straycat99 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Okay so this particular ex and I broke up about 7 months ago, he tried to get with me again about 3 months ago but I had a boyfriend at the time. For the most part we always had a very playful relationship; we had a lot of fun together. When he tried to get with me I informed him I had a boyfriend, he continued to flirt with me, I kind of blew up at him and told him we needed more time apart and that was 2 months ago. I texted him the other day and said hi, that I was just wondering how he was doing, and he never responded. I texted him again asking him why he was ignoring me and he didn't respond. He has NEVER ignored me before, not even after we first broke up. Is what he's doing ok!!?? I mean, am I totally wrong to think it's really rude? Why doesn't he just say he doesn't want to talk to me, wouldn't that be easier than completely leaving me in the dark? I really don't understand!
Leandro Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 He probably didn't like how you blew up on him. He may also be trying to heal and get over you completely before talking to you. He doesn't have to say anything to you either. Just wondering, but why do you want to stay in contact with him if you have a bf?
Lemontang Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Like a lot of people in his situation he's probably going NC. He's likely trying to move on from you and doing so by cutting you out of his life. He had a crack, failed, then moved on.
whichwayisup Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 The answers are in your post. When he tried to get with me I informed him I had a boyfriend, he continued to flirt with me, I kind of blew up at him and told him we needed more time apart and that was 2 months ago. I texted him the other day and said hi, that I was just wondering how he was doing, and he never responded. I texted him again asking him why he was ignoring me and he didn't respond. He has NEVER ignored me before, not even after we first broke up. Is what he's doing ok!!?? I mean, am I totally wrong to think it's really rude? Why doesn't he just say he doesn't want to talk to me, wouldn't that be easier than completely leaving me in the dark? I really don't understand! He is your ex, not a lover, not even a friend. You yelled at him, told him to give you space, and he's given it to you. He probably was hurt that you yelled at him, but is over it. Besides, you have a boyfriend now, so worrying about an ex isn't a good idea. He's your ex for a reason.
Author straycat99 Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Well my more recent boyfriend and I have actually broken up. I understand the NC thing is probably still a good idea. But to just completely ignore someone is so rude, so out of line. Sometimes an ex will call me or text me and I'll just be totally honest with them and say, "Hey man, I'm still not totally ready to hang out or talk to you again", which is actually pretty much what I did with the ex who is ignoring me. I mean, WHY ignore someone completely? I just don't understand the logic behind it. Why not just TELL them you aren't interested in talking to them? I guess I just don't see what point they're trying to make by ignoring you! I mean, we're both 28 years old; who has time for this crap? I say he should just tell me to f**k off, then we both move on from it!
skydiveaddict Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I say he should just tell me to f**k off, then we both move on from it! I agree. ............
whichwayisup Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 You still don't get it. When he tried to get with me I informed him I had a boyfriend, he continued to flirt with me, I kind of blew up at him and told him we needed more time apart and that was 2 months ago. So now you and your current boyfriend have broken up, you've reached out to your ex, said Hi and he chose to ignore you. 1)You blew up at him, asked for space. 2)It's been 2 months since you two have spoken and then after all this time you send him a text? Why not a phone call? Say sorry for yelling at you before, but it wasn't cool that you made moves on me when I was seeing someone else. Or something along those lines. You seem to forget that you were the one who basically told him F-OFF. He has and now you don't have a boyfriend anymore, you reach out and he's chosen to ignore you. Maybe he's blocked you on his cell..Maybe he's moved on, has a girlfriend. Either way, a text is too casual, if I were in his shoes I would do the exact same thing. If you want to find out what is going on, CALL HIM and don't play games.
LisaLee Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 (edited) Look, if he doesn't want to talk to you he doesn't have to respond to you, nothing rude about it. You guys have not talked in 2 months. Your not his friend, and he's not yours. What is rude is you almost demanding a response from an EX who you YELLED at the last time you talked to him. I think the point he is trying to make by ignoring you is loud and clear: He doesn't want to talk to you. Edited November 3, 2010 by LisaLee
Lauriebell82 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I don't think it's rude for an ex to ignore you. Especially since you yelled at him the last time he talked to you. He probably wants to avoid all the drama of it. I think you are going after him on the rebound, hoping that he is still going to be there for you to date. He may even suspect this is your reason for contacting him. Why do you need him to tell you to f off anyway? I don't think you would be okay with him saying that, you would probably get upset and he probably knows that. By not responding he is washing his hands of the whole dramatic scene that would ensue. I think you need to move on and forget about your ex. And take some time to get over your break up. Hooking up on the rebound is NEVER a good idea.
Joe Normal Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Well my more recent boyfriend and I have actually broken up. I understand the NC thing is probably still a good idea. But to just completely ignore someone is so rude, so out of line. No - blowing up at someone is rude and out of line. Ignoring someone who acts like that is perfectly fair, it's just giving them a taste of their own medicine.
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