Emissary Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Long story short, we're co-workers, I've already made a move on her, to which she rejected me, reasoning that having that kind of relationship would ruin our working relationship. She left it kind of open though, saying that maybe once we move onto other places we could see each other. No clue what that really means, either she didn't want to hurt my pride, or she honestly is open to the idea of a relationship, could go either way I'd say. Anyway, I've told her in the past before any of this happened that I'm leaving eventually to finish my schooling. She also expressed intent to quit soon as well. While it would make sense to view her rejection excuse in a different light due to this information, I'm still unsure, at work she's got a sense of professionalism(one of the reasons I find her so interesting, she's a party girl, and at her age she would stereotypically be a slacker socialite at work), so I believe there was truth in what she said. Regardless, even if I have the pre-established basis for not seeming like I quit just to have another go at her, would it be too much to ask for her number or any other personal contact information? It's all too obvious these days that I care about her a lot, that would be a giveaway that I'm going to ask again soon, and if she really didn't want a relationship with me, it would be damaging to our friendship. I'm going to be putting in my 2 week's notice in about 10 days. Is there perhaps a more casual way to prompt her for such a thing? I couldn't just verbally banish myself to the friend zone, she would know it's BS, but at the same time I feel she's willing to at least stay friends and expand that beyond the workplace. I should note that I do actually have her number and all of that(listed at work, had to call her once for work related reasons), it's more to do with formalities, the expression of intent to see each other again.
dreamingoftigers Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I you are not going to be coworkers then asking her again at the end of your tenure can't hurt anything. You might feel a little stung if it is a full-on rejection (which I suspect it is, sorry) but you might as well risk it, right?
shayan Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Dude, who cares what the **** she says, just ask her! What do you have to lose, nothing in fact you have everything to gain. And why would you want to be just friends with this girl if you are attracted to her.
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