michaelramos Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Ok so I'm wondering is it weird that I have never had a girlfriend or never kissed a girl before at 17? Most of my friends have girlfriends and I feel kinda left out. My plan is to focus on my studies and get into a good university, but I'm worried if I don't get enough practice with girls I will never be good at dating? I'm also pretty shy and find it hard to talk to girls, I'm also kind of a geek and I'm into sci fi and fantasy stuff. Theres a pic of me, is it because I'm ugly that girls don't like? http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=10gczu1&s=7
skydiveaddict Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) It comes natural my friend. Don't worry over nothing. Edited November 2, 2010 by skydiveaddict
purgatori Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 1. Don't listen to people who tell you 'it comes naturally.' There is no cosmic force at work that is looking out for your interests. Your fridge won't magically re-stock itself, air won't fill your lungs unless you breathe, nor will your thirst be quenched without raising a cup to your lips -- the same goes for finding a relationship. 2. Do listen to people who tell you not to worry. At 17, it's nothing to get vexed over.
denise_xo Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 You look good, michael, you just need to smile You have a pretty face and nice eyes. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 20 or 21. It only gets better as you get older, IME. I don't think you should worry, but it might be good for yourself (not only for getting a girlfriend) to work on overcoming that shyness.
kidneyguy Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I'm a sophomore in college and I have never been kissed, held hands, and so forth, but I think I'm doing alright. And in a way, I think I'm better without that stuff, since I'm probably too busy for a girlfriend at the moment. Also, you're not ugly, I'm ugly. Just being perfectly honest, and I accept my ugliness. It will happen sooner or later, and it will happen sooner when you don't worry about it so much. Happy hunting!
raedx2 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 OK I am almost twice your age, very very shy , not a geek or a kind of a geek, sure UGLY,so I never had my picture uploaded anywhere,,,, and I Never had a gf before , break this barrier sooner then later or it would become permanent , don't let the idea getting a gf impair your life but try to get one soon I'm worried if I don't get enough practice with girls I will never be good at dating? your absolutely right, and it's not only "to be good at dating" but also for your self esteem and self confidence,,, good luck
Green_eyes Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Don't worry!!! When I was your age, I felt exactly the same - looking back with the benefit of 20/20 hindsight I also realised that I missed some opportunities but that's life. My first kiss was at around 17, but my first serious girlfriend didn't come along until I was in my early 20s. I recently dated a girl who was quite a bit younger than me (23), and she had never been kissed. So there are loads of people out there who all have different experiences at different times.
tb24 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I was *exactly* the same. I never even kissed a girl until I was 20! I wouldn't worry too much. One thing I will say, is the more you worry about it the more pressure you put on yourself and the harder it gets. "It will come naturally" certainly was not the case for me. I found it very difficult. In the end I just put myself in every social situation I could and became less shy. I still am, but to nowhere near the same degree. My single biggest mistake was crushing on one girl yet remaining far far too shy to actually talk to her. I ended up basically putting blinkers on myself. If I interracted with another girl I just didn't even consider any signals she was giving me, looking back I missed several opportunities that way.
JMX29 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I've never had one and I'm 24, so nothing unusual. 17 is still young.
forestofcheem Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 you're cute and not having a gf isn't so bad. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 16 and i wished i would have waited. trust me, there are lots of people out there in the world.
MexicanBillBacker Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Ok so I'm wondering is it weird that I have never had a girlfriend or never kissed a girl before at 17? Most of my friends have girlfriends and I feel kinda left out. My plan is to focus on my studies and get into a good university, but I'm worried if I don't get enough practice with girls I will never be good at dating? I'm also pretty shy and find it hard to talk to girls, I'm also kind of a geek and I'm into sci fi and fantasy stuff. Theres a pic of me, is it because I'm ugly that girls don't like? http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=10gczu1&s=7 I have a similar problem. I'm a sophomore in college and I've never had a girlfriend or been in a relationship of any kind. The thing is I'm a force of nature when it comes to hooking up at clubs, bars, parties. I think I'm actually undefeated...I don't think I've ever been rejected at a club, well maybe a couple of years ago when I was young and didn't really know how to go about the whole pick up thing, but right now I'm like the Oregon Ducks, top of the BCS. But seriously it seems like every time I have my sights on a girl I hook up with her, once I hooked up with 2 sisters on the same day. The thing is...I'm not a very sexual person, my sexual drive is pretty average. I mean I can definitely rock a girl's world in the bedroom, and I've been the MVP in most of the bedrooms I've been in. But the thing is I don't really care. I'd much rather get to know someone and have a good time going to dinner or something of the sort...I've never kissed a girl I love and it feels kind of ****ty. I've only been close to being in a relationship once, a couple of months ago. And it was seriously a mind**** that I haven't been able to get over quite successfully. And I just feel far away from being in a meaningful relationship...I wonder if it will ever happen and it makes me feel ****ty, because having a family, and a girl I can make happy every day is all I really want.
tylo Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 It sounds like you might be love-shy. Don't listen to the people who tell you not to worry. Or it will happen. There are guys in there 30's 40's and even 50's who have never had a girl friend or experianced their first kiss yet. Here's a link to check out Being 17 is a good time to start working on it. Since it's not weird yet at your age. But as time passes the older you get the harder it will be.
griffinchicken53 Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 i'm 30 and never really had a girlfriend. but i will give you some words of advice people tried to give me and i was too stubborn. in high school i felt pressure to find someone, "if i don't find someone now, i never will" that was in my teens in high school, went through that in my 20s. i'm not saying bury your face in a book and never talk to anyone. it's easier to get the school stuff out of the way. it's easy to date at any age, but the longer you are out of school the harder it gets to go back. i missed alot of opportunities because all i could think was "get done with school so i can have a social life and meet someone" i closed alot of doors focusing on the wrong thing. high school is 4 years, college could be 2-6 on average, so say you could be done with school by mid twenties, work towards having a good job, a house or apartment, etc. there are limited job opportunities, the more education the better. most entry level jobs want you working all day every day. a better career would probably give you more opportunities to have time off, be able to go on dates, etc. if i could go back and change things i would. so not only did i not get to date at all, i put myself in a position that i might not get to for a long time. long story short....if you happen to meet someone along the way, then go for it, just don't dwell on it and let having a gf be your only focus. good luck to you.
painfulxsistense Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 i didnt lose my virginity until i was 17 she was 23. i had an older gf when i was 14 she was 17 she was sexually active and "built" but i was content with kissing. i fell hard in love with her without ever having sex. she moved away to a neighboring city and i hitch-hike 25 miles to see her. and when i get there she is with an older guy i was heartbroken her mother was really impressed. lol i was scarred i have had a trust issue with women ever since! relax. when you do find a girl she will be happy to find a "virgin". trust me girls love to be the "first" so look at it this way you have something xtra to offer a girl that perhaps your friends dont. it sure as hell aint nothing to be ashamed of. i promise .
HeavenOrHell Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 Michael, please don't feel pressured to have a gf, you're only 17 My partner didn't have a gf until he was 26 and I was my ex's first gf when he was 20, we were together 18 years. I really like shy geeks, I'm with one now No, you're not 'ugly', far from it. Don't ever compromise who you are just to follow the crowd, only do things because you WANT to/choose to, without any peer pressure. Ok so I'm wondering is it weird that I have never had a girlfriend or never kissed a girl before at 17? Most of my friends have girlfriends and I feel kinda left out. My plan is to focus on my studies and get into a good university, but I'm worried if I don't get enough practice with girls I will never be good at dating? I'm also pretty shy and find it hard to talk to girls, I'm also kind of a geek and I'm into sci fi and fantasy stuff. Theres a pic of me, is it because I'm ugly that girls don't like? http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=10gczu1&s=7
shayan Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 ola I had my first girlfriend when I was 17 ha, and she was aight. I think the question is would you like to have a girlfriend if so, then it may be appropriate to start breaking out of your shy bubble? Yeah start doing things that make you feel uncomfortable but will help you grow and be more effective with the opposite sex. My assignment for you talk to some new girls this week at school, 3 new girl minimum. You don't need to impress them or hook up with them just try carrying a conversation through.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I'm 28, and never really had a girlfriend. It's definitely not weird at all.
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