How many believe after everything, that you can still restart the spark with your ex?

[fun2bewith]

Which is easier to re-start or easier to forgive or never to forgive?

 

Senario

1) He/she cheated on you

 

Senario

2) He/she is married now

 

Senario

3) You had NC for 4 years

 

Senario

4) You dated when you were younger and 5 years later you are old enough.

 

Senario

5) She has a child now with the once she cheated you on with

 

Senario

6) You were in a LDR and now you are living in the same town

 

Senario

7) She/he was your first.

[strength-abounds]

1. Never, 2. Never, 3. Never, 4. Never, 5. Never, 6. Never, 7. Never

 

If I could, I would forgive my ExW for the horrible s**t she did to me. I am not absolved from blame, I helped in the downfall of the marriage. However, she screwed around on me and that's unforgivable. Period.

 

These people (exes) are ex's for a reason.

[fun2bewith]

1. Never, 2. Never, 3. Never, 4. Never, 5. Never, 6. Never, 7. Never

 

If I could, I would forgive my ExW for the horrible s**t she did to me. I am not absolved from blame, I helped in the downfall of the marriage. However, she screwed around on me and that's unforgivable. Period.

 

These people (exes) are ex's for a reason.

 

I can just imagine how you must feel! I am so sorry to hear that sir. I wish I could give good advice, but I am in a similar story where the girl cheated...All I can try and say is that : nothing is forever lost, it is just misplaced...Hope you can find some peace, cause I feel your pain...

[SadGirl23]

Which is easier to re-start or easier to forgive or never to forgive?

 

Senario

1) He/she cheated on you

 

Senario

2) He/she is married now

 

Senario

3) You had NC for 4 years

 

Senario

4) You dated when you were younger and 5 years later you are old enough.

 

Senario

5) She has a child now with the once she cheated you on with

 

Senario

6) You were in a LDR and now you are living in the same town

 

Senario

7) She/he was your first.

 

Honestly, the only way I could of gotten back with my ex for sure if he broke up with me because he had a mental breakdown due to some issues like financial, school, depression due to a death, anxiety and to know TRULY that it was a mental breakdown, that is the only way I could see myself trusting the person again in some sort of way as they were going thru a tough time. BUT

 

Breaking up because you want to explore others, NO, breaking up because you explored another party, HELL no, breaking up due to LDR and now live in same town MAYBE, all the other scenarios, no as I probably would of fell out of love for sure because of NC knowing how the person didn't care to respond, etcera etcera.. NO NO NO i would not get back with the person.

[alwaysoverthinking]

I think a lot of it depends on how they handled the breakup. Were they honest? Was their reasoning understandable? Were you genuinely at fault on some things? I once dated a girl who basically broke up with me because she had moved to a different town, and it was too hard for her to maintain the relationship, because there was no end in sight to the distance. I understood that. At the time, I felt like if she moved back, we could work things out. Eventually, however, my feelings faded. But if they hadn't, I don't think I would have been opposed to another shot.

That being said, I'm in a situation right now where, even if I swallowed my pride and took my ex back, it wouldn't work out. I couldn't ever fully trust her, at least not for a long time. Plus, my friends totally hate her for the way she handled the break-up. When you think about it, that sometimes can matter more than you think. You can't be in a relationship with someone when you can't really share that relationship with those who are close to you. I think people overlook that at times.

[ReturnToSender]

I can admit it. Im hopeless. Its still hard to believe he actually did the things he did, and now he has been the same guy that I fell in love with in the first place. For a long time I felt like there was no way on gods green earth we could ever be together again, and now Im second guessing myself. Hopeless I am.