qinboxmail Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Okay, I met my gf about two months ago. I love her but I can feel that she doesn't love me a lot. She told me that before she wanted a serious relationships and run into guys that go nowhere. So now when I dated her she doesn't care about a relationship anymore. She's having a mistrust in guys. We've been together for two months. What could I do to change her mind ?
Surrealist Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Find out exactly WHY she feels the way she does and doesn't trust guys and then be the guy that is the exception. I'm not suggesting showering her with gifts or being clingy to her, but if she has been burned by guys that have mistreated her one way or other, then be the guy that treats her well.
nice-easy-day Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 then be the guy that treats her well. That pretty much sums it up. It's a matter of building trust and showing her that you are trustworthy. That doesn't happen in two months with this type of girl but if your willing to put the time in you may find yourself a wonderful relationship!
Surrealist Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Yes and additionally, if you do enquire and your gf opens up to you, ensure you do not judge her or criticise her thoughts or thinking. Sure it may not be correct thinking, but judgments and criticism will likely guarantee she closes right back up again. Sometimes, actually probably most times, it is better to listen and acknowledge her points than it is to find solutions to set her right, and worse still, lecture.
Woggle Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Get out now while you can. You will be made to pay for the sins of every man who has hurt her and you will get stomped all over.
sanskrit Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Unfortunately when they say things like this, it often means they just aren't feeling it where you are concerned. There isn't anything you can do to change that other than back way off and give her tons of space and try to cultivate some other options. When people say things like that, they really aren't valuing the person in front of them.
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