stamfordman Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I met this chick on OKCupid. We email back and forth twice then she suggests to meet for coffee. Said sure, why not. Last Tuesday, she said how's tomorrow work for you? Said it worked fine. We met at the place she seemed very into me, smiling and laughing. She was going away for the weekend, but as I was settling up the tab, I asked are you interested in doing something next week? She said yes. I said what time is a good time to call. She said anytime after 6. I walked her to her car and hugged her good bye and she kissed me on the cheek. Even said again, call me next week. The next day, I texted her saying I had a great time and I look forward in seeing her again soon. She replied about a couple hours later saying she also had a great time and we need to get together again soon. Well, today, I called her and it went to voicemail. Let a message and have yet to hear back from her. What happened? My mind boggles me on this. As, if she was just playin' when to see me next week, why say it twice and tell me when to call? When I texted her the next day, why not say then she was no longer interested? Called about 2 hours ago, so don't know.
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Chances are she has more than one line in the water, so to speak.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 If you think that's flakey, I had what I thought was a great first date with this girl. At one point she had her knee resting on my thigh and she was very flirtatious. At the end of the date we French kissed and she agreed to a second date. I thought I was onto a winner. Second date comes and she's suddenly gone quite cold. In spite of me thinking she's acting funny and not interested, I ask her for a third date and she agrees without hesitation. Last thing she said to me was "see you next Saturday". That was the last I saw of her! I texted her a few days before the date to ask when I could pick up on Saturday (I'd tried calling the night before with no response) and she texted back with some crap about wanting to be friends. Some women are like that. Hot one minute and cold the next. THis girl had ample opportunity to launch me, but she continued to string me along and agree to go on dates. And it's not the first time it's happened to me. I can think of at least three occasions where the girl - not me - has suggested meeting up again, then flaked out later on.
mmk1 Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Ah, this is one of my most recent questions too. I met three girls recently on OKCupid, went on 2-3 dates each, had them sitting on my lap, sticking their tongues down my throat and holding my hand all night. Then, when I follow up for another date, its no. The answer to the question is, who the heck knows why a girl flakes? I have no idea and sometimes it is simply lack of chemistry on their end. Anyway, it doesn't really matter why and I just move on. The most powerful word in dating is Next! There is always another bus coming along in 15 minutes. And so it goes.
SilentVoice Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I really don't want to add to the "guys do this as well". People in general are just flakes. Had a guy from OKC contact me. We write back and forth. I give him my number after he mentions we should meet for coffee. He writes me the next day. We text back and forth. He mentions coffee but never sets anything up. A week later he starts back texting me again. And sets up a date for coffee. I tell him to contact me the day before to set up a time. I have yet to hear back from . Haha I really don't want . My point is that , people flake all the time. Please don't take it to the heart. :-)
Lemontang Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Yep most of us have had it happen to us before and some of us have been the flaker as well. Wasn't until recently that I'd actually ever flaked on someone. I was openly dating some people and on meeting one she chose to contact me the following day to say she had a great time and would love to catch up with me again. I reciprocated the same and said I'd call in about a week... 2 months later I'm still yet to call her (and don't intend to since I'm now in a relationship). For me I was just being polite, I knew from our 1st meeting I didn't have any real chemistry with her and didn't want to hurt her feelings (but then in not following up I'm guessing I did eventually, though she never did try to chase me up either). Another girl I'd dated around this time flaked on me. We had a fantastic 1st date (well I did) and we made plans to catch up for dinner at her request. Now she ended up canceling since she had kids and blamed the ex for not taking them, ok fair enough these things happen even though it occurred twice in a row, on the 3rd attempt when I txt'd her about rescheduling she never responded and I never followed up again...but I'm glad too as I clearly dodged a bullet when I saw her facebook with wedding photo's of her and her ex, was clearly still holding a torch for him.
Krytie TV Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Sounds kinda clingy to freak out after 2 hours. Maybe she was in a place that was not good for talking about a date and wanted to wait until she was able to wrap it up. Happens all the time.
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