fun2bewith Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Did I gave her closure when I handled her cheating so well and ended the LDR of 14 months? (We saw each other 4 months per year) She cried a lot for cheating on me and I comforted her, told her that we will be together one day because I believe we are a perfect match...I told her that it was not her fault and that I should have appreciated her more… I told her we can’t speak for 3 months…She told me she loved me and missed me so much...I am in NC for 9 days and today is hard...And I know she is dating him now... If I gave her closure now, would I ever have a chance in the future to re-connect?
TomerT Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 fun2bewith, if this nick indeed reflects your personality - I almost sure in 3 months you will be completely over her and with new gf. You made her a HUGE favour by comforting her...you released her from any feelings of guilt..."ye, he is right, it's not my fault that I cheated on him, it is his fault. I'm pure angel, victim of circumstances" - this what she thinks now... And no, she didn't love you - love and sleep with others does not get along (in my dictionary). The question you should ask yourself - why the hell do you want re-connect with her ? Are you her puppy, that she can use whenever she feels lonely ? Concentrate on yourself. Cut her completely from your life. I am telling you from my own experience. I am ~40 days total NC with my cheating beloved gf and I really happy that I could hold it. I hope I will not break it..NEVER !
Leandro Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 You've only been in NC for 9 days and she's already seeing this other guy? Don't waste your time anymore. Stick with NC and don't break it! I've been in it for 2 months now. It does get easier with time. If she loved you, she wouldn't have cheated on you. Yes people do make mistakes, but actions speak louder than words. She's with him now, so she isn't sorry.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 fun2bewith, if this nick indeed reflects your personality - I almost sure in 3 months you will be completely over her and with new gf. You made her a HUGE favour by comforting her...you released her from any feelings of guilt..."ye, he is right, it's not my fault that I cheated on him, it is his fault. I'm pure angel, victim of circumstances" - this what she thinks now... And no, she didn't love you - love and sleep with others does not get along (in my dictionary). The question you should ask yourself - why the hell do you want re-connect with her ? Are you her puppy, that she can use whenever she feels lonely ? Concentrate on yourself. Cut her completely from your life. I am telling you from my own experience. I am ~40 days total NC with my cheating beloved gf and I really happy that I could hold it. I hope I will not break it..NEVER ! Thank you for the reply, I know you are right and it is so hard to face that reality...You made 40 days! Well done! I am pushing and fighting hard not to contact but my goal now will be 40 days... She will probably not contact me again since she already deleted her FB profile and cut all posible conection with me...Now I am going on dates but I do not know if that is helping or not, I seem to feel more sad after I go on these dates... You seemed like you have a lot of respect for you previous gf.. That is great! Take care...
Author fun2bewith Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 You've only been in NC for 9 days and she's already seeing this other guy? Don't waste your time anymore. Stick with NC and don't break it! I've been in it for 2 months now. It does get easier with time. If she loved you, she wouldn't have cheated on you. Yes people do make mistakes, but actions speak louder than words. She's with him now, so she isn't sorry. Thank you for your time: You are 2 months into NC that is great!...Did she try to make contact with you within these months?
Leandro Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Thank you for your time: You are 2 months into NC that is great!...Did she try to make contact with you within these months? Nope. She's with the other guy.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Nope. She's with the other guy. You are strong! Take care man! One day they do realize their mistakes, too late and then, we have moved on, they are where we were once... Best of luck man!
Leandro Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 You are strong! Take care man! One day they do realize their mistakes, too late and then, we have moved on, they are where we were once... Best of luck man! Oh she will. She's still young and immature. She's in high school. Oh well. It's her loss. I would have been a damn good husband for her. Everyone knows. I deserve better and will find better.
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