TerryV Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 My wife and I split a year ago. I used to check her face book every day and for 3 months now I havent checked it once. I have resisted. Its a mutual friends b day and I posted on his wall and she posted on there. For the past ten minutes I have been staring at her name and went to click on it but didnt. I have logged off cause I cant stop myself, well I guess I can because I didnt but why does it feel so temping! Why the hell do I want to click on it! I know its gonna be on my mind for the rest of the evening now, why cant i just see her name and not be bothered
WTRanger Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Just continue to do what you've been doing. Know that if you check, you will get reset back to square one. But if you resist, you will feel better tomorrow knowing that you can control yourself.
Author TerryV Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 I stopped myself but god I miss her
worlybear Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Stay strong!:bunny:. We're all here for you.
Author TerryV Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Will my hard work be rewarded one day and I will be able to look back and not feel like this about her?
Author TerryV Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 What hurts most is there is prob another guy on the scene and he is sleeping in the bed i bought and the bed we used to share together, I know the trick is to not even think about that but sometimes it just pops into my head grrrrrrrrr
Whatsagirltodo Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Will my hard work be rewarded one day and I will be able to look back and not feel like this about her? I wonder this myself, I can only hope so. If I even begin to think about checking it, my stomach turns. Stay strong TerryV!
marcs Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 dude just block her that way she wont come up in any feed whatsoever and she cant see you
sarahkm Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 (edited) DELETE then BLOCK. that's what i had to do with my ex. at first i thought deleting (without blocking) would be sufficient, unfortunately my ex has a fairly public page so even with deleting, i can still see 75% of his page. in my case, i have the password of another ex who is friends with this current ex so if i really wanted to, i can STILL see his profile if i log into my other ex's account. and there's no way i can tell that ex to change his password because then he would know i've been logging in as him. too much info sucks! as it's coming back to bite me in the ass. i also deleted him off as a contact on gchat and there's no way to reverse that without "inviting" him. thankfully. because if it was easily reversible, i would've added him back 10x by now also, just an idea, i found some of the WORST pics of my ex on facebook and then used one of them as my wallpaper on my computer. so i can see him whenever i want (which is why i guess i kept visiting his fb page), so i'm hoping being able to see his pic will deter me from unblocking him anytime soon on fb. and i'm also hoping it will come to a point sometime soon where i can be like...wow...i liked that?! making a list of all the horrible things about them helped me ALOT before with another ex. however this one didn't have enough problems (luckily nor were there many exceptionally happy moments - thank God), so i just run a hand full of things in my head over and over. in your case my silly little antics might be temporarily mildly effective at best because you guys were married, but for anyone else out there reading these posts, maybe it'll help in softening the blow. Edited November 3, 2010 by sarahkm
rebeccajones Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 3 months is great! I haven't looked for one day. Over the weekend I was obsessed with his page which really has no info thank God, since I deleted him, but I would look at the info there, friends, event and likes. Pathetic!!! Anyway today I got over it. It's annoying. Sorry about your wife, try to stay strong! There's billions of other women in the world, there is one that will love you!
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