Question about this situation, yo

[Aceismyname]

(might be confusing in nature due to lack of actual names)

 

I live in NY and went out Saturday in the city with a bunch of friends for Halloween festivities (bar hop, clubs). Had to go to Jersey to see a friend and drove in with him and his work friend. They were in contact with a girl they work with and her friends and I was expecting to meet up with some friends I got as well. Just basically wingin it all night and see who gets together.

 

They were telling me about this girl (the co-worker of theirs) and they said shes pretty hot, and was out with her friends. I guess she was having a ****ty night and she was ready to leave. Her friends left but my friends (my buddy and his work buddy) convinced her to stay and meet up with us. So my friend went to get her and they came back. They didnt lie, she is pretty hot. Someone id consider my type I guess, but I didnt look too far into it. We were all just drinking and shooting the **** on where we should go next, etc. I only talked with her for a little bit just about her name, whatever, nothing big, wasnt even really paying much attention to be honest. I did notice she was making good eye contact and smiling, whatever. So we had a group of maybe 12 people and somehow we all split up to go to this other place way across Manhattan. It was cold as hell this weekend in the city (anyone that lives in NYC can attest to this) but I was with my two friends and some dude we just met, just making our way to the new bar/club.

 

We were maybe 5-10 minutes behind everyone else but we get there and we all meet up inside. We go upstairs (place is huge) and everyones dancing,whatever. Most of us had just met eachother for the first time but everyone was cool and fun and everyone seemed to have "picked" someone. Im not really sure when I noticed "hot girl" started giving me some attention. None of us were really that drunk if at all, maybe buzzed but thats it. We all started dancing and whatnot and I started dancing with her. Again, I cant really remember when I had started thinking she was into me, the nights kinda a blur somewhat. Some of us go to the bar and she always asked me if I wanted to go get some air (upstairs had a rooftop where it was cooler) so we go there. My friend and his work friend came with (these two and her all work together). We decide to get more drinks so we order and she gets me one too. My friend's co-worker dude said to me "yo I think so and so likes you" and I was like "yeahhh I kinda noticed that myself" and then I noticed she was behind us and came over. Kinda laughed about it, not sure if she heard us. So we all do a toast and take our shots. She only drinks half of hers and gives me the other half for some reason. Then we start chatting it up about whatever and I noticed she had some major eye contact with me going on. She took my hat off and put it on her head, talked about it and then i got it back and she took my hand and led me to the dancefloor. We danced for a while (close) got hot and then went for another break. Started talking about Lady Gaga or whatever, then I think we went for another break but this time with a girl we just met (part of the group). We all kinda stood around cooled off, and I think I walked around aimlessly just trying to find the others, see what was going on. We were there for awhile and basically way too long for me to put anything in order of how it happened. She followed me alot, I remember taking her hand after dancing and taking her downstairs (huuuge place, lots of walking) and we met up with everyone else and they were sitting on couches. We both stood there for awhile and then I took the last spot on a couch next to my friend. She basically did the same thing on the couch across ours.

 

It was this point on where I was trying to piece what was going on with me and her, if she was interested in me, whatever. Next thing I remember is splitting up again and everyone went back to dancing and my friend started dancing with my other friend (i introduced them) and then we went downstairs and she had to leave, so my friend was gonna go with her. Was there for about 20 minutes just talking, and then they left and my friend gave me his keys. I go back upstairs and walk around and notice "hot girl" was talking to a guy but kept walking to where the others were. We ****ed around for probably another hour and then we all decided to leave. We all walk out and I just noticed me and "hot girl" had a sort of distance. At this point im thinking maybe it was because we split up and never found eachother or that she was showing major interest and I was showing some but not enough. Leaving her and seeing her talking to another guy (actually a group of guys) didnt surprise me one bit. It was in the back of my mind a little but nothing too much. So then the rest of the night there was a sort of distance as I said earlier.

 

Took us about a half hour to finally get a cab cause theyre *******s and we get to my friend's car (one i rode in with from jersey). We go to Brooklyn cause we had to drop people off and "hot girl" had to go home (Back to jersey) and my friend had to take her. She was sitting in the back but asked me a question during the ride about something (pretty good one, im thinking maybe to find out about me), because I had told her when I first met her, if she knows a friend of mine from college that works with them, then she's cool or whatever, so basically just about how we all know eachother. We get to my friends apt and its kinda funny cause I went with the girl I introduced my friend to (we basically swapped I guess you can say). He had "hot girl" and I had "his." They were dropping me and "his girl" off so we said our goodbyes and I hugged "hot girl" and you know the works, "it was nice to meet you, etc." So then my friend couldnt get our friends apt door to open so we left and then decided to try it one more time (she gave us the keys to her room while her and our other friends were still in the city) so then we go back. On the ride there my friend whos driving asks "hot girl" who shes texting so late and she said "that guy" and then he says "who?" and she says "that guy i was talking to when i said id be back in 5 minutes" (im thinking its the same guy i saw her with). Definitely noticed that and not sure what was going on with that. So we try to get the door open again, wouldnt work. So then they tell me to do it and I open it, and we go upstairs and my friend takes "hot girl" home.

 

I also found out today after hanging out with my friend again (from jersey) she thinks the guy she met is "dumb" and he asked her why she gave him her number and she i guess said it was for entertainment. Im thinking maybe she did that out of spite to me or something? I dunno.

 

So whats going on? did I blow any chance I had by not A) asking for her number B) hanging out with her more after we split up

 

Was she genuinely interested in the first place?

 

Its odd because she was definitely giving me her undivided attention the whole time at the club. She was like, following me and ****. She felt like my date even though it wasnt planned (everyone kind of picked someone that night).

 

Sorry its so long, I have been outta the game for awhile and was honestly NOT expecting this girl to all do this. From the sound of it early on, she just wanted to go home and my friend and his co-worker (all 3 know eachother from there) had to literally convince her to come out with our group.

 

If youre wondering whether I regret not asking for her number, the answer is yes. My friend and his coworker friend both said she was open game all night, and to hook up with her (in which i was telling them in return about my friends)

Edited November 1, 2010 by Aceismyname

[Ella whispers]

F&%$ her dude, sounds like if she's game everyone else has. Probably not the type of chick you really need to call to get it, just give her attention and don't walk away, at least not w/o saying "be right back" and actually be right back.

 

If you date her, she sounds like she will be needy and or crazy.

[Aceismyname]

Well as for the guy she was talking to, im pretty sure she didnt initiate that. She wanted to go home until she came with us and didnt stray too far from anyone. I know guys, and they approached her cause she was by herself (and attractive)

[Aceismyname]

When my friends told me about her, I didnt expect her to basically hang out by me the whole night and show signs of interest or flirt.

 

She was really upset and wanted to go home before my friend convinced her to stay (and did they have to). My friend told me today that she said she had a really fun time though.

 

She really wasnt acting like someone who didnt wanna be there.

[Aceismyname]

F&%$ her dude, sounds like if she's game everyone else has. Probably not the type of chick you really need to call to get it, just give her attention and don't walk away, at least not w/o saying "be right back" and actually be right back.

 

If you date her, she sounds like she will be needy and or crazy.

 

 

Huh???

 

no idea what you said there