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Cant get over him ! =( after such a long time ...


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My boyfriend broke up with me 5 month ago, he went to another state for some working program, and after 4 month being there, decided that he doesnt need me. I was down .

We were together more than year, and than we found another girl and decide to forget me. I was shocked, i couldnt speak, and still i feel pain in my heart. I cant remember how did i go throught this, but t was the hard times ...

he was the one for me, my first love, the one, who i`ve trusted to. And he went to another state, he was telling me the lies all the time, that i am the one forever and always, and cheated ...

Until this time we didnt talk ... i just know, that he has my contact, but probably he doesnt need me... as well i know that he is still together with that b*tch he left me for .

But the problem is - i cant get over him.

I still thinking about him, sometime feel such a strong pain i cant escape ...

sometimes i do ask myself -is it my fault?

is it possible to get over ?????????

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Lisa,

 

Your anger is clouding your judgment and your still hurt by the circumstances. You need to forgive him for what he did to you. Forgive him for all the lies. Forgive him for cheating and most importantly, you need to forgive yourself for allowing yourself to get hurt like that.

 

Once you forgive him, your anger will subside and you should be able to let go. Please remember that people are not perfect and make mistakes. Don't hold grudges because it makes everything harder.

 

Most importantly, if you love them, set them free.

 

Cheers.

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I agree with the above poster. Forgive him, but don't tell him. Just forgive him inside your heart. Try not to hold a grudge. I hold many and it hurts.

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Totally agree... Yes its possible to get over, and once you're able to let go of the anger, pain and the grudge its all uphill from there. Granted there are still pangs here and there, but no where remotely close to how you are feeling now. It does get better though...

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