Sarah1977 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 No guys ask me out period. I guess the only exception is this one guy over 50 at my work who is married with kids and way below average. Well, it's probably not your looks then. Like I said, it's probably your approachability or some vague vibe you're giving off. Which is an easy fix with some practice!
sumdude Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I think you're attractive and have very kissable lips. The pictures don't really do you justice and like some others have said it may be more your attitude than anything. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You have very strong faetures, I'm curious to know your background. My family is from eastern europe and I've been told I have an exotic look. Which works for some women and not others. Just know you'll never be attractive to everyone. That's the way of the world. There are woman who many guys find attractive that I don't see that way and vice versa.
Star Gazer Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I'd say average. You could be above-average if you used the right makeup (bad bad lipstick color, it's washing you out) to give yourself a glow (you look like it's mid-February and you've never seen the outdoors), did your hair, and had a pleasant facial expression (i.e., SMILE!!). The purposeful seriousness and pouting of your lips to look sexy does nothing for you. In other words, a significant improvement would come from just a few minor tweaks/effort.
Author northern_sky Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Well, no. But then again, I didn't find a single feature of hers to be significantly above average either. Which is why I called her average. She's dead center. Her features aren't ugly, but they're not amazingly super beautiful either. To me, an attractive person would have to have features that are significantly better than the average. Her lips are nice. But I can go to the mall, throw a brick, and hit 3 girls with STUNNING lips. Her eyes are nice. But I can walk into a restaurant and probably pick out 4 girls with eyes that will knock my socks off. Again, I don't think there is anything WRONG with her. I think she's more than capable of snaring a decent looking guy. But if you guys are saying she's hot enough to snag a Brad Pitt lookalike with a million dollars, I think you're just being silly. I guess the answer (if you don't want to be called names or accused of being a troll) is to not comment on threads like this unless you're willing to lie or unless you sincerely believe the OP is attractive. Sorry if I made anyone upset. Won't happen again. For what it's wroth OP, the last guy I saw was what most would agree is very, very attractive. So I wouldn't say I can't EVER gain the interest of attractive men or men in general. The problem is that I have huge long dry spells of no interest from any guy whatsoever. Which leaves me with little experience.
Star Gazer Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Her face is symmetrical and well-proportioned. She's generally youthful in appearance. In all honesty, that's something I have to disagree with. I think she looks a lot older than 27, at least in these pictures. If I didn't know better, I would have guessed around 35.
bayouboi Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Seems to me most of the female responders are saying you're average to below average while most of the male responders are saying you're average to above average. So unless you're looking to score with chicks, I'd go with the responses of the male posters. If you're really not getting asked out, it's likely due to some unapproachable vibe you're giving off. I can't imagine an available guy shrugging off a woman as pretty as you are if you were to appear open to his advances.
Author northern_sky Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 My skin is naturally very, very pale. So that's not something I have much control over. I don't believe in tanning, because I know it has bad effects on the skin.
Sarah1977 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 For what it's wroth OP, the last guy I saw was what most would agree is very, very attractive. So I wouldn't say I can't EVER gain the interest of attractive men or men in general. The problem is that I have huge long dry spells of no interest from any guy whatsoever. Which leaves me with little experience. Then why so worried?
Author northern_sky Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 In all honesty, that's something I have to disagree with. I think she looks a lot older than 27, at least in these pictures. If I didn't know better, I would have guessed around 35. Wow... That probably makes me feel worse than anything else written on here.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Again, I don't think there is anything WRONG with her. I think she's more than capable of snaring a decent looking guy. But if you guys are saying she's hot enough to snag a Brad Pitt lookalike with a million dollars, I think you're just being silly. No one has said that, so if anyone is being silly, it's you.
counterman Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 It could be that vibe you give off... In reference to those pictures, if I saw you somewhere, I would just say "yeah, she's pretty" in my head and then move on. One of my friend's friend is this really gorgeous girl. However, the vibe she was giving off is "approach me and I'll bite". Maybe try a more proactive approach? Just start talking to guys that you might be interested in.
Author northern_sky Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Poll: do you guys think I look my age -- 27?
bayouboi Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 My skin is naturally very, very pale. So that's not something I have much control over. I don't believe in tanning, because I know it has bad effects on the skin. Don't sweat this. Everyone has their own preferences. I love women with pale skin and red/brown/black hair. I find that combo to make the intimate areas stand out more. Others prefer women of a different shade.
Sarah1977 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Seems to me most of the female responders are saying you're average to below average while most of the male responders are saying you're average to above average. So unless you're looking to score with chicks, I'd go with the responses of the male posters. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Slow down there, cowboy. What the males here say only matter if the OP would find them attractive. If OP finds X, Y, Z guys ugly as all get out, it's absolutely irrelevant (although likely) that they find her drop dead gorgeous. What is relevant are whether or not the guys with the level of attractiveness she prefers find her equally as so. OP should browse through so pictures of my male friends, pick out the ones she thinks are date able, and then find out if they think she's cute. Kidding!
Mattock5656 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 My skin is naturally very, very pale. So that's not something I have much control over. I don't believe in tanning, because I know it has bad effects on the skin. I like pale skin. Point being, some guys like that... You know that its bad for you , so don't worry about it. I don't think you want your skin to look like leather when you get older.
Philetus Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I'm curious as I feel like I have no clue anymore. Please be honest, but don't assign me a number. Just in broad terms. I'll only keep this up for a bit, but there are some crappy webcam photos I took of myself here. Obviously poor quality and not especially flattering, but hopefully you get the idea. Thanks. I think you're definitely above average in attractiveness in terms of your face. I can't see your body. However, based on what I can see, I would date you in a heartbeat.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Poll: do you guys think I look my age -- 27? You have some serious self-esteem issues. What does 27 look like, anyway?
counterman Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 No, I honestly thought you look younger, about 22 or 23.
denise_xo Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Poll: do you guys think I look my age -- 27? I thought you were slightly younger.
counterman Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I agree with Tim. It has NOTHING to do with your appearance. NOTHING.
bayouboi Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Whoa, whoa, whoa. Slow down there, cowboy. What the males here say only matter if the OP would find them attractive. If OP finds X, Y, Z guys ugly as all get out, it's absolutely irrelevant (although likely) that they find her drop dead gorgeous. What is relevant are whether or not the guys with the level of attractiveness she prefers find her equally as so. OP should browse through so pictures of my male friends, pick out the ones she thinks are date able, and then find out if they think she's cute. Kidding! Sure, I will concede that point to you, "cowgirl". Just realize my point is also true about your opinion of her being irrelevant unless she's looking for a little female play.
Author northern_sky Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 You have some serious self-esteem issues. What does 27 look like, anyway? Yeah, I do. But I asked because Stargazer said I looked 35, so I was curious to hear other opinions.
Sarah1977 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Sure, I will concede that point to you, "cowgirl". Just realize my point is also true about your opinion of her being irrelevant unless she's looking for a little female play. Yes, I would agree with that as well. Ultimately, my opinion should be irrelevant too.
welikeincrowds Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Well, no. But then again, I didn't find a single feature of hers to be significantly above average either. Which is why I called her average. She's dead center. Her features aren't ugly, but they're not amazingly super beautiful either. To me, an attractive person would have to have features that are significantly better than the average. Her lips are nice. But I can go to the mall, throw a brick, and hit 3 girls with STUNNING lips. Her eyes are nice. But I can walk into a restaurant and probably pick out 4 girls with eyes that will knock my socks off. Again, I don't think there is anything WRONG with her. I think she's more than capable of snaring a decent looking guy. But if you guys are saying she's hot enough to snag a Brad Pitt lookalike with a million dollars, I think you're just being silly. I guess the answer (if you don't want to be called names or accused of being a troll) is to not comment on threads like this unless you're willing to lie or unless you sincerely believe the OP is attractive. Sorry if I made anyone upset. Won't happen again. I often think, especially when I see threads like these, that it must be hard to be a woman. I appreciate that you are forthcoming with your opinion. But think past the topic for a second. What is it that you think you could say that would help her? It reminds me of a scene from Mad Men where Joan tells Peggy to put a bag over her head, look in the mirror, and honestly assess where her strengths and weaknesses are. This is someone who fears for her self-worth. I realize that she "asked" for this, but she clearly doesn't understand what attractiveness is -- and neither I, nor you, nor anyone really understands it either. A webcam photograph is often a far cry from being with someone in person -- how many online dating threads do there need to be in this forum as evidence? That's not just from the bad lighting, the abusive color spectrum. Affect, grace, charm. Presence. Presence is completely absent. I look at my exes and I still think they're pretty, in this very detached sense, but at one point I was enchanted in them. "What did I ****ing see in her?" Who knows? But I will say this: OP, I hate your haircut, and I hate your shirt.
Sarah1977 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I appreciate that you are forthcoming with your opinion. But think past the topic for a second. What is it that you think you could say that would help her? It reminds me of a scene from Mad Men where Joan tells Peggy to put a bag over her head, look in the mirror, and honestly assess where her strengths and weaknesses are. This is someone who fears for her self-worth. I realize that she "asked" for this, but she clearly doesn't understand what attractiveness is -- and neither I, nor you, nor anyone really understands it either. A webcam photograph is often a far cry from being with someone in person -- how many online dating threads do there need to be in this forum as evidence? That's not just from the bad lighting, the abusive color spectrum. Affect, grace, charm. Presence. Presence is completely absent. I look at my exes and I still think they're pretty, in this very detached sense, but at one point I was enchanted in them. "What did I ****ing see in her?" Who knows? If you noticed, I said similar things to the OP in many of my posts. However, I suspect a lot of people skimmed right over those comments before calling me a troll.
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