bsilmb Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 hi, so I met this girl at homecoming about a month ago. it turns out she's partially deaf but can hear just fine with cochlear implants. we texted for hours and hours and hung out a few times at football games since then. tonight she came to the game and about halfway through, I asked her out. she said yes and asked what I'd like to do first. she mentioned movies, dinner, something like that. so what exactly should I do? I'm pretty sure it will be just me and her, but there may be a friend initially. so she's getting her license soon. I just need good advice on dates, and when to start kissing and being more intimate. we hug on a regular basis, but I'd like to hold her hand and things like that. any advice would be wonderful, thank you! so we've texted every day for at least 3-4 hours a day, never really running out of things to say. I tell her how pretty she is and stuff of that sort(I mean every word of it) yesterday we hung out all day. we cuddled around a fire, then cuddled while watching paranormal activity:) (I had my arm around her, we were really close, like kissing distance) how do I stay romantic but not clingy? how many dates before I go for a kiss? how to not seem desperate, but also seem in love? we mainly hang out on weekends, and are going on our first real date this weekend. probably dinner and a movie. please give some advice ladies. I've never felt this way about anyone (: we live about 20 minutes from each other. I would do anything to stay with her. I think I've actually found a girl who's right for me. just how can WE stay together for the rest of high school, and maybe eventually, marry?
Author bsilmb Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 and we may go to the movies and to dinner this weekend. what should I do then?
Author bsilmb Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 can anyone please give some advice??
Sabali Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I have two pieces of advice for you. The first is to unquestionably follow the advice I will give you below. Stop over-thinking this! Just go with the flow. A man getting together with a woman has been a very natural process from the beginning. Let things happen naturally! If you over-think this and make your moves calculated, especially when you could quite possibly be naturally good with dating, those calculations could be your downfall. You are jumping the gun here. Matter-of-fact, the gun may never fire for you so stop sounding the alarms. Relax. Only after screwing up with women repeatedly on dates do you come here. Try not to visit this place again unless you are really stomped with dating. Again, I wouldn't question this plan.
Author bsilmb Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 I have two pieces of advice for you. The first is to unquestionably follow the advice I will give you below. Stop over-thinking this! Just go with the flow. A man getting together with a woman has been a very natural process from the beginning. Let things happen naturally! If you over-think this and make your moves calculated, especially when you could quite possibly be naturally good with dating, those calculations could be your downfall. You are jumping the gun here. Matter-of-fact, the gun may never fire for you so stop sounding the alarms. Relax. Only after screwing up with women repeatedly on dates do you come here. Try not to visit this place again unless you are really stomped with dating. Again, I wouldn't question this plan. how can I not screw up with her? that's the advice I'm looking for. I mean, I always have an idea of whatdating will be like until I actually start dating someone. she seems like a long term relationship kind of girl, and I want that too. just how can I do it right? and maybe answer the above questions too. thanks so much
DazednConfused Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 can anyone please give some advice?? Be the man. Respect the woman. The first kiss; you'll know. Have one of those nice hugs or cuddles... gently reach over and, two fingers under her chin so you are eye to eye, lightly stroke a thumb over her cheek bone and take a slow relaxed kiss. No groping, just hold her face to yours while you kiss her... when you pull away run your fingers back along her jawline and off her chin... Something like "Wow...seems like I've been waiting forever to do that" or "Even better than I imagined" is pretty great. Don't wait too much longer, or she's gonna quit and put you in the friend zone. -Dazed
Author bsilmb Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Be the man. Respect the woman. The first kiss; you'll know. Have one of those nice hugs or cuddles... gently reach over and, two fingers under her chin so you are eye to eye, lightly stroke a thumb over her cheek bone and take a slow relaxed kiss. No groping, just hold her face to yours while you kiss her... when you pull away run your fingers back along her jawline and off her chin... Something like "Wow...seems like I've been waiting forever to do that" or "Even better than I imagined" is pretty great. Don't wait too much longer, or she's gonna quit and put you in the friend zone. -Dazed ok that's great advice! also, we only get to hang out about once a week for 3-6 hours. sometimes it's two or more days a week. once she gets a license, it will become almost every day. so untilthat happens, which could be a couple months, what kind of dates should we go on. and just some more advice in general, thanks!
810 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 walking in the park, go swim, people watch, museum, arts, fairs etc. just be active about kissing, when you feel it, go for it. best if it's not planned.
Author bsilmb Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 any more general advice about dating? we are young so it's also kinda new to us. we are going to the mall which has a theater in it. so my plan is, movie first, dinner after (so there's topics of conversation) and to break the ice. we've known each other for a while, so while officially it's our first date, it's really not our first date. and it will be a double date, not because she wants to, but it's required at least for now. I still plan on kissing at some point during the date, but am not sure when would be the best time. so some more advice on this would be fantastic to tell the truth I've never kissed a girl and also never really had feelings for a girl, and could care less about her deafness. I would love advice from someone who maybe found love young or anything similar to this situations
Author bsilmb Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 any more general advice about dating? we are young so it's also kinda new to us. we are going to the mall which has a theater in it. so my plan is, movie first, dinner after (so there's topics of conversation) and to break the ice. we've known each other for a while, so while officially it's our first date, it's really not our first date. and it will be a double date, not because she wants to, but it's required at least for now. I still plan on kissing at some point during the date, but am not sure when would be the best time. so some more advice on this would be fantastic to tell the truth I've never kissed a girl and also never really had feelings for a girl, and could care less about her deafness. I would love advice from someone who maybe found love young or anything similar to this situations bump . .
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