rebeccajones Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 To think there is a chance that I could get back with my ex? He has not contacted me nor I him in about 1 month and a half. He is coming back from overseas next week. Throughout this time I've been thinking about everything. I don't know if I would want to reconcile, but most important I don't know if he is long gone and will never want me again. So anyway I can't let go of him I guess. While everyone is saying you will meet someone, It's when you are not looking yadda yadda. I mean I can meet someone I know, but whoever I am with I will probably talk about my ex with them and compare them to him. I need more time. I just don't know if I want to lose my ex, but maybe I already have. We broke up over me wanting so much more than he would give, marriage, kids. In this time I can see his side and maybe 1yr 9 months isn't enough time to make that decision. There were other things also that we needed to talk about alot of other things. I guess this time is allowing me to reflect on everything. The thing is I can't let go of this hope and I'm afraid I'm going to be torn up if I keep holding on to it, because then I can get really hut by him if he rejects me. Also would he have contacted me by now if he loved me? I'm confused about that. I guess these are emotions and I need to think more logically. Thanks.
valpre Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 That damn hope is the hardest thing to let go of! Probably doesn't help that he is now coming back from overseas, so subconsciously you might be expecting to hear from him? My last relationship also ended for similar reasons to yours. Although our relationship was great and we got on really well, he just couldn't give me 100% and commit. It was really painful and I also had thoughts of "what if we had just given it more time". I now know that it wouldn't have made a difference. I think that after 1.5 - 2 years, a guy knows whether he sees a future with you or not. Is marriage and kids something he has never wanted, or did he say that it is something that he does want, but just not ready to give to you? If you feel like it's going to really hurt by taking a chance and contacting him again, then best to give it more time. It will set your healing back.
Author rebeccajones Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Yea I do think I need to give it more time so that I can heal. I think he sees a future with me, but he has not ever wanted marriage or children. Thank you for your reply, and yes subconsciously I am expecting to hear from him, DUH we are broken up! Thanks valpre
valpre Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Hehe, not really so DUH! it's totally normal for the mind to work like that Yip, more time is a good thing, helps us to get a better perspective once all those crazy thoughts and emotions have settled down a bit.
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