SithLord Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 After trying to work things out with my X and giving her my final farewell, she's dead to me now. I went back to her 3 times after dumping her, I guess that Taste of freedom and the new guy did the trick. I have inner peace although I'm going to deal with the glitches. Today was the end, I went into NC and she played games, game over. To grown for that. She called me And told me she understood my letter, is not what she wanted, so I said good night and click. She's dead to me and never to be mentioned again, I'm fighting the voices in my head that she'll come back, forget that...she's dead in my head. Lets see how much I really meant to her.
dng Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Man. What's hard with this type of situation is that I find that I constantly lower my standards of what I find acceptable. Its hard to really hold on to that thought that "things went too far". I find myself, after a few days, understanding of the situation and of what happened and even if I dont want to admit it to her, I get over it without even trying or meaning to. There is of course a consequence. I get mad at myself for what I perceive as a sort of treason of my own decisions and feelings and take it out on her when she tries to reach out to me.
Balance11 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I had nc with my ex for 5 month, then i heard recently she missed me and would get back with me, however its not happening. Likewise my ex messed me around hence why i cut all ties to her, removed every trace of her from my life. I was angry, told myself she was dead to me, but after awhile i started to see things differently. Saw my own faults and things i could have done actually things i should have done, decided to forgive both what i had done and what she had. She isn't dead to me anymore, lifes to short to be holding grudges and any other of that bad karma ****, she's simply not part of my life anymore and being perfectly honest I'm happier and the experience made me a better person. Dont be too harsh or angry, look at your title 'SithLord' it has real life implications if you look into it, hate and anger just eat away at you till your nothing but a empty bitter shell of a person. Forgiving someone even if you don't ever speak to them or see them again is better and makes you the better person.
alwaysoverthinking Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I understand what you're going through, man. You posted on my thread, so you know my story a bit. I took her back, and she screwed me again. However, after 30 days of no contact from the day she dropped me, I've been doing some introspective thinking about how I handle relationships. It's been an eye-opening experience. The problem with that is, you start to say, well, if I had done this differently or that differently, it might have gone differently. In other words, the self reflection will be good long term, but it has made the no contact more difficult. It's hard to place someone in the "dead to me" category so quickly after you had such strong feelings for them. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. I've found that the only time I've become indifferent to any of my exes is when I meet someone new.
Author SithLord Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Balance, was she with someone else? I know she's dead to me, never to be heard from again by me. She can have him and her shhhhh....no mercy!
Balance11 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 She chose her other ex ,who cheated on her and hit her, over getting back with me, i apologised for my own mistakes, she and her ex took the piss out of what i wrote over facebook, i deleted her and every trace and no contact since then which has been 5 month now. She is still with that same ex even though she misses me and would get back with me. If anything i pity them both, i'd rather be single for the rest of my life than in a deluded relationship. Nah fu** the no mercy sh**, its weak, forgiveness is the better option good karma and all that good sh**
Author SithLord Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 I'm trying to get rid of that voice in my head that she will be back one day! I truly want to Forget her...
Balance11 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Its simple, delete ever trace of her, facebook,photos,phone number,texts anything and everything that is linked to her. Have some time to yourself, meet some other women, nothing serious just mutual fun, couple months down the line you'll be on here giving other people this advice for their break ups.
Author SithLord Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 I know my stuff, I just want to truly forget her like I did when I was cruise controlling..
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