ask her one more time? I will be upfront and honest, I am absolutely retarded when it comes to these sort of things but you have to start somewhere.
Author TheShyIntrovert Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 I really need an answer soon, the weekend is rapidly approaching and I want other's input on what they think is going on. I would want this to work but if she is not interested then there is not much more I can do.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 DON'T text her again. Go on with your life, ask out other women, make plans on the assumption that she won't be contacting you before the weekend. If she DOES contact you before the weekend and wants to see you, but you've already made plans, tell her that. But be friendly and cheerful and upbeat, DON'T say "well, you never got back to me, so I made plans". You have plans -- period. And you DIDN'T make those plans because you never heard back from her -- you made them because you're a busy, active guy with other things in your life. Instead, say "hey, sorry, I'm busy that night. Why don't you give me a shout when you're going to be free next?" Leave the ball in her court for a change. If she really wants to see you, she'll contact you. If she doesn't contact you, you'll know definitively where you stand, and you won't have sacrificed your self-esteem in the process.
Author TheShyIntrovert Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 DON'T text her again. Go on with your life, ask out other women, make plans on the assumption that she won't be contacting you before the weekend. If she DOES contact you before the weekend and wants to see you, but you've already made plans, tell her that. But be friendly and cheerful and upbeat, DON'T say "well, you never got back to me, so I made plans". You have plans -- period. And you DIDN'T make those plans because you never heard back from her -- you made them because you're a busy, active guy with other things in your life. Instead, say "hey, sorry, I'm busy that night. Why don't you give me a shout when you're going to be free next?" Leave the ball in her court for a change. If she really wants to see you, she'll contact you. If she doesn't contact you, you'll know definitively where you stand, and you won't have sacrificed your self-esteem in the process. Thanks I was thinking about doing this but I was really not sure. You sound like you know what you are talking about.
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