fun2bewith Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Currently I am staying in her home country (I am from another country) and she is in Toronto 20 hour flight away (she will be studying there for the next 4 years). We were together for 14 Months. She visited her home country twice a year for a month at a time, and then we made the most of the time spend together. We skyped 3 – 8 hours a day. The story Last week I got such a strange feeling and called her and asked her if she needed to tell me something, she said she realized that we could never be together because of the distance and confessed that she kissed a guy that she has been seeing for 2 weeks now. She told me that she cried afterwards and told the guy that she still loves me.. We spoke for 3 hours and I was really calm about it and comforted her, I did not feel the need to damage the one I love. She told me she loved me so much and misses me so much and she just can’t stand the lonely feeling. (asking me if she is making a mistake and that she is so confused.)And a real sincere cry, but when I told her we need to break up and we could not talk again for min 3 months she did not react at all…No feeling… It is now 8 days into NC and I do not know if I did the right thing…She will probably date this guy now. I am missing her alot.. Will she ever contact me again? Does she miss me? Will this guy replace me?
Knittress Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) Do you think being tied to skype for 3-8 hours a day is any way to live your life? You can love someone very much and not be able to be in a relationship with them - it's the stuff of great romance novels after all. Of course she loves you and she misses you, but she doesn't seem happy with the situation. The situation, not necessarily you. Try to take some comfort in that. And that even when people move on, it's not like there aren't things about old loves that aren't missed, or that people stop caring about each other. Just because you miss her doesn't mean it wasn't the right thing. Edited November 2, 2010 by Knittress
utterer of lies Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Will she ever contact me again? Lets hope not. Does she miss me? Yes, but Will this guy replace me? Yes. Him or somebody else, but you will be replaced.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Do you think being tied to skype for 3-8 hours a day is any way to live your life? You can love someone very much and not be able to be in a relationship with them - it's the stuff of great romance novels after all. Of course she loves you and she misses you, but she doesn't seem happy with the situation. The situation, not necessarily you. Try to take some comfort in that. And that even when people move on, it's not like there aren't things about old loves that aren't missed, or that people stop caring about each other. Just because you miss her doesn't mean it wasn't the right thing. Thank you, your message did bring things into perspective for me...I just wish in a few years we could be together and everything will work out...
Author fun2bewith Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Lets hope not. Yes, but Yes. Him or somebody else, but you will be replaced. Thanks that was good that you told me, but it hit me a bit hard...I should have asked: "how long will it take to be replaced?" Thanks for the input....
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