DellPickle Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Okay, so this is new territory for me and I would like some advice as I know its impossible to script anything, especially when developing a relationship. I asked out a girl from work Sunday after she hung out with me and my friends and she said yes. Im gonna call her today and finalize our plans for Friday. Im not worried about working together, we work in different departments of the office and rarely see each other except after work. My question is how do I develop this? All my relationships have either been me or a friend (of at least a year and a half) confessing our feelings for each other or me getting a girls number with the intention of seeing if there is a potential for a relationship. Lets call this girl Lauren, she just started working at my office four months ago, and we've developed a good friendship, and we are to the point where we text almost every day, even if its just a couple texts. We have hung out outside of work with coworkers, just the two of us and with a group of my friends. A lot of what happens depends on how Friday goes...but if its good, how should I approach things after that? How should I go about increasing contact? Should I leave the weekly contact the same for this week, just a few texts and then increase contact next week? Any advice would be much appreciated as this is a bit of a new situation for me. Not only the working together which keeps us both pretty busy, but the point in her and my friendship...its always been right away or after a strong friendship has developed. Thanks!
EasyHeart Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Frankly, it sounds like you're in a pretty good position. I would suggest you keep your at-work contact minimal -- keep the work relationship separate from the romantic one. See how your first date goes, and then play it by ear from there. Get to know her better and slowly build up the frequency of your contact. If you're already texting daily, then I guess it's okay to keep that up, but don't intentionally increase it. Get together with her once a week to start, and if things go well, gradually start spending more time with her. Good luck!
Author DellPickle Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Frankly, it sounds like you're in a pretty good position. I would suggest you keep your at-work contact minimal -- keep the work relationship separate from the romantic one. See how your first date goes, and then play it by ear from there. Get to know her better and slowly build up the frequency of your contact. If you're already texting daily, then I guess it's okay to keep that up, but don't intentionally increase it. Get together with her once a week to start, and if things go well, gradually start spending more time with her. Good luck! Thanks, so I feel I have gotten a lot of good signs from her, just since the last girl I talked to who showed positive signs (not as many as the current girl) but then she just stopped returning my calls and texts after our second date...Ive come to doubt my skills at reading woman some....I work in data analysis, so um yeah it is part of my personality... I'll just go with the flow!
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