loverofloveandstuff Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Okay, I've written about my best guy friend before. I'll give a short summary. We dated I broke up with him We became best friends Lately I've started to like him romantically Now I REALLY like him, maybe even love and I feel dishonest and awkward and am considering stopping all contact with him because I can't be bothered with all the emotional heartache this could potentially lead to I'm definitely not going to tell him how I feel. I just won't do it. He knows too much about my work history (he is the only person who knows everything in regards to this) and because of that, I am almost certain he would never ever consider me girlfriend material and I don't want to be just some girl who he hits and quits. He also knows about my personal history and how messed up I've been and my issues with all the guys I have dated since him. I also feel sh*tty when I am around him sometimes because he is a reminder of what I have done in the past as he is the one whom I confided in. Anyways, how should I go about stopping contact with him? I feel bad, because we usually speak everyday and I feel like I'm not being fair if I just start ignoring him and don't tell him why. How do I do this NC subtley? I know this is really stupid, but I even thought about picking a fight with him and then stopping contact with him so then he thinks that is the reason. I don't want him to know that I love him. Help!
Author loverofloveandstuff Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Also... a question for the guys: if you knew how messed up a girl's past was but knew she was totally different today... would you ever consider her as a potential SO if you found her attractive?
WTRanger Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Also... a question for the guys: if you knew how messed up a girl's past was but knew she was totally different today... would you ever consider her as a potential SO if you found her attractive? If she was honest and open about it, then yes. If she keeps it in the dark and shrouded in secrecy, then no.
WTRanger Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I know this is really stupid, but I even thought about picking a fight with him and then stopping contact with him so then he thinks that is the reason. I don't want him to know that I love him. Help! So let me understand this. You are willing to create, start, and engage in a petty fight just to avoid telling him how you feel? How is that better than being honest? You think you feel like crap now, wait until that nagging little voice in your head starts reminding you what you did to him simply to protect your self. The truth is, you don't really care how he feels. You are only trying to protect yourself. The best way is to tell him how you feel. Anything else is just needless drama.
Author loverofloveandstuff Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 So let me understand this. You are willing to create, start, and engage in a petty fight just to avoid telling him how you feel? How is that better than being honest? You think you feel like crap now, wait until that nagging little voice in your head starts reminding you what you did to him simply to protect your self. The truth is, you don't really care how he feels. You are only trying to protect yourself. The best way is to tell him how you feel. Anything else is just needless drama. No, I wouldn't do that, as I said I know that's stupid. I was just trying to show the extent of my irrational thinking. And I do care about how he feels, I just care about how I feel more.
Author loverofloveandstuff Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 I slept on it and I know this is a complete 180 but I have decided I don't like him/love him at all. I still don't want to be friends with him anymore though.
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