yah Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I have allot of friends who arent all that attracted or into their husbands but theyre husbands love them and give them love they need and financial security and they just go through the motions Im getting up there in age and afraid im gonna never find a husband thats amazingly hot and is a great guy will or should i settle for these average joes who are kinda ehh looking but love me and give me emtional and hopefully some financial security? Should we settle to get the family and white picket fence? So the only problem is physical attraction? Because a man who loves and provides for his wife sound like a great guy to me.
PJKino Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think we can kill the myth that looks dont matter to women and its all about personality Looks and having a hot mate are just as important or more to tons of women
carhill Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think we can kill the myth that looks dont matter to women and its all about personality Looks and having a hot mate are just as important or more to tons of women And we'll kill it again next week
flying Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Hi Sweetie. I'm confused. I thought you were already married? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2583558#post2583558
Els Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Nothing wrong with it. But I doubt it will make you happy. Plenty of people do enter marriages for various reasons other than love: Parental pressure, wanting to have kids, etc. They don't really love their partner; he/she is just the vessel. Are they happy? Perhaps they are with the aspect of life that they married to achieve. But not with their partner. Can you live with someone you don't love for the rest of your life? Only you can answer that.
that girl Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I have allot of friends who arent all that attracted or into their husbands but theyre husbands love them and give them love they need and financial security and they just go through the motions Im getting up there in age and afraid im gonna never find a husband thats amazingly hot and is a great guy will or should i settle for these average joes who are kinda ehh looking but love me and give me emtional and hopefully some financial security? Should we settle to get the family and white picket fence? Sweetie1977 is a troll who likes to rile people up. Some past oh so charming posts Weve been seeing each other for a little over a month and hes a great guy sweet caring etc but hes way too easy going,he says he doesnt like confrontation or arguments That doesnt sound like a problem but us women deep down are submissive at some level and want our Man to take control and run things and let us know what is what If im beign bitchy i need somebody to take me down from my perch and make me feel feminine and submissive i dotn want to be the one with the final say or the loudest opinion it makes me fele masculine Is it too much to ask for me to want him to be more argumentive and opinonated and put me in my place? I always see gorgeous Men on tv that look amazing but when u walk the streets no Man looks like that its a bunch of average Joes and uglies walking around Where do these gorgeous Men hide? and why are they all on tv but none just regular guys walking the streets? Where can i find Men who look like they belong on tv? I see allot of angry guys here beause they think its still the 50's where women didnt have careers of their own and needed men well we dont anymore You have found out we are more like men then u guys thought. most of us dont want sappy roamance we dont want marriage or kids we just want to find the hottest guys to ravage us in a no strings attatched relationship So now the average joe blow guy who isnt great looking and isnt very charming is having a hard time getting women these days beause "provider" is the only thing he has going for him and its not needed anymore I just met this wonderful Man the other day sweet charming engaging,while we were on a date i realized with heels on we were the same height i might have even been a half an inch taller ,heels are a huge part of my life i love wearing heels and dont want to change my wardrobe for somebody Like most women i have huge hangups about a guy being shorter then me in my shoes,we all want to feel small feminine and dainty i feel like the Man standing next to him in heels I couldnt get over this and broke off our date i felt horrible about it for days but were attracted to what were attracted to i guess and i couldnt fake attraction regardless of his other great qualities And as flying pointed out, she has claimed to be married in January. Frankly, I'm getting guy trolling as a woman from these posts (wants to be put in her place and thinks men don't have anything to offer, the "hunks" on HGTV, has a huge height hang up just like all other women). And then look at all the guys who jump on these thread to say how lots of women marry for money and dislike their spouses.
musemaj11 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Well, I have to say like 90% of women all over the world marry for financial security. First n foremost. Emotional security comes second n physical attraction comes third.
Woggle Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I am not sure if she is troll. Those are opinions that some women do have and her being married does not mean anything.
nikayla Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I am with my current boyfriend mostly out of emotional security, and I would never marry a guy who could not provide for me (if needed). For me, it has less to do with settling and more to do with logic. We are only on earth for a short amount of time, so I would should I put up with the drama and antics of someone I love when I can a secure future with someone I admire? I have always attended well-to-do schools and universities (although I am from a working class background), and my girlfriends were brought up to value financial and social position over look (since it can be cultivated). Let's just say...these women are much happier than the women in my community, who are forced to work multiple jobs and raise children in single homes because they are 'in love'.
flying Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I am not sure if she is troll. Those are opinions that some women do have and her being married does not mean anything. Oh, Woggle, come on. Her OP says this: "Im getting up there in age and afraid im gonna never find a husband thats amazingly hot and is a great guy will or should i settle for these average joes who are kinda ehh looking but love me and give me emtional and hopefully some financial security?" But in her very first post on this board she claims to be married and talks about wanting her husband's best friend, back in January. Then all of a sudden she's on the prowl and looking for men by the end of the month. Quick divorce! Her posts hit all the hot spots: short men, cheating women, shallow women, etc. etc. Everything that could possibly get guys on here riled up. Why fall for it?? Sure, there are women who are looking for physical security and marry for that reason. Does that mean most women feel that way about their husbands? Of course not. "She" is just stirring up the hornets' nest with this post. Maybe you could resist rising to the bait?
GorillaTheater Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I'm with Flying on this. After my post on this thread, I got curious, looked up her posts, and came to the same conclusion. Just today I told someone in a PM that I've been suckered in by troll threads in the past, and I'm sure this won't be the last time.
musemaj11 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think this is where I envy women. They are very flexible in life. Since they are the approached ones, it is up to them to choose the kind of partner they want.
phineas Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Troll or no Troll since my separation & divorce I can honestly say I will not re-marry unless the woman makes as much or more money than me. I make decent money. almost every woman I meet pushing 40 is BROKE & wants marriage & kids yesterday & I sometimes feel like the only reason they are interested in me is because I can support them. No thank you. I supported my ex-wife & am still footing the bill after divorce because she made so little. She blamed me for OUR financial situation when she was the one spending money. If I remarry, it will be with someone that can contribute equally to the household.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think this is where I envy women. They are very flexible in life. Since they are the approached ones, it is up to them to choose the kind of partner they want. Men choose the kind of partners they want because they are the one's doing the approaching usually. If women aren't approached a lot and don't want to do the approaching they are in a rut. They don't get to choose, they settle with what they are given.
AD1980 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 They don't get to choose, they settle with what they are given. And Men settle for who accepts their advances
brainygirl Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think you guys are right she's a troll, but the issue remains. I also think that there is a difference between marrying someone who shares your values (hard work, career) and seeking a mate based purely on how much they make and the kind of lifestyle they can provide. I won't seriously date a man who makes significantly less than I do, but I'm a teacher so its not like I'm ever going to be a millionaire.
Woggle Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Troll or no Troll since my separation & divorce I can honestly say I will not re-marry unless the woman makes as much or more money than me. I make decent money. almost every woman I meet pushing 40 is BROKE & wants marriage & kids yesterday & I sometimes feel like the only reason they are interested in me is because I can support them. No thank you. I supported my ex-wife & am still footing the bill after divorce because she made so little. She blamed me for OUR financial situation when she was the one spending money. If I remarry, it will be with someone that can contribute equally to the household. I fully agree with this. I am so lucky my ex made a trainwreck of her life and couldn't get her lies straight in court because if not I would still be supporting her. I hate to say this but take away money and many women have no interest and commiting to a man. Misandrists even remind us everyday how they have no use for us now that women make their own money.
SilentVoice Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 What is marriage besides a financial agreement?
waynebrady Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 (edited) I fully agree with this. I am so lucky my ex made a trainwreck of her life and couldn't get her lies straight in court because if not I would still be supporting her. I hate to say this but take away money and many women have no interest and commiting to a man. Misandrists even remind us everyday how they have no use for us now that women make their own money. I agree with this. I honestly think the vast majority of all women have no intrest in men at all and would rather be alone than with a man, it defenitley seems that way after seeing how women behave when it comes to dating and relationships anyway. Edited November 4, 2010 by waynebrady
brainygirl Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I agree with this. I honestly think the vast majority of all women have no intrest in men at all and would rather be alone than with a man, it defenitley seems that way after seeing how women behave when it comes to dating and relationships anyway. Both this statement and the one you quoted are completely untrue.
GorillaTheater Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 What is marriage besides a financial agreement? Pretty piss-poor "agreement", if it's not written out beforehand. "Husband shall pay the mortgage and such other expenses as the Parties may agree from time to time in writing and signed by both Parties. Wife shall swallow twice a week and permit anal intercourse as set forth in Attachment J."
waynebrady Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Both this statement and the one you quoted are completely untrue. Then why do the behavior of women point that it is true?
Woggle Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Both this statement and the one you quoted are completely untrue. Then why do some women feel the need to constantly remind us how useless we are now that they make their own money?
bac Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I have allot of friends who arent all that attracted or into their husbands but theyre husbands love them and give them love they need and financial security and they just go through the motions Im getting up there in age and afraid im gonna never find a husband thats amazingly hot and is a great guy will or should i settle for these average joes who are kinda ehh looking but love me and give me emtional and hopefully some financial security? Should we settle to get the family and white picket fence? I agree that none of the thoughts could appear in females'brain. If he was a girl, he would not question what was more important for marriage. I assume that love, emotional connection, financial security would be on the top for a woman. But, being amazingly hot is not going to be even on the end of the list.
threebyfate Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 "She" is just stirring up the hornets' nest with this post. Maybe you could resist rising to the bait?Yup, betcha' it's a boy.
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