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Why does it hurt so much ending something so bad?


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Just ended a 4 yr rollercoaster ride of a relationship. We met online 4 yrs ago, we were both in the middle of divorce. Im now 52 she is 44. She has 2 kids daughter 21 and son 6. The daughter is from a past bf who left them after he found out she was pregnant. He was also physically abusive. The son is from an ex husband to whom she was married to for 11 yrs but left as he cheated on her. She grew up without a dad around, both her bio father and adoptive father left before she was 8. Her mom has been married 4 times. She also was date raped by an ex bf and aquired HSV2. She suffers from anxiety and is on medication for it. We had a very strong sexual attraction to start, but not a whole else in common. I guess because of the sex i just overlooked all that. We were definately eachothers rebound relationship.

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It hurts like that because you were willing to overlook so much and still invest, that makes the loss even harder.

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IMHO there is usually a reason we are willing to stay in a bad LTR. The reason usually has something more to do with us than the other person. It is very positive that you recognize you didn't have much in common and that your LTR was a roller coaster.

 

I suggest you seek counseling to look at some of the deeper issues (if you aren't able to do it yourself). Make your adjustment, learn from this rollercoaster, and don't get on it again in the future.

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