mustangsb27 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Ok, so why would a girl that you broke it off with (she was essentially using me while waiting for some dude out of town to divorce his wife, unbeknownst to me. Details in another thread) and basically asked her to delete my number and defriend me on facebook, keep my number and not defriend me? She's left up pics of us and everything. I had blasted her on a facebook post about how disappointing she was etc. Why would she keep contact info? I'm going no contact right now but left the avenue open for, I don't know, something. Probably stupid, but anyway, why won't SHE cut ties? Any ideas?
skydiveaddict Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) If you didn't have that silly facebook account in the first place, you would never have to wonder. It's nothing more than a worldwide "snitch" network Edited November 2, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Trovador Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 With due respect, sir, why are you complaining?... If you really wanted her out of your life you'd take real measures to achieve that... But you still have a soft spot for her, so stop complaining and accept whatever crumbs she might throw at you... Tell her: "Contact me ONLY if you are marrying me. Otherwise, don't bother yourself". You'll see if she doesn't defriend you asap... Good luck, sir!
Lost Fish Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 She won't defriend you because you've shown her how weak you are - you are too weak to even block/delete her yourself. She holds all the power over you and knows you can be her #2 option if her beloved married man ever comes around. It's a mess and the longer you pine after her the more respect you lose in her eyes, and even in your own. Start taking control back in your life and take some initiative. Stop being a puss.
WTRanger Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 She won't defriend you because you've shown her how weak you are - you are too weak to even block/delete her yourself. She holds all the power over you and knows you can be her #2 option if her beloved married man ever comes around. It's a mess and the longer you pine after her the more respect you lose in her eyes, and even in your own. Start taking control back in your life and take some initiative. Stop being a puss. Exactly. Who cares why she won't do it. Why won't YOU do it?
curiousnycgirl Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 When I snapped, as I've chosen to call it, I sat down and defriended every single person who had both my ex and I as friends on FB. This included people who I have known my entire life. No explanation - nothing - I just removed them as friends from my profile. The only people I gave a heads up to were those who's children might get upset that I removed them (meaning I removed the kids) - so I called the parents and just gave them a heads up - thankfully that was only 2 people and yes the kids noticed and were upset. A couple of people noticed and asked me about it - I explained that ex could get to my pics/profile through theirs, so I had to do it, and they understood. Had they not, I would have said tough. So I agree with the above - why don't you just defriend her and be done with it? Oh and why oh why would you EVER rant about anyone on FB?!
LovelyDaze Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 why don't you just defriend her and be done with it? Oh and why oh why would you EVER rant about anyone on FB?! No kidding! My mouth was open in complete awe! EVERYONE is responding just right. mustang, YOU need to take matters in your hands and delete her. Like one of the comments said, you will not be taken seriously if you keep hanging on to her on FB. Let. Her. Go. Trust me, when my ex dumped me last year, I held on to his FB for a little while. I checked to see what he and his new GF were up to and it killed me every single day. He knew I could see his posts and occasionally would throw me a "like" on a comment of mine just to throw me a bone. In hindsight, he was being arrogant and keeping me as a backup choice in case his new GF didn't work out. You don't deserve to be second choice to anyone! You will feel so much stronger if you delete and block her from your FB. She will more than likely think, "Oh my God....he deleted ME!!!!!!" It will speak louder than words.
Author mustangsb27 Posted November 3, 2010 Author Posted November 3, 2010 Boy, you guys are right. It's just seems so final. I know there are a jillion other people out there. I just hate having to go through all that "selling yourself" scene out in the dating world again. Let me get over this and I'm sure I'll be ready for further punishment before long. Take care, now.
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