northern_sky Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 (edited) This thought was prompted by another thread. Personally, if I've ceased contact with an ex and if the relationship ended badly, I find if very awkward when I run into his people -- whether it's a close friend or distant acquaintance. They don't seem interested in talking to me either. What exactly is the social protocol in these situations? I wonder if other people ignore like I do. I may have been on perfectly friendly terms with this other person; I may have even been sorta friends with them. But once the relationship with my SO ends, I have to break up with everyone in his life. As an example I was kind of friends with my ex's roommate. We used to have lively conversations, we even hung out once one-on-one and he seemed to generally like me. Now we're strangers. He gets on the same bus as I do and both of us turn away. I know he doesn't have anything against me, and I have nothing against him, but it's just way too awkward for us to talk after my ex suddenly cut me out of his life. Even an ex's acquaintances can be awkward run ins. When I see my ex's other roommate we also ignore each other. I find this funny, because my ex didn't even like this guy or consider him a friend. Yet it would feel somehow inappropriate to say, "hi." You know? It's just amusing to me that that one should have to carry around the awkwardness of somebody else's relationship ending. Edited November 4, 2010 by northern_sky
collegeguy_24 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I am in a similar situation. There is this female friend of my ex who I run into, a lot, even on a date I had several weeks ago. She always gives me the cold look, like she hates me, and even on my date she gave me the finger. I don't know why she does it, seeing as it was her friend, my ex, who left me. What I do is just ignore it, smile and walk away. Giving the finger back would be pointless and immature. If your uncomfortable simply talk to the friend, and say you hope there are no hard feelings between you two and you hope you can still be friends. If he doesn't want it, thats fine, at least you extended the olive branch.
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