summerl0vesyou Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 UGH!!! So. the ex has contacted me a few times, after saying he wouldnt contact me and got mad at me for trying to and said "legal talk only" so weve talked about normal stuff a few times. he has gotten better about our convos and now we laughed together. he wanted to make sure i was taking care of myself because i havent always. and i asked him why he kept talking to me and he said "idk i guess i just wanted to see how ur doing" blah blah. So that was my first annoyance. u need to check on me every week? thats ur excuse? he read a paper about him i wrote for my class(a sad one, about my love and about the place we first said we love each other), pointed out a spelling error, and then told me goodnight after being quiet for a half hour. UGH So he unblocked me on facebook. and now i can see things hes said. one girl in particular, a blonde hoe for lack of better words, he is constantly commenting on her pics and statuses and it HURTS and im GROSSED OUT!! It looks like flirting!! It kills but at the same time im like WTF is wrong with ME to still love this douchebag that cant step up to the plate, say he loves me, or be with me, and is hitting on other girls??? and posting pics of his shredded body of course. LOSER!! UGH!!! im so upset though!!
SadGirl23 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 gotta cut that string unless you want to feel like this forever. i realized that when i cut the string.. yeah my ex is pretty much over as far as hitting me up.. not sure what his feelings are and thoughts, but i do know that if you allow them to think they have control to decide..when theyre in control they usually don't make any decisions... they just fxck around til either their tired, no longer interested, or realizes they made a big mistake. your story seemed like it was going on for awhile now... and yet he is still bullshyttn .??
stopthemadness Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 UGH!!! So. the ex has contacted me a few times, after saying he wouldnt contact me and got mad at me for trying to and said "legal talk only" so weve talked about normal stuff a few times. he has gotten better about our convos and now we laughed together. he wanted to make sure i was taking care of myself because i havent always. and i asked him why he kept talking to me and he said "idk i guess i just wanted to see how ur doing" blah blah. So that was my first annoyance. u need to check on me every week? thats ur excuse? he read a paper about him i wrote for my class(a sad one, about my love and about the place we first said we love each other), pointed out a spelling error, and then told me goodnight after being quiet for a half hour. UGH So he unblocked me on facebook. and now i can see things hes said. one girl in particular, a blonde hoe for lack of better words, he is constantly commenting on her pics and statuses and it HURTS and im GROSSED OUT!! It looks like flirting!! It kills but at the same time im like WTF is wrong with ME to still love this douchebag that cant step up to the plate, say he loves me, or be with me, and is hitting on other girls??? and posting pics of his shredded body of course. LOSER!! UGH!!! im so upset though!! Hi, seems to me that you are so not ready to be his friend. You still love him and hes moved on..Gess stop looking at his facebook and stop reading about the flirting. Youll start feeling better when you get that he sounds like he wants to be a man whore right now and let him be. Hope you feel better,,Good luck..
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 block him/delete him on facebook.
Author summerl0vesyou Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 hes moved on- so why has he been contacting me after telling me for months that i need to go away why is he popping up and trying to talk to me, making excuses to? UGH! WHY! why is he doing this to me! why did he unblock me? he knows im not over him, why on earth would he put me thru that or try to be my friend? JERRRRKKK
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 hes moved on- so why has he been contacting me after telling me for months that i need to go away why is he popping up and trying to talk to me, making excuses to? UGH! WHY! why is he doing this to me! why did he unblock me? he knows im not over him, why on earth would he put me thru that or try to be my friend? JERRRRKKK yeah, he sounds like a jerk. He's talking to you because he can and he knows you will reciprocate. None of this really matters! What does, is that you don't deserve to put YOURSELF through all of this so you must make the effort be out of contact from him. Summer, DELETE him from facebook, delete his number. If it helps, if he ever texts you, don't even read it. Just delete it.
paleblue Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 SadGirl is right. cut the cord. it is the only way you can move on in your life faster. one shot per person in our lifetime. that is all we get. I had the unpleasant experience of dealing with an ex gf who wanted to remain “friends”. I even work with her. I questioned her motives. why? if you are so happy with your new life and your new bf? why continue to contact me?? turns out, it was all about her. she just wanted that ego stroke when it was good for her. nothing else. friendship with conditions. she doesn’t care what I am doing, how I am doing, doesn’t care if I am doing well, or dead in a ditch somewhere. and I just felt worse more than anything when she would contact me. once I realized it was a friendship that only suited her needs, I cut the cord. Tho I was nice about it. I just said listen, I don’t hate you, im just not comfortable with you with a bf. I said I cant make everyone happy and right now, and I have to do what’s good for me. if your status ever changes, sure contact me if you might want to talk as friends, and I might be interested, not promising you anything. she got real mad, why? because I took back my power. I have to teach her all over again how I will allow her to treat me. it just goes to show people like this aren’t taking your feelings into consideration. they are only thinking about themselves. if they really wanted to be with you, they would. but they are not. they are with someone else. and it is annoying. it sounds like yours is being a selfish a hole, knowing how you feel , all while he is with other women?? wow, what a total douche bag. you are totally stroking his ego. and making him feel good, all while it drives you insane. cut it lose. delete the facebook thing. move on. you gotta do what is best for you. he isnt coming back. and even if he does it will never be the same. even if he does, he will just run out on you again. sorry, but that’s the truth. it doesn’t matter even if he is “shredded” . so what. good for him. ya its sad, but taking back your power is what will put you on the path to moving on and getting over this nightmare. your other option, just keep doing what you are doing and keep going crazy with mental torture. eventually you will get sick of it : )
havehope Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 paleblue hit the nail on the head. My ex does that too - he ended it but contacts me with sweet / checking in texts. WTF bro. I'm going NC and I think it will help. (not to beat a dead horse). I'm happy though that you see it for what it is - an ego stroke. Good for you, because that's half the battle sometimes. Stay strong :-)
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