U1987 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 A lot of girls have really short and really vague online dating profiles, by which I consider 5 or less sentences. For example, there's this girl close to me when I did an area search on my online dating site. i love music and hanging out with friends and family. i want to work in the medical field/pshycology. i know what i want and wont settle for less. That's it. That's the WHOLE THING, and there's tons of girls like this. What do I do? How do I get to investigate this girl and others like her?
carhill Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Some just put anything in so there's some text. They figure men look at their pictures, decide whether or not to contact them, and go with that. I remember the ancient days, long before eHarmony existed, where one had to go through a whole interview process before even posting an ad. That's how my exW and I met. A woman (or man) couldn't post an ad without doing the interview. When I was doing online dating earlier this year, I just passed up ads like you describe. I knew right away the lady was incompatible. Really good information
Sabali Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I tried online dating for a hot minute. I am glad I did. The first woman I started dating on there had absolutely no profile yet received a google amount of responses. You know why she could get away with this? Yep. You got it... she was not only a woman but she was a very pretty woman. She didn't need to post a profile and tons of guys came running. She contacted me first, otherwise, I don't think I would have replied since I was new to the experience. All most women need to do is post their pics on online dating site. There are enough desperate guys out there to respond. Trust me. My responses to those with short profiles like the one you gave is to expand on what little they gave out. It works like regular conversation when you approach any woman. You play off what little they give you and expand it into a full blown conversation. Most of the time, I was just messing around and it turned into something. For example, a woman I replied to had a short profile of about 5 sentences but in that five sentences she mentioned a book that I had read. When I first contacted her I told her that I read the book and that it was one of my favorite books. I then went into how I first was recommended the book, how it was when I was reading it, and my favorite parts of the book. I then asked her a question at the end that allowed her a chance to reply. She replied and she asked me questions in return. I replied and it went on from there. So ask her what she wants to do in the medical field. Then talk about that career choice and ask her questions about it. Look for any opening in her reply to expand the conversation and branch out. Smooth transitions! Once she is hooked, ask for her email address. Email back and forth a couple of time then ask her for her phone number. This things is always about making smooth transitions. Make it easy for her to go to the next step because it is only a small step from the previous step. Keep it progressing.
Author U1987 Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Some just put anything in so there's some text. They figure men look at their pictures, decide whether or not to contact them, and go with that. I remember the ancient days, long before eHarmony existed, where one had to go through a whole interview process before even posting an ad. That's how my exW and I met. A woman (or man) couldn't post an ad without doing the interview. When I was doing online dating earlier this year, I just passed up ads like you describe. I knew right away the lady was incompatible. Really good information How many women did you have to hit up before you got a date, because I've sent emails to 20+ girls and I've only gotten 1 number and no dates
carhill Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I cherry-picked three whose profiles I enjoyed reading and dated two of them, both for about 4 dates. Another lady contacted me first and we dated briefly as well. Since I was firmly separated at the time but not yet divorced, I didn't expect anything significant. I value a woman who can communicate with the written word and who cares enough about the process to share something of herself in the ad she places. Each of us values different things. Also, I'm older. Younger people tend to rely more on their appearance, which is normal. There will come a time, if I live long enough, that the women will be swarming me, simply because all the other men are dead
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 How many women did you have to hit up before you got a date, because I've sent emails to 20+ girls and I've only gotten 1 number and no dates That's slightly above my usual hit-rate, but not abnormal at all. Usually I get about one response in ten (can be as bad as 1 in 15), although that depends on the site. Plenty Of Fish is the absolute worst site I use for no-responses and flake-outs. With regards to vague profiles, I tend to skip those as it shows that a) they're probably not that serious about OLD b) they lack imagination c) they're incapable of stringing more than a few words together Having said that, there are exceptions. I've got a date this Saturday with someone I came across on Match; her profile was new and she hadn't written anything in her profile, although she had completed the basic details where it lists height, body type, best feature, ideal date etc. I simply sent her a wink (because her profile was empty and I didn't want to waste my time) and she wrote back.
alexlakeman Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Those that have short profiles, and I want to contact, I just send them a quick email , that they sound interesting, etc. but need more info since your profile is so short. If they want to respond, fine, if not, oh well.. Not much else you can email them if they don't give you any info.
TheMENemy Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 It sounds to me like the lack of information provided in the profile is creating mystery, intrigue, and interest. Take it all with a grain of salt.
Alexanda Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I have browsed dating websites to see if I would even bother joining and I wouldnt. I HATE profiles like that!! If people are paying for a service with their hard earned money you would think they would put DETAILS in their profile!! I think people who have a couple of sentences in their profile aren't serious about finding a relationship. People dont have to write their life story, but a few paragraphs would be nice. I dont think its worth it to investigate girls like those. They might just be looking for a casual relationship unless that is what you are looking for.
ascendotum Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I think thats a pretty lousy profile. If she only had added 'I love to laugh, travel and have fun', then she would have had me. Sabali - you have 'very pretty women' cold contacting you on online dating site!! Why are you here.
ascendotum Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 (edited) ........................ Edited November 3, 2010 by ascendotum duplicate post
Sabali Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 (edited) I think thats a pretty lousy profile. If she only had added 'I love to laugh, travel and have fun', then she would have had me. Sabali - you have 'very pretty women' cold contacting you on online dating site!! Why are you here. I get a lot of insight from this place that helps and I enjoy interacting on it. Probably a little too much, really. I should be working most of the time I am on here but have an annoying case of insomnia so I get a lot of my work done through the night. There are even married men who frequent this forum too. Edited November 3, 2010 by Sabali
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