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If you noticed, I said similar things to the OP in many of my posts. However, I suspect a lot of people skimmed right over those comments before calling me a troll.

 

I don't see where you're going with this. You said everything you wrote.

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You are attractive. You are a pretty girl. There is nothing wrong with your nose. You have great cheekbones and skin. Mascara, eyeshadow and blush would accentuate your beauty but more importantly work on improving your low self esteem. This thread can't do that for you.

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You are pretty given that you don't seem to be wearing any makeup or anything. With some makeup, your hair styled, and wearing a nice dress and high heels, you would be gorgeous.

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My skin is naturally very, very pale. So that's not something I have much control over. I don't believe in tanning, because I know it has bad effects on the skin.

 

Neither do I, anymore...remember? You can still be pale and have a glow. Use some blush. And smile. Smiling makes EVERYONE more attractive. :)

 

Wow...

 

That probably makes me feel worse than anything else written on here.

 

Why?

 

I think it's because you look....tired. Also, what Sarah said about someone's own attractiveness level playing in to their opinion probably has an impact here too. I'm 32, and often get told I look younger. Also, OG is 31 (I think?) but I feel like you look a couple years older than us.

 

Also, I know some people had comments about your nose in particular...but I gotta say, I didn't notice it AT ALL.

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You are pretty given that you don't seem to be wearing any makeup or anything. With some makeup, your hair styled, and wearing a nice dress and high heels, you would be gorgeous.

 

She's definitely wearing base/foundation and lipstick, at the very least. You can see it.

 

But yes, with the right makeup and hair styling, she'd be much prettier.

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Also, I know some people had comments about your nose in particular...but I gotta say, I didn't notice it AT ALL.

 

Actually, I looked again, and I'm convinced there is NOTHING wrong with your nose. It's quite cute, actually. Your PS did a great job. :)

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Neither do I, anymore...remember? You can still be pale and have a glow. Use some blush. And smile. Smiling makes EVERYONE more attractive. :)

 

 

 

Why?

 

I think it's because you look....tired. Also, what Sarah said about someone's own attractiveness level playing in to their opinion probably has an impact here too. I'm 32, and often get told I look younger. Also, OG is 31 (I think?) but I feel like you look a couple years older than us.

 

Also, I know some people had comments about your nose in particular...but I gotta say, I didn't notice it AT ALL.

 

In real life people usually assume I'm younger than 27, and this is when they have no context.

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I was looking for opinions on the purely physical. I wanted the opinions of strangers because I figure they'll be more objective, and I'm trying to understand why I have trouble getting male interest.

 

Well, you've now heard several men say that they would definitely be interested in dating you...so it's not a case of your facial features holding you back. They're an asset, not a liability.

 

I think there are two words that can sum up how to attract male interest. Be interested. The moment you catch a man's eye, he's going to start looking you over. If you catch it again, you're letting him know that you're receptive to an approach (sorry to sound like I'm narrating a wildlife programme about mating rituals).

 

Once you're talking, a lot is out of your control because it's down to whether the guy is your type. Does he make you laugh? Do you find him interesting? If he doesn't, and you don't, then unless he's very lacking in social awareness, he's probably going to drift away fairly quickly. If, on the other hand, you are interested in what he's saying, and responding positively (laughing, smiling etc) then his increase in you is likely to be increasing degree by degree. Most reasonably healthy people like the individuals who like and are interested in them.

 

So I suppose you should ask yourself how often you experience interest in and attraction towards a man when you're talking to him? If you're not feeling it very often, then that could be a big part of the problem. When you're talking to a man, ideally you're wondering who he is and what makes him tick...and he'll be thinking the same back about you. If either one (or both) of you is focused on "I wonder what he/she thinks of me" then possibly sexual chemistry is a lot less likely to develop.

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I was looking for opinions on the purely physical. I wanted the opinions of strangers because I figure they'll be more objective, and I'm trying to understand why I have trouble getting male interest.

 

I don't think your face has anything to do with why you don't get approached or asked out. And I think deep down you actually know this. But it's easier for you to blame the external, rather than do the hard work of working on what's on the inside.

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Poll: do you guys think I look my age -- 27?

 

From those pictures, if I did not know your age, I would guess between 25-27.

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Hey, uh, Northern, you say guys don't approach you.. Well, do you honestly think that many other guys DON'T have the same uncertainties and insecurities? We're all human.. (Well, most of us.. :p ) A lot of guys are probably just intimidated. Do you put yourself out there?

 

Maybe you should just figure out what your hobbies or interests are and join a group or go to places that interest you and try to meet a like-minded individual there? Talk to them, you don't have to ask them out if you don't want to, I'm sure someone will ask you out if you put yourself out there. If it comes down to it and you DO meet a great guy but he doesn't ask you out because he may be shy or apprehensive, just ask him out. What have you got to lose?

 

And I'd say you look like you're in your twenties.

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Whoa, whoa, whoa. Slow down there, cowboy. What the males here say only matter if the OP would find them attractive.

 

Same goes for your opinion, unless OP is bisexual/gay.

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Same goes for your opinion, unless OP is bisexual/gay.

 

She actually considers herself bi, but I don't think she's ever actually been with a woman.

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She's definitely wearing base/foundation and lipstick, at the very least. You can see it.

 

But yes, with the right makeup and hair styling, she'd be much prettier.

 

The makeup doesn't come across very well in such a rubbish photo; maybe it's more obvious in person. Her eyes aren't very well defined, and in my experience good eye makeup is what turns someone from average into stunning. Add a bit of pencil on the eyebrows, a bit of colour on the cheeks, and she would look stunning... especially if she has a good figure and was wearing a nice dress (can't really see her figure in the photo, but I'm guessing it's good since her face is slim). A smile and a bit of confidence also adds immensely to someone's attractiveness!

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Same goes for your opinion, unless OP is bisexual/gay.

 

Guys, nobody's opinion 'doesn't matter'. OP asked for you guys to contribute and you have.

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She actually considers herself bi, but I don't think she's ever actually been with a woman.

 

When I was dating I ran into that rather frequently. Is there some perception that men find Bi attractive? I think it's creepy. Just pick one and go.

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Yeah, I do. But I asked because Stargazer said I looked 35, so I was curious to hear other opinions.

 

Nothing related to your body is ever going to be such a turn off as your lack of self-esteem and your insecurity. Even that you base your mood and self-image on random stuff written on some web forum is a very bad sign.

 

If you want to change anything, make it that.

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I find the gender divide a bit surprising too. I wonder what causes it. But I guess it makes sense. As a kid I was bullied mercilessly by other girls and told I was ugly. Then it was a surprise to me when I got to college and a number of guys actually found me attractive. But it's gotten worse in the last few years.

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The makeup doesn't come across very well in such a rubbish photo; maybe it's more obvious in person. Her eyes aren't very well defined, and in my experience good eye makeup is what turns someone from average into stunning. Add a bit of pencil on the eyebrows, a bit of colour on the cheeks, and she would look stunning... especially if she has a good figure and was wearing a nice dress (can't really see her figure in the photo, but I'm guessing it's good since her face is slim). A smile and a bit of confidence also adds immensely to someone's attractiveness!

 

Agree on all points!!!

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I'm curious as I feel like I have no clue anymore. Please be honest, but don't assign me a number. Just in broad terms.

I'll only keep this up for a bit, but there are some crappy webcam photos I took of myself here. Obviously poor quality and not especially flattering, but hopefully you get the idea.

Thanks.

 

NS,

 

Your photos are not especially flattering, however you do look good. You have nice lips, pretty eyes, and an attractive face shape.

 

What I would like to know is why are you searching for opinions at this time?

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I find the gender divide a bit surprising too. I wonder what causes it. But I guess it makes sense. As a kid I was bullied mercilessly by other girls and told I was ugly. Then it was a surprise to me when I got to college and a number of guys actually found me attractive. But it's gotten worse in the last few years.

 

Oh please. :rolleyes: No one is bullying you here. No one is jealous.

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Oh please. :rolleyes: No one is bullying you here. No one is jealous.

 

I wasn't implying that at all. I said it wasn't surprising, because girls didn't find me attractive in the past earlier.

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I wasn't implying that at all. I said it wasn't surprising, because girls didn't find me attractive in the past earlier.

 

Kids bully and say things they don't mean. The adults here do. You gotta learn to separate the two.

 

I remember when I was new to town, this group of mean girls changed some of the lyrics of the GNR song "Welcome to the Jungle" and sang it at me...it went something like "...we got all the ugly girls..." They constantly called me names like that.

 

Was I an ugly kid? Nope. Not even close.

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Oh please. :rolleyes: No one is bullying you here. No one is jealous.

 

 

I DID find it a bit catty for you to say that you had looked again and her nose was fine, her PLASTIC SURGEON did a good job, lol. Was it neccesary to throw that in ?

 

Regardless, a person with body dysmorphic disorder posting picks for strangers to " judge" has got to be one of the unhealthiest things I've seen on this site !

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I DID find it a bit catty for you to say that you had looked again and her nose was fine, her PLASTIC SURGEON did a good job, lol. Was it neccesary to throw that in ?

 

I don't think she meant it catty. Shadow has mentioned in the past she has had a nose job, and her nose does look fine. Actually Shadow would look great! It's just her lack of self confidence shines through, which makes her look miserable.

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