health Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 My exes new dude threatned me - I ignored him - should I have got to him? Basically I messaged my ex saying hope all is well with you and yours all is good and forgiven - after being split for almost 2 years - she rebounded with this chump 3 days after our split after 5 years + So he messaged me and threatened if I msg her again he'll kick my teeth down my throat etc - I ignored him - cause I know where hate and anger leads - let him keep that and destroy himself - She even said he was angry. This was over a month ago - part of me wants to tell him this - your getting my sexually sloppy seconds - ha ha at kissing her - she called me 8 months in her relationship with you and I ignored her - her Mom said she doesn't like you - you're an alcoholic and dealing with an untrustworthy girl I know I won't write this back to him, but I feel messed that he stole my girl and has the nerve to say this to me. Again - I told her I forgave him for what he said - still I didn't reply to him. They deserve each other losers. Just venting. I hate this - I have to learn to totally forgie and let go, cause anger does more to hurt me then them.
PegNosePete Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Ha. Sounds like he is extremely insecure. Maybe she has cheated on him already with someone else, or is giving him reasons to be suspicious?? It doesn't sound like their relationship is healthy at all. Just sit back, grab some popcorn and watch karma take its course!
strength-abounds Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Save the message. Find someone to kick your teeth out. Tell the cops it was him. Just a suggestion.
Leandro Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 How about this? Save the message. Find someone to kick your teeth out. Tell the cops it was him, then sit back, grab some popcorn and watch karma take its course! hehe. JK don't do that. Just trying to make some people smile.
leftfield Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Health, judging by his reaction I think you've metaphorically kicked his teeth in already. All you did was send a little message calmly expressing your forgiveness, and he's seething with anger. I'd chalk that one up as a victory to you, my friend haha. By the way, the guy sound like a dick. Jealously issues anyone? He must be fun to be with.
leftfield Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Health, judging by his reaction I think you've metaphorically kicked his teeth in already. All you did was send a little message calmly expressing your forgiveness, and he's seething with anger. I'd chalk that one up as a victory to you, my friend haha. By the way, the guy sound like a dick. Jealously issues anyone? He must be fun to be with.
Gdunkman Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 How about this? Save the message. Find someone to kick your teeth out. Tell the cops it was him, then sit back, grab some popcorn and watch karma take its course! hehe. JK don't do that. Just trying to make some people smile. That's a tricky plan, but how will you eat your popcorn if your teeth are kicked out?
carhill Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 What exactly compelled you to text your ex? Why isn't she a non-person to you now, after two years? Why feel the need/desire to 'forgive'? Is the 'chump' the same guy who's been with her for these two years? Him 'threatening' you is a separate issue, and there is probably history there, as well. Has he proactively threatened you before?
Leandro Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 That's a tricky plan, but how will you eat your popcorn if your teeth are kicked out? True. I was pretty tired when I said that.
Author health Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Thanks for the funny replies guys! LMAO! PegnosePete- Ya. It's funny cause I told him when I found out she hooked up with him. "I never knew my girl could go to someone else so quick! I trusted her and had faith. You stole my girl, and now you know something I didn't - she can easily leave you for someone else! Good luck buddy!" lol he must be paranoid as hell - something I wasn't. I also told him how I was single for 2 years as was she before we met and it was special how we met - unlike them - rebound! lol I'm happy sometimes I got rid of her - no job, no motivation -5 years + of that. Strength-abounds - LOL, I actually wanted to save the message - and file a police report on him - when I knew him and all was "cool" I was told he had an assault charge. Leandro- HA HA leftfield- thank you man I appreciate it! For sure - "I'm laughing cause I see what hate does" right? I'm just committed to being in empowering mind states most of the time now. I get angry too - but he and her have issues - and relationships are what two individuals bring to it. Her and me were creative and artistic together - when I did talk to her 4 months in - she said she felt numb and hasn't drawn the whole time. I know I tried my best and believed in her dreams. Ya, it sometimes buggs me that she went from what we had to being with a guy with no job who drinks, smokes weed, no education etc. Whatever though. gdunkman- tricky isn't it lol Carhill- What compelled me was - I was drunk and just wanted to say peace to her - I regret that bad. Your right - as why isn't she a non person to me now after 2 years. You know how it is though - there is no time frame for healing - I was no contact with her for 1 year and a half when I did this - and believe me should not have. People break up after 10 years - I don't care if it takes me another 5 years to completely heal. Since the break - I got a raise from work, dated 3 girls, completed 2 major projects, read alot - did basically everything to heal and grow. I did slip though with this nc break. She is sometimes still on my mind but I haven't cried about it in months. Yes, he is the one with her for this time. Him threatening me - he never did that before - he is a clown. I know happiness and healing is my responsibility. It's just challenging when you looked for so long - thought you found someone to help you through life's challenges - long term over 5 years and it breaks down. I learned many lessons through this - like independence - financial and emotional, and picking the right girl next time. I'm focusing on me and healing still. I have faith I will find a great girl.
strength-abounds Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Keep that faith of a good woman, brother.
collegeguy_24 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I'd say get a restraining order, show the cops the message, and ruin his life for good. Its all legal and he can't touch you.
Author health Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 That's what I would have done. I've since deleted the message. I'm just gonna let go of it all and move forward. I've accomplished alot today and feel great!
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