Am I average, attractive or unattractive?

[counterman]

I think you're pretty but I reckon your expression doesn't do your face justice. Smile!

[OceanGirl]

I wish you haven't done this. Personally, I would never have the guts to put my pics up and ask to be judged by strangers.

 

As I already told you, I definitely think that you are above average.

[jerbear]

I love the hair color, that by itself brings you to above average/beautiful. Again I am partial towards red hair.

[northern_sky]

I love the hair color, that by itself brings you to above average/beautiful. Again I am partial towards red hair.

 

what about without it?

[Jannah]

Based on those pics, I honestly think you have a really pretty face and a great complexion.

 

Maybe smile a bit more and less "zombie-esk" poses.

[LisaLee]

Above average, but you could be hot if you get your confidence together.

[ScreamingTrees]

I don't understand.. you're certainly not ugly, as I feel there are FEW truly ugly people in this world.. Are you just going out of your way to pick out negative facial qualities to dwell on because of your own insecurities due to a lack of success or something? You have to keep on trying like the rest of us.

 

Do you really think that things like make-up and dying your hair are going to somehow magically "poof" away your facial features permanently? It'll cover it or divert attention from it temporarily, sure, if anything, but it won't truly alter anything unless you look to plastic surgery.. (Which is clearly a no no..) You shouldn't HAVE to work particularly hard to look like something you're really not at the end of the day just to pique some guy's interest..

 

You have to be comfortable in your own skin, don't bring attention to facial features and talk about them as if they're universally regarded as ugly and that's set in stone, because it certainly isn't.. Beauty is not an objective thing. Look, you've got mixed messages so far, some people find you attractive, and yet one or two don't.. Seems like that'd be the case for most people, online or offline.

 

Most people are average in the eyes of the majority and beautiful to a select minority, and the hard part is figuring out who's a part of that rather small minority..

 

So just be yourself, go to places that hold your interest like book stores or bowling alleys or whatever, you'll probably naturally attract a great guy that holds similar interests to yours just by contently doing your own thing. I hope my advice helps you somehow, I probably ain't the best person to look to for advice related to things like this..

[runner]

I'm curious as I feel like I have no clue anymore. Please be honest, but don't assign me a number. Just in broad terms.

 

I'll only keep this up for a bit, but there are some crappy webcam photos I took of myself here. Obviously poor quality and not especially flattering, but hopefully you get the idea.

 

Thanks.

 

if that's how you look in an obviously amateurish photograph quality, then i'd say you're pretty attractive.

[TheMENemy]

IMO you are very attractive but whoever took those pix is a horrible photographer.

[TheMENemy]

I appreciate your honesty. Really. But I'd appreciate it even more if you told me what about my face makes it slightly below average? I promise I won't take offense or debate it. I'm just honestly really curious. Thanks.

 

 

You need to smile; do something with your hair; the shade of lipstick you're using isn't doing it for me; maybe some other make-up things to highlight your features.

 

Your body language is also bad. Looks like you are impatient, tired, crabby, and don't want to be approached.

[TheMENemy]

Oh by the way the chick who said you were only a five must be smoking crack or something.

[good_vibes]

I'm curious as I feel like I have no clue anymore. Please be honest, but don't assign me a number. Just in broad terms.

 

I'll only keep this up for a bit, but there are some crappy webcam photos I took of myself here. Obviously poor quality and not especially flattering, but hopefully you get the idea.

 

Thanks.

 

How do you have no clue anymore? How often are you approached by men and asked out/hit on/etc?

 

I am a photographer and light, makeup, outfit, camera angle and even attitude play a HUGE difference. Many models are unrecognizable out at the grocery store, etc and some would even be called "average" without being done up for a photo shoot.

 

Also, there's personal opinion. A lot of people think Benicio Del Toro is the hottest thing since sliced bread. I would say he's average (at best). And I like Latin men!

 

It's not what others think of you anyway, it's what you think of yourself. People telling you that you are attractive or you aren't won't matter, because 1,000 people could tell you that you are, and 1 person could say you aren't, and you would focus on the one person that said you were not (as you already have). If you have self-confidence within yourself, what others say or think doesn't matter.

 

It seems from your photos that you don't feel confident about yourself. If you don't feel attractive, what would make you feel more that way? A new hairstyle, a makeover, wardrobe change, workout routine? Then tell yourself you deserve it and go do those things ASAP!

[loverofloveandstuff]

goodvibes - Great post!

[OceanGirl]

Oh by the way the chick who said you were only a five must be smoking crack or something.

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100% agreed. I think that "chick" may be an old user with a grudge hiding under a new user name...

 

How can anyone possibly find the OP average or below... Seriously?

[northern_sky]

How do you have no clue anymore? How often are you approached by men and asked out/hit on/etc?

 

I am a photographer and light, makeup, outfit, camera angle and even attitude play a HUGE difference. Many models are unrecognizable out at the grocery store, etc and some would even be called "average" without being done up for a photo shoot.

 

Also, there's personal opinion. A lot of people think Benicio Del Toro is the hottest thing since sliced bread. I would say he's average (at best). And I like Latin men!

 

It's not what others think of you anyway, it's what you think of yourself. People telling you that you are attractive or you aren't won't matter, because 1,000 people could tell you that you are, and 1 person could say you aren't, and you would focus on the one person that said you were not (as you already have). If you have self-confidence within yourself, what others say or think doesn't matter.

 

It seems from your photos that you don't feel confident about yourself. If you don't feel attractive, what would make you feel more that way? A new hairstyle, a makeover, wardrobe change, workout routine? Then tell yourself you deserve it and go do those things ASAP!

 

I don't know what would make me feel confident. I'm surprised my lack of confidence shines through so clearly in pics, but it's good to know.

[desertIslandCactus]

I'm curious as I feel like I have no clue anymore. Please be honest, but don't assign me a number. Just in broad terms.

 

I'll only keep this up for a bit, but there are some crappy webcam photos I took of myself here. Obviously poor quality and not especially flattering, but hopefully you get the idea.

 

Thanks.

 

Average. With need for more eye makeup for special occasions.

 

Can appreciate the somber look for assessment purposes.. But I'm sure a smile brings out your personality and lights you up a bit more..

[northern_sky]

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100% agreed. I think that "chick" may be an old user with a grudge hiding under a new user name...

 

How can anyone possibly find the OP average or below... Seriously?

 

I'll admit the below average responses surprised me a little, but I still appreciate the honesty behind them. I guess it's just that even when I'm feeling unattractive or ugly, I always try to tell myself "that's just you being overly self critical." This was the first time since childhood I've heard somebody call me below average, but it makes me think I need to revamp my whole self image since it's probably out of touch with reality, in that I try to believe that I'm at least average.

[northern_sky]

do you guys think my eyes are my worst feature?

[Sarah1977]

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100% agreed. I think that "chick" may be an old user with a grudge hiding under a new user name...

 

How can anyone possibly find the OP average or below... Seriously?

 

See, OP? This is why I was so reluctant to answer you and probably why a few others won't answer as well. You might not have gotten mad, but others would. Hence me being accused of 'smoking crack' or being another poster with a grudge.

 

I wasn't trying to be hurtful, just honest. Like I said before, I personally see nothing wrong with being average. Like I said before, I'm average as well and totally happy with it! I would never want to hurt your feelings or anything. I hope you believe me.

[counterman]

I love your eyes; I think they have a sparkle quality to it.

 

Hun, you look absolutely fine. If you want to change your image a bit just for a bit of a change, then go for it. Though, I'm telling you, it's not gonna do anything great for you internally.

 

If you smiled in those pictures, it would have made you look 100 times more attractive.

 

But, I want to know, why did you start this thread? What's the reason behind it?

[ScreamingTrees]

You're looking anywhere but at the camera in most of those pictures, but your eyes are pretty.. why go out of your way to look for negative things to pick on? This way of thinking is out of touch with reality and it's only going to drive you crazy if it hasn't already.. :s

[Barby]

do you guys think my eyes are my worst feature?

 

I think your eyes are one of your more attractive features to be honest. I don't know you and have no reason to offend you or try and hurt your feelings and since you're asking here is what I think......

 

You hair was in extreme disarray in your pictures and you seem to have a slight gap in between your front teeth.

 

Now with that being said......you can easily change your hairstyle/color in a matter of minutes and the space in your teeth isn't enough to be concerned about really.

[TheMENemy]

do you guys think my eyes are my worst feature?

 

Those pix are terrible but from just looking at them I think your hair is your worst feature. You could do a lot more with it, that might set you back some $$$ though.

 

Now clearly your best feature is those LIPS.

[denise_xo]

I don't know what would make me feel confident. I'm surprised my lack of confidence shines through so clearly in pics, but it's good to know.

 

I know it's a line repeated ad nauseam, but confidence DOES MATTER. (Lack of) confidence shines through very clearly both in pictures and in real life. Yes, physical appearance matters, too, but the two are intertwined in ways that questions like 'which part of my face looks good' don't really do justice to. A person who projects a healthy 'I feel good within/about myself' attitude automatically scores two or three points higher on the attraction scale. To a great extent, we are what we tell ourselves. I don't know what would make you more confident, either, but it might be worth thinking a bit more about.

 

Your eyes are really pretty, btw, and you have luscious lips.

[OceanGirl]

I really like the eyes as well.

 

I may be the only one, but I even find your expressions to be artistic and interesting.

 

I think that low confidence comments are from the fact that you aren't looking at the camera. This is essentially the same as having a conversation with someone but being afraid to look them in the eyes.