skydiveaddict Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 It's not so much 'she slapped him', but rather 'she slapped him and showed no remorse til 3 days later and thinks he needs to get over it'. I'm sure you see the difference. Yes I see the difference. And you are most likely right. But one little slap I would soon forget about. But that's just me.
JustJoe Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 SDA, You were probably taught , like me, that it is never OK for a man to strike a woman. A great many women know this and will slap a guy, KNOWING he won't slap her back. This shows disrespect on her part, and a complete lack of self-control. If I were the guy, I would dump her a$$ in a heart-beat. Not because it hurt or anything , but because it was a sign of contempt.
skydiveaddict Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 You're right, I was raised that way. But still, being slapped by a girl is a trivial thing to me. I can let go of it easily.
Eclypse Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 We are all real men here no doubt and the slap itself most likely didnt hurt much. I take some pretty big knocks during my basketball games (i was covered in bruises last week) and just carry on. But what matters is principle dammit! You just *don't* hit the person you're meant to love!
skydiveaddict Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 (edited) True, but I can tell you that I am verbally disrespected by female officers who will never see one day of combat, and that angers me more than any little slap I might get. I bet Just Joe could tell you the same. Or he has at least seen it I figure if you made her angry enough to slap you, you at least half deserved it. It's almost always a two way street, although hitting a woman is never acceptable. Edited November 4, 2010 by skydiveaddict
JustJoe Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Not just Female officers, but ANY non-combat officers, will show their a$$, from time to time. But this is different. She is supposed to be his GF, and treat him with love and respect. I don't think that ANY relationship, in which there is violence, is a good or even adequate one. For me it's the lack of respect that would be the main issue.
JustJoe Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I wasn't a bad officer, but then again, I knew that I was never going to be C.O.S. either.:laugh:
skydiveaddict Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 doesn't matter, COS or not:D I bet you wouldn't let non combat officers talk to us like that
JustJoe Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Well, Yeah, I did get a letter of reprimand, for cussing out an AF major, in Afghanistan, but this is thread/jacking, so I won't go into it. The bottom line is that the OP is very lucky that her BF is even willing to talk to her, and she needs to PROVE that she has learned her lesson, if he will let her.
Idalis Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think a lot of women think that its okay to hit a guy b/c we're smaller and more frail. But a slap HURTS and its wrong no matter who is doing it to who. That is the ultimate display of disrespect IMO. I think you should re-evaluate your mechanisms of dealing with anger/ issues and I personally would not speak to someone who slapped me ever again, but maybe he will forgive you if you really turn a new leaf.
skydiveaddict Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Like I said (Sir) it's a two way street. She probably shouldn't have slapped him, but he obviously said something to least half provoke it. I'm still giving Lia the benefit of the doubt. And since we can't slap back I can only wait for further commentary from her. Or a female officer
skydiveaddict Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Well, Yeah, I did get a letter of reprimand, for cussing out an AF major, in Afghanistan, but this is thread/jacking, so I won't go into it. . Got some good Afghan stories too. I'll PM you
skydiveaddict Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think a lot of women think that its okay to hit a guy b/c we're smaller and more frail. But a slap HURTS and its wrong no matter who is doing it to who. That is the ultimate display of disrespect IMO. I think you should re-evaluate your mechanisms of dealing with anger/ issues and I personally would not speak to someone who slapped me ever again, but maybe he will forgive you if you really turn a new leaf. Indeed. I've changed my thinking completely. Us guys are smaller and more frail. No more being slapped for me. THAT IS IT! Hello ,911?
JustJoe Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Got some good Afghan stories too. I'll PM youWait until tomorrow, I've got to hit the rack. See Ya.
waynebrady Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Like I said (Sir) it's a two way street. She probably shouldn't have slapped him, but he obviously said something to least half provoke it. I'm still giving Lia the benefit of the doubt. And since we can't slap back I can only wait for further commentary from her. Or a female officer If he slapped her for the same thing would you give him the benefit of the doub't? I'm guessing offcourse not. It's not ok for a woman to slap a man ever no matter what, the same goes for men. Why do you think it's ok for a woman to slap a man? It's not that it hurts, it's shows extreme disrespect and lack of class. Maybe you have to accept that not all men will accept being treated that way by their girlfriend, That doesn't make us any less of a man. It's perfectely normal to have physical abuse as a dealbreaker.
harmfulsweetz Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 (edited) See, I'm not going to condemn you, or condone it. It did happen, but you need to understand why it happened, so you can stop it happening in the future. I see many people's points about the fact that she knew there would be no slap back from him, this is true. Essentially, you are slapping someone who is defenceless against you. I'd suggest taking the time apart as time to reflect. It isn't the biggest deal to you, maybe it didn't hurt, but it probably dented his pride and also, dented his trust in you, you shouldn't ever hit someone you love. I know how it is, how easy it is to just lash out, but when it's done, it's done, and you have to also appreciate that while, to you, it's not a big deal, to him, it is. Appreciate what it has shown you, about yourself, about your relationship and accept responsibility for it. Own it. Don't just phone him, go over there and discuss it with him. Tell him it'll never happen again because next time, you won't drink as much, or at all, you'll walk away from him if you get the urge, it's no good coming to him with empty apologies you have to make him see that you are prepared to stop this behavour right now, and are taking measures to curb it. I'd like to point out that the fit of blind rage is never an excuse, because I'd bet that if you thought he would hit you back, you wouldn't have hit him. I find that interesting, because I was watching a chat show thing, and the host was riling the guy up (he repeatedly beat his wife, blaming the 'fit of rage') and the host made an excellent point. He said that he was riling X up, but though X was angry, he was controlling it because he knew the host would react and respond in kind, so it's not a lack of control. Just a thought. Edited November 4, 2010 by harmfulsweetz
Author LiaPrincess Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 He's not coming back as I haven't gotten a single call nor written messages from him. Well I called him once, several days after our last conversation and he hanged up immediately. After that, I respected his wish not to be called again but till this day he hasn't contacted me not even once.
Memphis Raines Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 To make a long story short my boyfriend and I got into an argument while drunk. It was about the time he's spending with his friends vs with me. Anyways I got irritated and so slapped him. It created a sound but didn't think it was hard till I saw his some redness on his face. It went away after several minutes but then I was left all alone. He actually walked away on me without even saying goodnight nor anything. if a girlfriend slapped me, I'd be gone. don't try to excuse your physical reaction. doesn't matter how hard you think the slap was. what would you do if he slapped you? and don't tell us its different when a guy slaps a girl. its not. and you're mad that he didn't say goodnight? can I ask how old you are?
Memphis Raines Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Oh come on, what's with all the condescension towards her. So she slapped him. It's not the end of the world. Her boyfriend should stop acting like a pussy. what if he slapped her back? wouldn't be the end of the world
Memphis Raines Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I would have end up crying, take a taxi home and tell everyone of my friends and family what he did. precisely. so why are you upset about him leaving and not saying goodbye? I'm sure he didn't smear you to his friends and family.
Hules Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 (edited) If my GF slapped me I would dump them on the spot. It's not about been so much physically hurt as it is showing a complete lack of respect and classless to say the least. There is never an excuse to physically assault someone whether man or woman, any man worth his salt would not put up with crap like that and just walk away. And to the guys saying her BF is acting like a "pussy" over been slapped. Let me ask you this which one is more acting like a man A) Letting your "girlfriend" get away with physically assaulting you because you are such a man. OR B) Showing that you wont tolerate crass anti social behavior and that you have self respect for yourself, so thus having the balls to walk away and find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Edited March 24, 2011 by Hules
Memphis Raines Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 If my GF slapped me I would dump them on the spot. It's not about been so much physically hurt as it is showing a complete lack of respect and classless to say the least. exactly. its not about being a "pussy". if someone has to resort to hitting the other person, then it shows a lack of respect. Not to mention being slapped by someone shows that the perpetrator doesn't really value the relationship. Just like cheating, how can you hit someone you claim to care about?
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