sanskrit Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 And ignore Sanskrit. Lots of women will just stop responding to you if they feel like you have some unbreakable weekend plans. It screams "You are the piece on the side." OP, "that girl" has dated 0 women. I have dated 100-150 over the last 30 years. That Girl dislikes my advice because it implies that women are not in fact privileged principessi, but rather mere human beings just like everyone else. Note that despite the quotation marks, nothing in my prior post suggests to treat women as if they are a "piece on the side." Funny how they just make up things out of thin air isn't it? OP, use that streak of irrationality they have to your advantage by keeping them off balance. To paraphrase, "an idle -female- mind is the devil's workshop," keep them wondering and off-balance, and they won't have time to engage in their amusing brand of "anti-logic" that inevitably works against the man in early dating. A woman who feels she needs to chase to have a chance with a man isn't quite as full of herself as usual, and is much more manageable and even enjoyable to deal with. When women are interested, they may still play little power/flake games , but they will never stop talking to you merely because you don't ask them out on weekends during the early dating period if they are even moderately interested unless they are bat-sh*t crazy, and if that's the case, good riddance. Once more, a weeknight date is not a different kind or level of date. On early dates < 5 say, there is no "level" or kind of date that is better than any other. I have had lunch and brunch dates where things became hot fast and weekend dates when things didn't work out. If you happen to be online dating, every schmo on there is trying to compete to take the women out on weekends. Be different and it will make an impression on the smart ones, because they are doing the same thing. There is a thread here where a smart, attractive woman mentions doing the exact same thing I am telling you to do. This is not a hard and fast rule, if there are good reasons to have a weekend date early, by all means, but please reconsider your assumption that a weekend date is a "better" date from the man's perspective.
Author hearttobreak Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 Texted her back and we agreed to next Friday @ 7:00 PM. I offered to pick her up, but she said she'd feel better if we met somewhere local. Said no problem. I asked her to pick a place then. She said let me think about the different places we can meet and I will get back to you soon.
sanskrit Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Cool, she is definitely interested in getting to know you more, so that's good. Don't leave any balls in female courts such as where to meet though in the future, make everything "yes" and "no" for them, but that's really NBD. In fact, suggest you wait a bit, then just ignore her "get back to you" and text her a suitable meeting place. "Hey want to meet at X? They have good Y I've been craving for awhile" or "That area is convenient for me, is it good for you?" etc. Best wishes.
Author hearttobreak Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 That was why I pushed to secure a time and day. Running after her any further would not look good. I was thinking of letting it soak in for a few days and calling her Monday or Tuesday to firm up plans. One thing though, she is getting faster in responding to my texts. It used to take 10 - 20 minutes to get a response, now all are under five. That's a good sign I think. Let's just hope she doesn't cancel... I am not going to let this one go without a fight. I think we really clicked on the first meet.
dispatch3d Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 She originally said she's going to move things around and then, two days later, can't do it. It sounds like a string. Just keeping me around but has low interest. Again, after I said maybe another time, never heard back. So, it sounds like a low interest situation. If she was interested, she could had suggested Friday, but suggested an early dinner on Sunday. overthinking and overanalyzing. Stick with sunday if she flakes THEN you say okay I've had enough.
Author hearttobreak Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 overthinking and overanalyzing. Stick with sunday if she flakes THEN you say okay I've had enough. Way past that bro.
welikeincrowds Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 One thing though, she is getting faster in responding to my texts. It used to take 10 - 20 minutes to get a response, now all are under five. Are you a troll? Dude, what the ****. You really need to start developing a sense of humor about this, fast. None of this **** matters. At all.
Author hearttobreak Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 No, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn once.
BobSacamento Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Weeknights are far superior for date nights than weekends. 1. If it turns out to be a horrid date at least you didn't ruin your weekend. 2. Weekends should be free for looking for new dates. Parties, bars, concerts, etc. Weekends are prime time to find women. 3. People are usually free on weeknights. Less chance for "Let me get back to you."
sanskrit Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 No, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn once. Haha, perfect reply to the troll calling you a troll.
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