joliefan Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 We both share a trailer and on a lease renting. We have been together 3 years. 3 miserable years for me. He is an alcoholic from hell, and has a stinking attitude when he drinks, which is almost everyday. I have broke it off with him several times in the last year but my loneliness wins and i let him back in my life. Lately though he has been making me look really bad in front of people. Yells obscenities at me all the time no matter who is around. Is beligerant, and immature..Whats ironic is this man is opposite when he is SOBER..the sweetest man alive...but i cant take the multiple personality anymore. Dr.Jekyl Mr.Hyde has to go...This is going to get us evicted. Anyway, i told him its over, to leave and i can pay the rent here. He refuses. I have no place to go, i cant just leave cuz of other circumstances. Its easier for him to leave. How can i get him to go? I tried the police and other legal measures, like a restraining order.. NO success. He refuses to take himself off the lease. When i tried, he befriended the landlord, which made it worse. I dont want to be homeless again like i was before this.
2sure Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 It sounds like you need to focus on getting your ducks in order so that you can leave.
PegNosePete Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 If you're both on the lease then he has just as much right to stay as you do. Unless there are fears for your personal safety then there's nothing you can do to make him move. As long as no crime has been committed, the police won't intervene. As long as the rent gets paid, the landlord is happy. You best plan is to sort yourself out and move.
lapse Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 We both share a trailer and on a lease renting. We have been together 3 years. 3 miserable years for me. He is an alcoholic from hell, and has a stinking attitude when he drinks, which is almost everyday. I have broke it off with him several times in the last year but my loneliness wins and i let him back in my life. Lately though he has been making me look really bad in front of people. Yells obscenities at me all the time no matter who is around. Is beligerant, and immature..Whats ironic is this man is opposite when he is SOBER..the sweetest man alive...but i cant take the multiple personality anymore. Dr.Jekyl Mr.Hyde has to go...This is going to get us evicted. Anyway, i told him its over, to leave and i can pay the rent here. He refuses. I have no place to go, i cant just leave cuz of other circumstances. Its easier for him to leave. How can i get him to go? I tried the police and other legal measures, like a restraining order.. NO success. He refuses to take himself off the lease. When i tried, he befriended the landlord, which made it worse. I dont want to be homeless again like i was before this. You said you got a restraining order... he would have to leave if you did. How did that work? I just want you to remember... your safety is the most important thing here, not where you live. Reach out to some resources in your area (community service agencies - e.g., your local community action agency). They can help. I know you don't want to leave, but when the other person refuses and there are no legal imperatives forcing them to leave, your only choice is to take control of the situation and get yourself out. I'm sorry you're going through this. You will be stronger away from this person, I'm certain. In the meantime, dig down and autopilot yourself to some outside resources. It's humbling, but necessary. You *will* recover from this when you say that enough is enough.
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