so about a girl

[d1qaz]

i suppose i'll start from the beginning. i knew this girl for a very long time from school. we kinda kissed a few times over the summer in highschool. then when i graduated i didnt talk to her for along time. then one day on her birthday she texts me and tells me to come over. at this time she had a boyfriend. i went over and we hooked up. her relationship was really bad with her boyfriend at the time. i gave her something shes never seen. so we started talking and she broke it off with him. while we were still in the beginning stages of talking, i got with another girl, and told her about it. mind you we havent established a relationship yet. after i told her i hooked up with someone then we made it official we would be together. then we started a real relationship. but then she breaks it off with me because she was leaving for college after the summer. so i said we could still be friends and mess around in the bedroom. at that time while we were having sex she went back to her ex boyfriend and had sex with him. i had to ask her if she was doing anything with anyone before she told me. i told her i never wanted anything to do with her but ended up forgiving her and we had a great summer together. then the end of summer comes and she leaves for college. i told her i didnt want to be with her because i thought she might do something stupid and hook up with someone else. and of course she did hook up with someone. but her story is that she was at a frat party and a bunch of her friends were in a room together and they all walked out, and some guy walked in, sat by her and moved in for a kiss really quickly, and she said as soon as their lips touched she got up and walked out. and the guy is my friend from highschool so i asked him what happened and he said that we kissed everything was cool and she left later that night. now im telling her i want nothing to do with her and shes begging me to be with her. she says she never wanted to kiss him and all she wants is to be with me. she keeps telling me she will do anything. after i told her i didnt want a long distance relationship with her i didnt talk to her for a week. during that week is when she hooked up with the guy. and i had to ask her again if she did anything with anyone before she told me. i feel like she loves me and truly wants to be with me but she still put herself in the situation to be taken advantage of. what is a brother to do? shes coming home friday because she wants to talk to me in person so she can cry up a storm and let my soft side accept her again. so confused help me please

[dreamingoftigers]

It sounds like you have had a really rocky start-up and so forth. It doesn't sound like you guys have much of a foundation and that you should be much more discerning about who you have sex and relationships with. I would go NC with this one and start fresh with someone I could respect.

[wicar1]

i suppose i'll start from the beginning. i knew this girl for a very long time from school. we kinda kissed a few times over the summer in highschool. then when i graduated i didnt talk to her for along time. then one day on her birthday she texts me and tells me to come over. at this time she had a boyfriend. i went over and we hooked up. her relationship was really bad with her boyfriend at the time. i gave her something shes never seen. so we started talking and she broke it off with him. while we were still in the beginning stages of talking, i got with another girl, and told her about it. mind you we havent established a relationship yet. after i told her i hooked up with someone then we made it official we would be together. then we started a real relationship. but then she breaks it off with me because she was leaving for college after the summer. so i said we could still be friends and mess around in the bedroom. at that time while we were having sex she went back to her ex boyfriend and had sex with him. i had to ask her if she was doing anything with anyone before she told me. i told her i never wanted anything to do with her but ended up forgiving her and we had a great summer together. then the end of summer comes and she leaves for college. i told her i didnt want to be with her because i thought she might do something stupid and hook up with someone else. and of course she did hook up with someone. but her story is that she was at a frat party and a bunch of her friends were in a room together and they all walked out, and some guy walked in, sat by her and moved in for a kiss really quickly, and she said as soon as their lips touched she got up and walked out. and the guy is my friend from highschool so i asked him what happened and he said that we kissed everything was cool and she left later that night. now im telling her i want nothing to do with her and shes begging me to be with her. she says she never wanted to kiss him and all she wants is to be with me. she keeps telling me she will do anything. after i told her i didnt want a long distance relationship with her i didnt talk to her for a week. during that week is when she hooked up with the guy. and i had to ask her again if she did anything with anyone before she told me. i feel like she loves me and truly wants to be with me but she still put herself in the situation to be taken advantage of. what is a brother to do? shes coming home friday because she wants to talk to me in person so she can cry up a storm and let my soft side accept her again. so confused help me please

 

She's not worth it...find someone else....just leave her....else she's gonna cause you more pain

[coltsfan1]

she is doing the same to you that she did to her ex, when things where rough for them she called you. When things got ruff for you two she called someone else, RUN AWAY!!! that isn't what you want to hear I know sometimes i get on here just to be told to run myself..

[surgical]

dont make yourself a fool, try forgetting him.. its no good if you still keep on having connection with him.. its really no good

 

- Shannon