HeartOnSleeve Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Ok folks, I'm sure some of you have read my previous posts...and yes this is the same guy! Ha-ha. He is great, kind, very handsome, and we have a lot in common. It feels as though we have known each other so much longer than 2 months. We had a little pow-wow and I can't recall how this came up but the gist was this: He said that he is taking things slower than usual with me because he was hurt in his last 3 relationships where he went "full on" and then the girl just "out of the blue" ended things. He said he is finding it hard to trust again. But then he assures me that he wants to see where things go with me and that he really likes me. I can see his point, I agree as he's not the only one with some baggage, but I can't help but think I am getting the short end of the stick. lol. I feel as though I have made a conscious effort to open myself up to a new relationship and love. One minute it appears he is opening up and we talk about taking a weekend trip etc. and the next he seems a little distant/scared. As he wants to "court" me, I left most of the "balls" in his court. BUT I was thinking about surprising him with a romantic picnic date since he is always talking about taking me on one but just never follows through with it; from what I can tell out of fear. Input on this would be great and if you are Pro on the romantic picnic date...any suggestions on what to pack? If you are Con...why? Thanks Guys!
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Really looking for opinions on this one Help...
kassi90 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 (edited) Well, in a sense I can see why you feel like you're getting the short end of the stick, but if you look at the bigger picture, giving him some space could score you a successful long-term relationship! And that's something those other girls weren't able to have. I know it can be really exhilarating to just completely get involved in the beginning of the relationship, but maybe its best things did go slower. Also, slow doesn't necessarily mean boring. It just means you'll get to enjoy that "new relationship" feeling longer. In the end I think it would make the bond between the two of you much stronger because he would know that he can trust you no matter what. On a side note, I don't see how the picnic could hurt anything. i say do it! Edited November 3, 2010 by kassi90
welikeincrowds Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Hmm, I guess a picnic couldn't hurt.... He said that he is taking things slower than usual with me because he was hurt in his last 3 relationships where he went "full on" and then the girl just "out of the blue" ended things. He said he is finding it hard to trust again. I don't want to be fatalist, but from this I'd say that he's really warning the both of you. You should be cautious, for your own sake, too. Trust is a shared bond; if it's not on one side, it can't exist on the other. Furthermore, you don't know why 3 of these girls (in a row!) ended it, and you don't know if he'll end it with you too. People do like to stay in their patterns. Relationships end up working not because there's no risks involved, that's true, but because there are risks that both people endeavor to take. That's the meaning of progress. Take it easy, HeartOnSleeve!
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 Thanks Guys, yeah I will give the picnic a go ahead...can't hurt. I'll have to wait till he is better.
TheMENemy Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 any suggestions on what to pack My picnic packing list: 1. Wine 2. Cheese 3. Condoms 4. Lube
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