Mattock5656 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I was just wondering if other guys have been approached by other females. Of course, I realize that most men have to do the approaching but have you ever had just a female walk up to you randomly and take the intuitive? If so, did you feel awkward with her doing that, or you thought it was pretty cool? For me, I rarely get approached by women. Often times, they will give lots of hints which sometimes doesn't turn out correctly. I either don't realize that there giving out hints and then sometimes when I do, they end rejecting me lol. I hear on the forums that more and more females are taking the initiative which is interesting but it hardly ever happens to me.
zerovandez Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 It happened to me twice. All good experiences. Just don't count on it happening all the time or don't try hard. Just be yourself, be fun. It'll happen eventually.
musemaj11 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 You have to be exceptionally hot to have girls approach you.
zerovandez Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 You have to be exceptionally hot to have girls approach you. I disagree. I'm not hot or anything. Compliments I normally get are cute and/or handsome. I'm 28 and 5'11". My friend is about 5'5" and he gets even more attention. He's not hot either. We're just normal and have fun when we go out. It's just a matter of who finds you attractive. But why are you waiting for the ladies to approach you? If you get a second look from a girl, approach her. That's worked for me too!
DazednConfused Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 You have to be exceptionally hot to have girls approach you. I'm here to tell ya.... no... you don't. It's partially a benefit of my job, but I get approached at least a couple times a week. While I do make an effort, i consider myself unattractive by traditional standards (tho I'm not Shrek either). I always have fun regardless of what I'm doing, and that is attractive. I'm very secure in my skin and unfailingly friendly. I'm not shy, but never pushy either. It really is true... stop trying so hard and they will come to you... Get out and play. have fun for yourself. Women want an experience way more than they want "just a guy". If you are enjoying your own experience, they will want to be a part of it. -Dazed
waynebrady Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Women never approach men, ever. Women are totally unwilling to take any sort of initiative with men.
donnamaybe Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Women never approach men, ever. Women are totally unwilling to take any sort of initiative with men.So what you're saying, then, is the guys in this thread who say they've been approached by women are NOT men?
denise_xo Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Women never approach men, ever. Women are totally unwilling to take any sort of initiative with men. Well, I have, so you're wrong.
Green Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I've been approached by women a few times. It's a real ego boost. If I was single I wouldn't wait for a woman to approach me because it easily might never happen with a girl you want to date. You need to just ASK girls out if you are the man, not the other way around.
zerovandez Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I always have fun regardless of what I'm doing, and that is attractive. I'm very secure in my skin and unfailingly friendly. I'm not shy, but never pushy either. It really is true... stop trying so hard and they will come to you... There ya go, it's proven! Having fun and being yourself works!
PJKino Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 No Never had a women even show slight interest..
Cracker Jack Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I've been approached by women quite a few times. It really does feel good. Unfortunately, I've never did anything except walk away (Because I got really scared and uncomfortable) or mumble a few words (Like my name and major, whenever they asked) to them and nothing more than that. I can't believe how many times golden opportunities I've blown with women. Yeah, I suck.
DazednConfused Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Women never approach men, ever. Women are totally unwilling to take any sort of initiative with men. Not so - great hunter; said the spider to the fly. Your own attitude is killing you. "Never" "Ever" "totally", etc. Dude, so many people have tried to make you see... I dunno why I bother, except I see a guy who is making himself miserable. Nothing is gonna make you attractive to women until you decide you personally have something to offer. In my case, I'm not handsome, I lost my money along with my business a couple years ago, hell, I have little prospect of ever being rich again. But I'm freakin fun! I'm one hell of a good time with or without a woman. I'm modest too An example of self-fulfillment; Veeeeryyy hot blonde regular in my bar, always been friendly, even a little flirty with me. I, in my infinite and all-encompassing wisdom had already placed her "outta my league"... assuming her minor flirtations were my imagination and never picking them up and running with em. Monday night... she comes in; bringing what is obviously a "first date" and they take seats at my end of the bar... k, lemme tell about this winner: he was around 6', prolly 240, at least ten years her senior, and the look of an athlete gone to seed. He was quite rude to my waitress, tho not to me, (nobody is rude to me and gets to stick around tho, and, with a warning was decent to my waitress after that), he had a George Castanza do, triple chin, and was dressed like he slept in his khakis and cheap golf shirt. As they were at the bar, I heard the vast majority of their conversation as it progressed, and I am 96% certain that not only was this asshat going to get lucky on a first date; but she was taken in by a huge amount of "player" bull****. My partner bartender even took me aside.. "WTF is she doing with Captain Caveman??!!" (yeah, we have both crushed on this girl for some time); my point... I put this girl out of my league, never even tried, and had to watch her leave with a jerk who isn't half the man I am. I have a girlfriend, so it's a moot point, but I've known her longer than my girlfriend, and had I acted while I was available... maybe... You will miss every shot you don't take. It's that simple. -Dazed
TheMENemy Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 So what you're saying, then, is the guys in this thread who say they've been approached by women are NOT men? We are not men, we are Devo.
tman666 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 It's happened to me a few times, but it's few and far between. The first time I was approached, she ended up being my gf for about 2 years. The other times have led to dates with the approacher's friend, hahaha. Other times it's been from females that I thought were friends only, and it weirded me out. The traditional "male chasing the female" thing is still alive and well, but that the opposite has been steadily increasing in prominence. Waiting around for a girl to ask you out is probably going to leave you very lonely for extended periods of time though.
sanskrit Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 It depends. If I am out with attractive women, it is almost assured that I will be approached and flirted with by other women, usually directly and very boldly. If I have had time to establish social value from the environment, I will often get approached. If I am alone, and just eating, drinking, doing errands or hanging out with a friend, it is very rare for me to get approached, no matter how good I am looking at the time.
Author Mattock5656 Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 I've been approached by women quite a few times. It really does feel good. Unfortunately, I've never did anything except walk away (Because I got really scared and uncomfortable) or mumble a few words (Like my name and major, whenever they asked) to them and nothing more than that. I can't believe how many times golden opportunities I've blown with women. Yeah, I suck. Thanks guys for the responses. Ya, man I am the same way. Things just ALWAYS happen unexpectedly and I just sometimes lose my words etc. Also, I am horrible at reading signals. People will tell me she was hitting on you or she was checking you out or walking a lot near you. But of course, I don't realize it is happening half the time. I can at least think of 5 times where I could spark a conversation with a female, and probably would of most likely had good results based on their body language but I end doing nothing lol. Like literally, if many more females were blunt this would make it alot easier for me. Although, of course not everyone is like that. I was just curious. Just as I expected, its up to me pretty much to get a female. I just gotta work on that.
Surrealist Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 (edited) What do we mean when we say "approach"? If it is a woman coming up and asking outright, then no, except years ago when an older woman I liked asked me a couple of times to kiss her because, well, I'm a good kisser!! But I've received numerous flirtations, some of which have been pretty obvious. But like a lot of guys I didn't seize on those opportunities, though I have reciprocated flirting gestures which has continued the exchange for sometimes months on end lol. Oh well. EDIT: Hold on! Hold on! I have also been approached on two occasions from women who have outright asked me for sex and on both occasions turned it down! Hahahaha. This was also some years back, my memory is not too good these days! Edited November 3, 2010 by Surrealist
tylerdurden Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Its happening quite a lot to me, but It doesnt mean Im getting more sex than people who don't get approached as Im very difficult, and I better be alone than in bad company, not to mention girls that tease you and then flake.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I used to get approached by women occasionally when I was a student, or when I was doing things where I was in contact with women regularly. Now I work 9-5 in IT and hardly know any women at all, plus I rarely go out, so it simply doesn't happen.
USMCHokie Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Yes, this happened to me this past summer. I was standing outside in front of a bar with my roommate, and this girl left her group, walked over to me, and literally, without a word, started running her hands over my torso and arms. The first thing she said was, "how do you stay in shape...?" Followed by, "I hope this isn't awkward..." We dated for about a month.
curlygirl40 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Women never approach men, ever. Women are totally unwilling to take any sort of initiative with men. I think all you have to do here is drop the 'n' at the end of your second sentence and you'll have a true statement. But just because they don't take the initiative with you, doesn't mean they don't do it.
carhill Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I was just wondering if other guys have been approached by other females. Sure, got approached many times during my marriage, both by single and married women. After, it's been only married women. No clue why.
callingyouuu Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 As a consequence of hanging out in a semi-socially awkward crowd, I have been approached by girls, and it's been almost as many times as I have been doing the approaching. Or maybe that's just a consequence of me not approaching enough people. Who knows?
Sivok Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 My first girlfriend was the one who was doing the approaching. I seem to get approached most times I go out. You just really need to be comfortable in your own skin and know how to let go/have a good time. Seem fun and approachable, and you'll get approached. That's that really.
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