flowergirl85 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) For the past six weeks I was seeing this German guy in his late 20's. He was very romantic and affectionate towards me and I thought it was special and was falling for him. The problem was that our relationship status was confusing since we only went on two dates and would mostly see each other at parties and hook up. Last week I confronted him at a party about our relationship status. He told me I was the first girl he had such strong feelings for and he was falling in love with me; his longest relationship was 2 weeks! But the downside is he is looking for a girl who is completely going to rock his world and he thinks that I am not it. He basically thinks that our relationship is not going to be forever. I asked him why and he could not answer. I asked him if he was attracted to me and he said he was very much attracted to me. He also said that he is afraid that I am going to fall for him. But when I told him we can just continue having casual sex, he got offended and said that our relationship is more than sex and there is def an emotional aspect and he really enjoys spending time with me. He also gets jealous when I talk to other guys and keeps asking me who is calling me when I pick up my phone. He was very drunk as well throughout the whole conversation. Another thing is he is in the US for six months, but he said that is not the real reason. After that I ended up staying over at his place and we had sex. I was really nice to him and ended up cleaning up his apartment after the party and cooking him breakfast and stuff. But now I really regret it. I feel like I was so nice to him and gave him everything, but he played me and was just interested in sex. Should I stop seeing him and move on? Or should I confront him? Edited November 2, 2010 by flowergirl85
mogul Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Cut off sex, honestly, it makes us guys rethink our priorities.
that girl Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Oh Jeez. For the past six weeks I was seeing this German guy in his late 20's. How old are you? He told me I was the first girl he had such strong feelings for and he was falling in love with me; his longest relationship was 2 weeks! But the downside is he is looking for a girl who is completely going to rock his world and he thinks that I am not it. He basically thinks that our relationship is not going to be forever. I asked him why and he could not answer. I asked him if he was attracted to me and he said he was very much attracted to me. He also said that he is afraid that I am going to fall for him. But when I told him we can just continue having casual sex, he got offended and said that our relationship is more than sex and there is def an emotional aspect and he really enjoys spending time with me. He also gets jealous when I talk to other guys and keeps asking me who is calling me when I pick up my phone. He was very drunk as well throughout the whole conversation. Another thing is he is in the US for six months, but he said that is not the real reason. He is telling you that he does not see himself in a relationship with you, but with just enough mixed message to keep you hanging on. I was really nice to him and ended up cleaning up his apartment after the party and cooking him breakfast and stuff. But now I really regret it. I feel like I was so nice to him and gave him everything, but he played me and was just interested in sex. Should I stop seeing him and move on? Or should I confront him? What would you confront him about? You agreed to casual sex. Cleaning his place is something that I have seen several girls do early on in a relationship and you know what? I've never seen a guy appreciate it. It always ends up being something he takes for granted because you're a woman and women are still culturally expected to clean up after men. It isn't that I think everything should be "What have you done for me?" but there is a big difference between making you both breakfast and cleaning his apartment.
Author flowergirl85 Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 I am 24 years old, he is about 3 years older than me. The thing I hate is he keeps me hanging and does not appreciate me. I am considered very attractive and social and there are many guys in our social circle who are envious of him. So I really do not understand why he is not interested in me.
mogul Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 So why are interested in him? Its not worth the effort, especially for a girl. You seem like you have options, why don't you look for something healthy and positive instead of something thats draining?
Author flowergirl85 Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Yeah I guess I really thought this could work. He seemed really romantic, affectionate and boyish compared to the other alpha males who are usually interested in me. So I thought for a while that he would not be a player.
jerbear Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 6 months, casual sex, you're into him more than he is to you. Cut him loose. The casual sex would be great but you will be in a world of hurt when he finds the girl who rocks his world later on. Plus he would use you like a rag.
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