michaelramos Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Ok so I'm wondering is it weird that I have never had a girlfriend or never kissed a girl before at 17? Most of my friends have girlfriends and I feel kinda left out. My plan is to focus on my studies and get into a good university, but I'm worried if I don't get enough practice with girls I will never be good at dating? I'm also pretty shy and find it hard to talk to girls, I'm also kind of a geek and I'm into sci fi and fantasy stuff. Theres a pic of me, is it because I'm ugly that girls don't like? http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=10gczu1&s=7
Leandro Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 No you're not ugly. Its fine to not have a gf or kiss before the age of 17. Yes, focus on your studies to get in a good university where there are a lot more girls.
Star Gazer Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 You are definitely not ugly. You're pretty cute for jailbait. There's nothing wrong with not having had a girlfriend at 17. You'll grow into your own eventually, when it's right for you.
Sabali Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) No, man, don't worry about that. Be comfortable with yourself and don't get self-conscious about it. It is normal. I came from an environment where I was pressured to hit on girls and have girlfreinds at an early age by adults. That pressure was no fun and it really bothered me for a while when I was young. Once I got away from that environment and started mingling in other circles, I found out that it was normal not to have girlfriends at such an early age. Just have fun. Do flirt but I wouldn't worry about having a girlfriend right now. I would at least flirt so you won't be 40 years old coming here asking how to approach a woman. Edited November 2, 2010 by Sabali
Author michaelramos Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 How tall r u? If I had your face, I would probably score with girls left n right. I'm 5 ft 8 Do girls like tall guys?
hearttobreak Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Surprised the girls are not all over you ripping your close off. Chill with the sci-fi stuff around the girls though.
Sabali Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Surprised the girls are not all over you ripping your close off. Chill with the sci-fi stuff around the girls though. True. Stay away from Star Trek conventions or you will never see what's under a girl's hood!
Leandro Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I'm 5 ft 8 Do girls like tall guys? Most like tall guys.
Sabali Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) Most like tall guys. Well, that's what they say but when you look around, all of these hot women are not hugged up with tall guys. I think confidence and things like a good sense of humor wins out more, personally. This week is a week of reflection for me for some reason. Anyway, I am 6'2 but some years back, I remember going to this training session for when i was just starting out on the path of my career. When I walked in and met the other trainees, there were a few hot women that was going in the class. I was by far the tallest guy. The other 3 guys were 5'7 and shorter. Well, the most unattractive looking guy wind up dating the most beautiful girl in the class and probably one of the most beautiful in the building, the shortest guy had the most women chasing after him for the years that we were there, and the guy that was slightly taller than him at 5'7 got laid the most over the years. What they had most in common were confidence and a relentless sense of humor. Edited November 2, 2010 by Sabali
Aflac2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 No it's not weird. I was in the same boat as you in high school. I didn't even go to prom because I couldn't get a date. It's not weird and there's nothing wrong with you. I guess it's just harder for some ppl. This isn't very encouraging, but one thing I will tell you is that it doesn't get any easier as you get older. I finished high school 8 years ago and I still have trouble with women. You're certainly not the only one with this problem, but everyone is different, things can get better and you never know what the future holds. Maybe you'lle have better luck in the future.
Leandro Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Well, that's what they say but when you look around, all of these hot women are not hugged up with tall guys. I think confidence and things like a good sense of humor wins out more, personally. This week is a week of reflection for me for some reason. Anyway, I am 6'2 but some years back, I remember going to this training session for when i was just starting out on the path of my career. When I walked in and met the other trainees, there were a few hot women that was going in the class. I was by far the tallest guy. The other 3 guys were 5'7 and shorter. Well, the most unattractive looking guy wind up dating the most beautiful girl in the class and probably one of the most beautiful in the building, the shortest guy had the most women chasing after him for the years that we were there, and the guy that was slightly taller than him at 5'7 got laid the most over the years. What they had most in common were confidence and a relentless sense of humor. Well that makes me feel a little bit better since I'm 5'7.
counterman Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Nothing wrong with that man. Focus on your studies, get into a good uni and do well. No need for the pressure on yourself about getting a girlfriend. You can't jump from finding it hard to talk to girls to having one in a matter of days or weeks. It takes time and even some the most experienced of us are still single. I recommend just getting comfortable talking to girls. That would be great. So, talk to more girls e.g. in class, supermarket, etc. just to get use to it. If you start to feel uncomfortable, set yourself little milestones. It might sound lame, but back when I was in secondary school, I use to really force myself just to say hello to the girl I liked because I was so damn nervous and shy. But, slowly, I improved and conversation was easy. You're not ugly, it's not your height, so don't let that get you down. You'll be right man.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 No it's not weird. I was in the same boat as you in high school. I didn't even go to prom because I couldn't get a date. It's not weird and there's nothing wrong with you. I guess it's just harder for some ppl. This isn't very encouraging, but one thing I will tell you is that it doesn't get any easier as you get older. I finished high school 8 years ago and I still have trouble with women. You're certainly not the only one with this problem, but everyone is different, things can get better and you never know what the future holds. Maybe you'lle have better luck in the future. I'd like to echo this comment. It's all very well saying telling this guy to relax and not worry, but at the same time he can't afford to rest on his laurels. OP, when you are at school or university, it is the best training period you will probably get for learning how to flirt with, and pick up, women. You will lucky to be around so many members of the opposite sex and of a similar age and interests after graduating. Personally I think you need to start becoming more proactive. Flirt with girls, ask them out, go to parties etc. Get to know lots of girls and socialise where they socialise.
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